In need of advice All opinons welcome ( Archived) (4)

ok ok ok.... As I'm posting this new thread or what.... I have a serious but unique question and I'm pretty sure i will get a bunch of opinons on this I welcome them.... Alright you ladies and Gents: I have 2 children my first one is 1yrs of age and my second one is 5 monthz... Now give and Take me and my childrens mom have had our ends and outs. Meaning disagreementz or what not.. But I've sat up here and tried to be supportive and give her advice.. And it's like she's really to sensitive and takes things personally... And when I say sensitive and taking things personally I mean just those two words.. I was raised with both of my parents together married or what not.. Where as her parents were not married.. And we touch a topic about a month ago of where she had told me her dad had beat her mother.. And I was like " Wow hun I'm sorry to hear that had happened... And she was like ok , like I said we had our issues and I told her I was like : I would think that me and you should be able to work together for our childrens sake to where we can get along.... even if we don't see somethings eye to eye we can sit down and come to a positive aspect or agree to disagree.... and it's like she took it personally and I tried to tell her looki'm not being rude or even trying to come out that way i'm jus personally saying" WOuldn't you want a better life for our children then what you had when you was coming up?" I told her time and time again.. I understand that she could possibly never relate to the way I was raised but just b/c I had that moral support system from my family.. What women wouldnt appriciate a man that tries to do the right thing meaning...That yeah I pay child support but by that same token I still wanted to be with her and I wanted us to raise our children together as 1 rather than her have to go at it basically by her self or seperate... And she took it like i was personally attackin her when I asked the ? "wouldn't you want a better life for our children then what you had... Now keep in mind I'm 24 years of age and she is 25 yrs of age.. So i'm like ok "shes older than I am so she should understand exaclty where I'm coming from cuz they say " a women matures alot quicker than a man" So my honest questions are these.. Why did she tell me that she didn't want to be with me anymore? LMAO she chose a 22 yr old guy over a man that laid down with her(meaning me) I'm the one that laid down with her and she gave birth to my two lil girlz and left me for someone younger... I really don't get it and I told her this I'm ok you wanna be with someone younger than thats on you i'm not mad @ all I'm hurt that I spent two years with you and its like i felt like you used me to get a child support check and you took things personally that i said but in the sense of reality i was trying to help you out.. and trying to make things brighter...but hey I just need a lil bit of advice please and thanks all opinions welcome!!!! Why would you leave the father of your children to be with someone who is younger and honestly why would a 22yr old take care of two children that he didnt help make when their is a man(meaning me) that wanted the woman and his children in his life? Where did I go wrong>????

Oh brother...

I dont think it matters that the new guy is 22. I think she just doesn't love you, even though you two had two kids together.

I also don't think she understands or cares where you're coming from. Maybe she's afraid you're trying to tie her down. Who knows what is going on in her head.

Don't waste too much time thinking about what makes her tick. Fact is that she chose another guy and you have to take care of your kids. That is really what it all comes down to. My advice would be to go and find another lady who has her act together and loves you. Take care of your kids and try to live a good life.

didn't you make a thread on this already...shes not into you any more move on...