unspoken pressure on a date (15)
sarah4everCarlow, Ireland1 Threads 24 PostsI am very unsucessful on dates because You talk to someone nice, texting and calling all week, all is good.Talked so much you they start to grow on you, meet for a date and even though you have warned that is just a date to see if there is chemistry nothin else....you feel PRESSURE! and then if you don't feel attracted to your date you feel like you have kicked a puppy in the nuts. Anyone else the same or am I just doing it all wrong? p.s go easy on me
main thing is to relax
your not askinsomeone to settle down wit u just meet as friends!
your not askinsomeone to settle down wit u just meet as friends!
If I knew the answer, I wouldn't still be on here!
Godsgift: If I knew the answer, I wouldn't still be on here!
What he said.
Dating is the second most stressful and terrifying activity known to man (or woman). The first is actually asking someone on a date.
I did that....it seems it does not matter what I said, like they don't believe me lol
oh no thats the easy bit asking. it's the stupid giggling and talking poo when you first meet. I just go red and want to jump out a window lol
sarah4ever: I am very unsucessful on dates because You talk to someone nice, texting and calling all week, all is good.Talked so much you they start to grow on you, meet for a date and even though you have warned that is just a date to see if there is chemistry nothin else....you feel PRESSURE! and then if you don't feel attracted to your date you feel like you have kicked a puppy in the nuts. Anyone else the same or am I just doing it all wrong? p.s go easy on me
Its kinda like an interview
If you both have a lot in common and theres chemistry
then it will go further if not usually both people
should already know just by the vibe that its
not going to work .
sure if ur not feeling a spark its more grief
for u to keep seeing the person best thing is
just stay friends with them and come to that
agreement
Maybe if you changed the venues of ur dates
so ur both doing something that requires
a physical aspect and not so much talk time
there wouldnt be as much pressure .
where have you been meeting for dates ?
coffee shop ? bar ?
If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. No need to feel guilty.
PASSION8MAN: Its kinda like an interview
If you both have a lot in common and theres chemistry
then it will go further if not usually both people
should already know just by the vibe that its
not going to work .
sure if ur not feeling a spark its more grief
for u to keep seeing the person best thing is
just stay friends with them and come to that
agreement
Maybe if you changed the venues of ur dates
so ur both doing something that requires
a physical aspect and not so much talk time
there wouldnt be as much pressure .
where have you been meeting for dates ?
coffee shop ? bar ?
If you both have a lot in common and theres chemistry
then it will go further if not usually both people
should already know just by the vibe that its
not going to work .
sure if ur not feeling a spark its more grief
for u to keep seeing the person best thing is
just stay friends with them and come to that
agreement
Maybe if you changed the venues of ur dates
so ur both doing something that requires
a physical aspect and not so much talk time
there wouldnt be as much pressure .
where have you been meeting for dates ?
coffee shop ? bar ?
sound advice thanks....usually a bar or restaurant....activity based dates sound like a good idea thanks
sarah4ever: sound advice thanks....usually a bar or restaurant....activity based dates sound like a good idea thanks
Yeah see your sitting accross from each other
and its too much one on one time so early on
Keep an eye open for events that are on close by
theres always something going on just gotta keep ur
eyes and ears peeled
A psychic fair or something like that could be fun
and cheap too
In response to: I am very unsucessful on dates because You talk to someone nice, texting and calling all week, all is good.Talked so much you they start to grow on you, meet for a date and even though you have warned that is just a date to see if there is chemistry nothin else....you feel PRESSURE! and then if you don't feel attracted to your date you feel like you have kicked a puppy in the nuts. Anyone else the same or am I just doing it all wrong? p.s go easy on me
I feel the same, chemistry or not, the pressure is there. If you feel the chemistry you don't want to mess it up. If you don't feel it, you end up with those dreadful moments of silence...
Why it has to be so darn complicated
PASSION8MAN: Yeah see your sitting accross from each other
and its too much one on one time so early on
Keep an eye open for events that are on close by
theres always something going on just gotta keep ur
eyes and ears peeled
A psychic fair or something like that could be fun
and cheap too
and its too much one on one time so early on
Keep an eye open for events that are on close by
theres always something going on just gotta keep ur
eyes and ears peeled
A psychic fair or something like that could be fun
and cheap too
Cool advice
. Next time I have a date, will try going to a fair, if i don't like him, i can always disappear in the crowd 
sarah4ever: I am very unsucessful on dates because You talk to someone nice, texting and calling all week, all is good.Talked so much you they start to grow on you, meet for a date and even though you have warned that is just a date to see if there is chemistry nothin else....you feel PRESSURE! and then if you don't feel attracted to your date you feel like you have kicked a puppy in the nuts. Anyone else the same or am I just doing it all wrong? p.s go easy on me
......................................thats why i meet up early enough ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, once you meet in person you have a better idea of that person , and you can take it from there
sarah4ever: oh no thats the easy bit asking. it's the stupid giggling and talking poo when you first meet. I just go red and want to jump out a window lol
Oh hasn't that just happened to all us guys! You meet a nice girl.You ask her out and the next thing you know the Gardai have you in an interview room asking how she managed to fall out a third floor window!
Godsgift: Oh hasn't that just happened to all us guys! You meet a nice girl.You ask her out and the next thing you know the Gardai have you in an interview room asking how she managed to fall out a third floor window!
lol yeah! ha. I wouldn't really jump out the window ha ha ha
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