hey what's up guys long time no talk! I hope everyones doing well 2night! So I thought I would post this b/c i was interested to see peoples view points and thoughts.. Ok so how about I've been talking to this woman thats 32yrs old and I'm 25 and it's rather funny b/c we get along extremely well.. and we discussed dating and all.. And like I said I'm not about rushing or moving fast or nothing like that... But my thoughts was does anyone see anything wrong with younger men dating and older woman... I guess alot goes into the equation like maturity, Respect level, Honest Communication, and loyalty, self respect. Which we have all the factors in our corner. But just a lil bit of insight would be nice... Thanks for reading Hope to here some great thoughts in on this.. Thanks
I just had a question What are you guys definiton of a good woman? Tought I'd keep the lines of advice open and why do most men leave a good woman? Esp when they had a bad past? Does ur past relationships make ur new relationship fail? Just in my opinon I think we all go through bad break ups but we always have to be open up to change just in my opinon... so what are you guys insights on that?
Hey Thanks Venusenvy:) and yeah Your right! Why would I not like ur advice and yeah I'm doing better to be honest!! And yeah my kids mom has attempted to make contact! but I don't bother b/c of legal reason.. But Yeah It all work out in the wash thanks again!!
Hey C/s... How is everyone doing today? Well as you all know I've been on here for a little bit.. And currently I'm back on top of my ish.. After going through down falls with my Kids mother.. Even though we don't talk.. Which I'm def kool with that keeps drama out my life... But what I came on here for was soome small advice.. SO I moved on with my life and things started to look up..
I met this White Women who is 26 and she will be 27 in November.. I'm a Black male obviously LOL!! Even though race has nothing to do with anything.. We've been talking for a couple of months and things seems to be going quite well I must admitt..
And She had asked me the other day If i would even consider dating her and possibly settling down with her if that's what the Future held.. She's got two mixed kids and I've got two gurls myself... So I was thinking in my mind Well perhaps This feels like the "Brady Bunch" of some sort.... But I was just wondering what could the pros and cons be.. of me really wanting to have a relationship with this woman seeing that she knows my circumstances and I know hers.. She was telling me she got married at a young age and then later divorced b/c it didn't work they were just not compatabile!
So then she met and older guy that was 48... And they had two kids together.. They didn't work out or what not b/c he didn't like the same things she did.. And I'll be the first to say well when she said she had kids by an older guy I wasn't thinking 48. But each for themselves I guess.. So I was just like well Maybe I should see how this works out so i would like to know what you guys insights are and Thanks , Yella
SO I was just doing some writing earlier and look what I came up with what you think?
Don't ever put yourself in bad situations and then have the ardasity to say "what happen how did this occur" Well for one you didn't evaluate the situation clearly" For Two perhaps you didn't see the big picture.. Always evaluate things before acting.... Have a clear perspective #jus sayin#
SO I was just doing some writing earlier and look what I came up with what you think?
Don't ever put yourself in bad situations and then have the ardasity to say "what happen how did this occur" Well for one you didn't evaluate the situation clearly" For Two perhaps you didn't see the big picture.. Always evaluate things before acting.... Have a clear perspective #jus sayin#
I hope everyone is doing ok today.... I'm in a better mood today.. I just personally want to tell you guys.. Thanks for all your help and all your Advice.. It was great appriciated.... And guess as far as my situations go.. Just take it one day @ a time..
B/c for some reason I'm having this mood swing type of like Loving feeling if that makes any sense.. I guess now I just miss her n it's funny b/c I like *Slick* thing about her & my Kids...And I realize that I gotta change to be a better person... so I can be more invovled in my kids life...And her life if she will allow me..
I guess you can call me a compassionate person... B/c I think like this.. Even though she changed her number I think she personally did me a favor n the sense of giving me time to literally thing.. and perhaps when I get my stuff together hopefully we can get this figured out together.. Cuz really I Can't help who I love.. But yeah I hope God will watch over them and hopefully he can touch my mind n soul and give me better understanding to mentally get through this...
Every thing happens for a reason and thats how I feel and look @ my situation...
Whaz up C/s up? I was reading on the internet... And I was wondering how many people have met this type of person in life "narcissistic" type of person?? And if so What are some of the traits that you seem in them? Just something that kinda ran through my mind in just wanted some feed back & a few Examples! Thanks
what's up C.S.... Ok I need advice for a friend of mine.. LOL And I kinda had to laugh n my mind when he told me about it lol.. Ok him and his G/f had got into an argument... And Words were passed and all that jazz.... And he jumped @ her jokingly.. And She pushed him and ACTUALLY PISSED him off after he got pushed into the wall.. But he looked @ her like " ok" And he asked her did that make you feel good... To know that you didn't get what you wanted? MEaning when I asked him what he meant when he said "She didn't get what she wanted" He said she was looking for him to hit her back.. But instead he turned the other cheek and laughed it off.. So what's the down fall to this? I told him I think he did the right thing by not hitting her back.. What's you gus opinons!
I just got done reading a few things on the internet and the topic was "People holding Grudges" And I found it kinda surreal being honest.. b/c it made me think of my situations.. And I was like thinkin 2 myself.. Well If I can honestly sit up here and Admitt my wrongs and I apologize about things to this woman.. And She still doesn't wanna be like myself meaning "trying to make the first step" by apologizing then I guess you can call that a "Grudge." and My thing is I guess I kinda feel bad.. B/c I stopped calling and checkin on my kids.. For the simply fact of the reason.. Me not really trusting her... And it was just like a "Burnout" on me.. And perhaps it would give her sometime and space that she needs. To see the point that I was their and I did and still do love my kids nothing will ever change that.. But it's like.. I found myself getting Frustrated @ her b/c it's like everything i said in a calm way and tried to talk to her about.. it's just turned into an argument.. So i just said for now I'm going to focus on me... And believe it or not I guess I feel more @ easy when I don't talk to her. I mean sometimes yeah i wanna call.. But it's like she gets "under my skin" with her comments that she thinks is cute.. They always say "Absences make the heart Fonder" Well in this case In my Sceniro "Absences make the heart more Managiable.." So yeah back to the question. Whats really the point in holding "Gruges?" Esp when a person has said their sorry and they admitted ther faults.. But you have the other one who can't even begin to say "I'm sorry" or "I did wrong." Another way I look @ it is... You can hold a grudge inside for so long against a person to where when that person just shuts you out in their mind.. It starts to take a toll on you.. And who wants to hold a grudge against the person if they have admitted their mistakes? ONE word for that is SELFISH and HIGH PRIDE:) Just my thought.. Comments please:)
It's been a long time since I posted on here... So I decided to get back on here just need a small tad bit of Advice...
Why is so hard for people to be stuck in the Past... I know they always say "Your past reflects your Future" But by that same token I find it very Difficult to sit up here and want to do right.. and yet have a person always throwing up in my face " Well back then you didn't want this" or "back then you didn't do this" and my simple response is... and correct me if I'm wrong but.. I told that person "You can either stay stuck in the past" and "Tell me what I didn't do" or you can accept that I'm willing and wating to do better in this present life and wanting to be their for these Kids.. And like I told her.. It's not about The father and the mother as a "relationship whole." It more about being their for these Children.. So that my topic for the day... Forget my relationship LET ME BE THEIR 4 MY KIDS. And quit staying stuck in the past for the Love of God... The only thing I can come up with is... If you stay stuck in the past the only thing you do is prolong yourself and you miss out on Future comings and the benefits that you could of had.. But that jmo...
I couldn't seep To fall asleep There was so much On my mind Searching For that peace But the peace I could not find So then i knew How to pray Praying Helped me please Then he said you Don't have to cry Cause i'll supply All your needs
Chorus: Soon as I stop worrying Worrying how The story ends I'll let go And i let god Let god have his way That's when things Start happening I'll stop looking At back then I let go And i'll let god Have his way
There so much going on Sometimes I can't find my way And often times I struggle Struggle From day to day I have to realize That it's not my battle It's not my battle To fight I have to know If i to put It in his hands That everything Will be alright
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Let go Let god Let go And let god Let go Let god Oh, let go And let god Let go And let god My brother let go And let god My sister You can't handle it Let god Oh, let go And let god Let go And let god Oh, let go And let god Let go Let god Let go Let god Let go Let god Let go Let god Let go Let god Let go Let god
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I think That song touched me.. and it's funny b/c I haven't been to church in a long time.. Even though yes I did grow up in the church... But I kinda went my on lil way.. And it's like my way wasn't getting it... I mean all my forum post are a result of my own actions and Vents and unhappiness... But one thing for sure is... God is always on point not a second late... I seen my lil rugrats tonight and i was just so HAPPY.. And I had to get my feelings out to my childrens mom... I told her that like" she really hurt me.. B/c she was tha only person that I wanted n I wanted us 2 become a family.. But instead like I told her you left me for a guy in prison..... And" I was like .. "Can you imagine how I felt" and she was like "I'm sorry I hurt you" And like she told me one day... "You always move forward and not back" And I quoted it to her... And I was like even though your tha one that said u move forward... Then y are u going back 2 ur past then moving own with your present and ur future?? Hmmm... But I told her I was like I love you and I always will.. And I was like well I guess I gotta "Let go and let God" And I told her to be careful and I let her drive off.. SO perhaps she took underconsideration what i was trying to say.. And maybe when it's all said in done she will try to understand.. But I think one thing that makes me and her differant... Is I've been baptized and she hasn't... So I have alot of Christian behind me. and she doesn't and O how i wish She would walk into the church with me and get saved so we can both put God first and have him as our foundation to where we can both build off of the word of God... But like I said I'm glad i just happen to "bump" into my children at tha laundrymat... So I think God for her not calling the police on me.... O so grateful...:) Thank You Lord for letting me spend time with them cuz they just looked so happy to see me and so was I to see them... Thank you so much Lord!!!!! A happy day thanks begivin to the Lord!!!!!! :) I can actually smile for once !!!!
I think what i just started going through puts a new twist on my whole situation... and it's funny.. b/c My baby mama told me she was getting back with her Ex that she dated be4 me and her had children (Not to mention he's in prison) And I called her to check up on my lil ones and it's like she wont answer tha phone... and I'm thinkin in my mind damn... This woman is so petty and just low down.. I mean I'm kool with not being in a relationship with her cuz she doesnt deserve me.. And I damn sure don't need her.. But I guess cuz she turned 26 on this past sunday she thinks everybody owes her something.... Well not this man I dont owe anyone out here anything esp A women that i have kids with and us not being together... I could careless about me n her being a couple but @least answer tha phone so I can check up on them... and or have enough respect to call me and let me know how they doing then hang up the phone... That's why i say I feel like she is so ignorant and i'm not bashing i'm just stating the Truth... Let a man call and check up on his kids.. Stupid weird ppl errr errrk me 2death!!
I hope everybody is having a gr8 Sunday... I just got one simple question to ask.. What in the World is up with some women who play games.. Like basically using the word "Irony" to describe some women.. Saying one thing but meaning another??? I mean one thing for sure is with me... Say what you mean, don't say one thing expecting me to think opposite.. Whats up with that??? I guess some ppl think men are mind readers.. I'm like Just be real and honest instead of being a liar and "thinking my name is mr.Cleo. I'm not psychic... commentz n opinons
Hello C/S Friends how is everyone doing tonight? Good I hope..
I just thought I would update on my little issues.. I seem to notice about myself.. How I sit up here in my room and think alot about my children and I wonder sometimes If a relationship goes bad with the parents.. Then why is it that when u have 1 parent (Myself) I atleast would look @ myself as a decent Man and wanting to do the right think for my children and be their.. But it's kinda hard when the other parent (babymama)will not answer the phone or even call to let you know how your children are doing.. And I guess for some strange reason I feel miserable REALLY b/c I miss my children and I don't go by to see them b/c between me & her.. We don't get along and I know her she would call the police... and lie.. I was out riding today in the city and I seen this man or what not he had his child and they were walking down the road like holding hands... And I was like Damn I wish I could do that with my children.. I feel like a big part of me is missing and that feeling just point blank Sucks... B/c Yeah I'm pretty sure I can admitt my faults in my relationship with her. I'll admitt yeah I could have changed my ways or what not. Maye stayed in @ times... And I've always admitt that to her and to myself.. But then u look @ her end she has a problem with admitting her faults or always has an excuse.. But never the less the whole point is yeah I dont know when they will set me a court date for visitation rights or what not.. But then i also forgot to mention The child support office said we dont do visitation rights! They just worry about the child support money..So yeah I cant even get home girl 2 pick up the phone or evr give me an update about them so of course it irritates me and i'm like damn what's the problem??? I find it funny that like when I go into stores and the people that know me their Like "Kevin Where your kids @?" or when someone says I seen your kids they are so adorable" I'm thinking Damn @tleast someone other than me gets to see them! Kinda irritating.. Sorry about tha long post!
And I guess i ment to mention the the kids father had died.. and or what not and I just swear up and down that I knew him he was a tad bit younger than i am... And i mean it's like I've always knew the girl for a long time... she's 21 and I'm 24.. And I feel like me and her have alot in common.. Shes a Gemini and I'm a Gemini... We both Got kids... And i think more so say we have this mutual thinking process like magical thinking.. So yeah for once I'd like to make something gr8 come out of it.. b/c I feel bad sometimes cuz I don't get to see my kids.. and I had to cut off the connection with my childrens mom.. and I decided that I would wait until court to get my visitation rights. Cuz she wont bring them by.. And then it's funni cuz with this gurl and her kids I dont know what It is but I just felt so @ ease with her children and her.. like i think what shocked me was when they left after I had closed their door.. Their mom was like K.T. look.. I said huh She's like they want a hug from you.. And I was like I like passing out hugs and then they mom was like thank you for letting us come by... And i asked her if she had a problem with me being their for them and her.. and she was like no not @ all. Ever since her kids dad past..she stayed focused on them and it just felt so different to her to have someone who actually cares for her kids and her besides their dad that's now deceased... So yeah sounds like somewhere in this story it has a happy ending to it for all of us...So Thanks u guys for giving me the oppurtunity to share my story... it just mean alot to me:)
n-m-h juz chillin So i had a "friend" / gurl I'm thinking about dating.. And she came by today and we hung out for about 3hours or so and she bought her kids with her.. And OMG they were so much fun! And me and the gurl have been talking for a lil while... and i just played with her kids and we had lots of fun.. So my thing was for once i really felt different b/c I've never really had so much fun hanging out with a mother and her kids.. not to mention I got my own kids which she aware of... I don't get to see my kids as much or as often as i'd like b/c of issues with the past with my relationship n tha past... And When the girl and her kids left.. Her kids was like can we have a hug??? And her mom was like "awwwww" thats sweet... And she text me and she was like it felt different that a guy enjoyed time with me and my kids.. And i'm like y? She's like it's something that she was not used to.. And I told her well of course I understand u have kids and I accept you and them.. B/c I have kids and if a woman wouldnt date me bc of my kids then she gotta be like "ray charles" and Hit the road... So yeah I would love to give this woman a chance and her kids.. And I got my kids as well... And we both understand tha whole kids aspect.. So any adivce or future recommendations?? I would appriciate it thanks...
I don't like Pathological liars b/c it's just like they start believing their own lies...
And I Don't like Delusional Liars b/c they make up strange Lies and it's kinda like seeing something that's not their and then trying to make it seem so real that the person they are telling it to just cant see their point of view and trying to put a picture with a lie... so that's how I defind a Delusional lie..
Right or wrong and if anyone as ever dealt with ppl like this how did you guys do it?
? ok so i was thinking... If a women gets overally defensive over something and angry... that she says she didnt do does that cause the person to believe shes telling a lie? And when I say this i mean if you tell me you didn't do anything wrong or what not then why are you getting so mad??? "If you truthfully didn't do anything wrong?" what do you ladies think....
hey what it do C/s? So I've kinda been out here keeping to myself since my last post.. But i have an honest question to ask.. The other day I was walking through the mall or what not and this woman thats 28 yrs of age approached me and was like.. Wow your really cute or what not.. And she said i would love to get to know you. And I though she was beautiful as well.. So we exchanged numbers or what not.. and we've talked she's going to college to study pre law.. WOW nice!! lol But my question is this I'm 24 and shes 28... I guess I'm thinking like ok me and her are friends. And if we really hit it off real well would their be an issue with a guy dating a 28 yr old.. She's got a mixed lil boy that's 11yrs old and i got 2 children.. And she had asked me about my past and I told her about things i wouldnt settle for and the things that worked for me.. And it's kinda weird cus she understood Exactly what i was saying... so if this friendship developed into something more.. is their an issue with a 24yr old man dating a 28 yr old woman... Cuz i don't believe in rushing into anything seeing that my 2yr relationship was nothing but pure hell...? I also am attracted to white women (which that's what she is) and she just handles her self alot differently then what i'm used to... Concerning, caring, and it's like we have this perfect vibe that's its almost unreal... The communication is thier, the values is their, She goes to church, the respect is their, it's almost like damn i actually have a good vibe about this... So my question is.. Is it possible for a 28 yr old woman and a 24 yr old to have a relationship... Comments please.. And Thanks:)
I guess you can say I kinda got addicted to posting lol And it's kool cuz i enjoy the feed back... I guess my new question of the day is this: how many people in their past find it hard to be forgving? and the reason y i say that is because.. the last couple of day i had this thought that popped in my head. that I would never fogive my childrens mom for the hurt that I went through after she left me lol.. And i guess when I really sit down and think about it... from a 2 person aspect.. and I tell myself this.. You have to forgive in some situations to be completley satisfied with yourself.. So I guess long story made short here.. She prolly doesn't forgive me in alot of situations but I can honestly say one thing.. I do forgive her and I will always be greatful for meeting her.. B/c I just find it hard to carry on a grudge with a person.. I mean i did do things wrong in my relationship and I can admitt that.. No pity party here just being real.. I forgive her and I will always cherish what me and her had.. And i'm ever so greatful that God allowed her to step into my life and he blessed me with the most precious gift of my lil ones. Sometimes you have to forgive in order to let a heart mend.. so with that being said I do forgive and I will always pray that everything works for her, that God will do his will to make sure that he gives her the strength to carry on in life and be a wonderful person... As well as him blessing me each day to carry on and give me the strength to do whats right.. And I thank the lord for blessing me each day in life. SO yeah that's my post:)
Ok So I just said forget all the Drama I'm fixing to do like the Drake song" I'm Doing me" Forget the babymama drama.. Yellaboii is going to do the best he can for his Kids. And be happy and just be on top of things.. I guess you can honestly say It's called " taking care of responsibilties!!!" And just stay positive. If she comes back fine.. If not still fine.. Who is going to cry over spilled milk.... Always taught You give your best @ a relationship if to ppl fail not to work then it wasn't meant to be.. And thats how I come to terms with myself. I'm not going to let anything hold me down or hold me back... Thank you guys for being respectful and responsive.... May God Bless, K.T. aka yella boii
P/s My kids Need me and I need for them to know that I will always be here to support them and Always love them no matter what! And Their is someone out here for everybody!!!
Ok So I just said forget all the Drama I'm fixing to do like the Drake song" I'm Doing me" Forget the babymama drama.. Yellaboii is going to do the best he can for his Kids. And be happy and just be on top of things.. I guess you can honestly say It's called " taking care of responsibilties!!!" And just stay positive. If she comes back fine.. If not still fine.. Who is going to cry over spilled milk.... Always taught You give your best @ a relationship if to ppl fail not to work then it wasn't meant to be.. And thats how I come to terms with myself. I'm not going to let anything hold me down or hold me back... Thank you guys for being respectful and responsive.... May God Bless, K.T. aka yella boii
P/s My kids Need me and I need for them to know that I will always be here to support them and Always love them no matter what! And Their is someone out here for everybody!!!
Ok So I just said forget all the Drama I'm fixing to do like the Drake song" I'm Doing me" Forget the babymama drama.. Yellaboii is going to do the best he can for his Kids. And be happy and just be on top of things.. I guess you can honestly say It's called " taking care of responsibilties!!!" And just stay positive. If she comes back fine.. If not still fine.. Who is going to cry over spilled milk.... Always taught You give your best @ a relationship if to ppl fail not to work then it wasn't meant to be.. And thats how I come to terms with myself. I'm not going to let anything hold me down or hold me back... Thank you guys for being respectful and responsive.... May God Bless, K.T. aka yella boii
P/s My kids Need me and I need for them to know that I will always be here to support them and Always love them no matter what! And Their is someone out here for everybody!!!
Ok So I just said forget all the Drama I'm fixing to do like the Drake song" I'm Doing me" Forget the babymama drama.. Yellaboii is going to do the best he can for his Kids. And be happy and just be on top of things.. I guess you can honestly say It's called " taking care of responsibilties!!!" And just stay positive. If she comes back fine.. If not still fine.. Who is going to cry over spilled milk.... Always taught You give your best @ a relationship if to ppl fail not to work then it wasn't meant to be.. And thats how I come to terms with myself. I'm not going to let anything hold me down or hold me back... Thank you guys for being respectful and responsive.... May God Bless, K.T. aka yella boii
P/s My kids Need me and I need for them to know that I will always be here to support them and Always love them no matter what! And Their is someone out here for everybody!!!
hey you guys Thanks u for all your positive inputz and responses makes me feel gr8 2know that ppl have the same out look that I do... and i just really do appriciate it.. I feel like I've gained alot of new wisdom and also friends on this site.. So Thank yaw very much and if you guys ever need to talk to me or I can give anyone advice please feel free to give me a shout!! Thanks again and may God Bless each and everyone of you guyz!!!
ok ok ok.... As I'm posting this new thread or what.... I have a serious but unique question and I'm pretty sure i will get a bunch of opinons on this I welcome them.... Alright you ladies and Gents: I have 2 children my first one is 1yrs of age and my second one is 5 monthz... Now give and Take me and my childrens mom have had our ends and outs. Meaning disagreementz or what not.. But I've sat up here and tried to be supportive and give her advice.. And it's like she's really to sensitive and takes things personally... And when I say sensitive and taking things personally I mean just those two words.. I was raised with both of my parents together married or what not.. Where as her parents were not married.. And we touch a topic about a month ago of where she had told me her dad had beat her mother.. And I was like " Wow hun I'm sorry to hear that had happened... And she was like ok , like I said we had our issues and I told her I was like : I would think that me and you should be able to work together for our childrens sake to where we can get along.... even if we don't see somethings eye to eye we can sit down and come to a positive aspect or agree to disagree.... and it's like she took it personally and I tried to tell her looki'm not being rude or even trying to come out that way i'm jus personally saying" WOuldn't you want a better life for our children then what you had when you was coming up?" I told her time and time again.. I understand that she could possibly never relate to the way I was raised but just b/c I had that moral support system from my family.. What women wouldnt appriciate a man that tries to do the right thing meaning...That yeah I pay child support but by that same token I still wanted to be with her and I wanted us to raise our children together as 1 rather than her have to go at it basically by her self or seperate... And she took it like i was personally attackin her when I asked the ? "wouldn't you want a better life for our children then what you had... Now keep in mind I'm 24 years of age and she is 25 yrs of age.. So i'm like ok "shes older than I am so she should understand exaclty where I'm coming from cuz they say " a women matures alot quicker than a man" So my honest questions are these.. Why did she tell me that she didn't want to be with me anymore? LMAO she chose a 22 yr old guy over a man that laid down with her(meaning me) I'm the one that laid down with her and she gave birth to my two lil girlz and left me for someone younger... I really don't get it and I told her this I'm ok you wanna be with someone younger than thats on you i'm not mad @ all I'm hurt that I spent two years with you and its like i felt like you used me to get a child support check and you took things personally that i said but in the sense of reality i was trying to help you out.. and trying to make things brighter...but hey I just need a lil bit of advice please and thanks all opinions welcome!!!! Why would you leave the father of your children to be with someone who is younger and honestly why would a 22yr old take care of two children that he didnt help make when their is a man(meaning me) that wanted the woman and his children in his life? Where did I go wrong>????
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Younger men conversing with an older woman!
hey what's up guys long time no talk! I hope everyones doing well 2night! So I thought I would post this b/c i was interested to see peoples view points and thoughts.. Ok so how about I've been talking to this woman thats 32yrs old and I'm 25 and it's rather funny b/c we get along extremely well.. and we discussed dating and all.. And like I said I'm not about rushing or moving fast or nothing like that... But my thoughts was does anyone see anything wrong with younger men dating and older woman... I guess alot goes into the equation like maturity, Respect level, Honest Communication, and loyalty, self respect. Which we have all the factors in our corner. But just a lil bit of insight would be nice... Thanks for reading Hope to here some great thoughts in on this.. Thanks