.....UNFAITHFULNESS......,BEHIND THE LIES..... ( Archived) (9)

Quite often I see posts/blogs/threads asking the same question,-why are men cheating.And never given an answer,-the question remains unanswered.But there´s a reason(s) for that,-and what´s the reasons(s) behind...???There has to be something.............A midaged man,-married with children,suddenly starts to reflect over his life.The marriage he´s in,isn´t what it used to be,and days turned grey many yrs ago.She´s not the one he once fell in love with,and he knows,-he´s not the man he used to be,-the mirror tells him so....Asking the face in front of him,-"where did all the yrs go,is this what life´s supposed to be like,is that really me staring back"...So he draws a picture of a parallel life in his mind,how it would have been,-if not,-she came along,and if he`d lived his dreams...Years have taken it´s toll,and,-life can´t be relived,just have to face the cruel facts...Until,-a young woman comes his way,-just there,out of nowhere..Giving him compliments he hasn´t heard for ages,and his sleeping heart pounds faster..Can this be real?She tells him so,-and the world got more beautiful....Oh...,how she reminds him,of those long forgotten days,and what he once was,-when he was everything,and the world was in the palm of his hands.......Cocktail at a silent place,-drowning in her charm,-life´s sure worth living..,that "other" life is shut out,and right here&right now,-nothing matters...Yes,-for so long he´s been living up to his husbandly duties,-giving love&affection to his family,...,but there´s been something missing all along the way,-and that something is giving him the eye.And he tells himself,-if I don´t take the chance,it´ll never come again,-nobody needs to know,no-one will get hurt...Just once..just once...Hand upon his leg,and soon,-damage´s done&crime commited..too late..too late...Waking up witha smile...Reborn!King for a day,-guilty forever,...no,-not him,nobody knows,-and after all,he´s a caring man,everybody can make mistakes...,and no-one got hurt...Back at the office,days turn grey as thing´s become normal...til...Bang,Bang...that feeling rocks his body.New injection needed...passions the needle&lust the drug,he fights,but can´t resist..he needs to feel that rush again.Concious not needed,his fulfilling his family duties,-and what she´s denying him,-he´ll find it elsewhere.Proven to himself&the world,-that he can be counted on,-he just shown the world his manhood..Confidence knows no boundaries,insecurity is a stranger..Lines&cracks on his face,15yrs&20 kilos later,-nothing can stop him now..he´s a living proof what life can be...and lack of confidence&insecurity down the drain...........End!Bad confidence&insecurity,-the main source to unfaihtfulness????Yes,-I do believe so....

I knew it be coming...NO-not personal,-but quite close to me.....

I always wondered if a player or cheater cheats because they liked hurting others or if it was a insecurity thing? Thank you for the new info..

...but unfortunately when men cheat, rarely they take responsible for their actions...they keep cheating on their wife/partner, promising that they will leave their wife, keeping the hanging in there with false promising while safely returning home every night to their wives and kids!...they only separate when their wife discovers their cheating and asks for separation..cos if she forgives them they will stay home!

Women aren't much different either to this scenario you have given us. We all want to feel alive and vibrant, appreciated, beautiful. Romance is crucial to a happy life.

I have had the option and offers several times, but the desire was never there, I put Myself in the other persons shoes, What if I found out they had cheated, Keep the wants and desires going in your relationship and you will never have to look elsewhere the same will be true with your mate