Are men/women only good in the beginning of a relationship ? (12)
missha72: why do men/women change or try to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
It's called control!
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Only a fool thinks they can change another person 
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venusenvy: Only a fool thinks they can change another person
I agree with you but how many relationships have we all been in that someone has tried to change us , or mold us into something we are not comfortable with !
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venusenvy: Only a fool thinks they can change another person
Too many Court Jesters about these days.
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bestbefore: Too many Court Jesters about these days.
And thats calling them a polite name
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Insecurity with themselves and a desire to control another person, best reasons I can think of. If a person cannot be completely honest with you and accept you for who you are, is he or she really the one you want to be with? Hell-o no, so either take me as I am or watch me as I go, real simple.
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missha72: why do men/women change or try to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
Could it possibly be that people really do want to find their forevers so they openly welcome each other on the hope that this could possibly be it. Perhaps the desire to find that person clouds people's judgments. It's human nature to be loved and shown affection so people are IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF LOVE itself that makes it irresistible to give people a chance that they shouldn't. Just because two people are friendly, have things in common, etc... doesn't mean they are meant for each other and I think unfortunately people only see that once the newness wears off. Reality sets in. Then they are off to the next or just stay single.
I think it's when people are not wanting to acknowledge that the two of them are not meant for each other, instead of admitting that and being okay with that, and going on their way, because perhaps they are tired of one failed relationship after another that creates the desire to change or mold that person into their ideal partner. Even though it's not the right thing to do, and it never works in the long run, people do this.
I am at a point in my life that if we don't blend and continue to blend naturally then we're not meant to be. Period. Not wasting my time forcing something that is not meant to be.
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Fortuenetly for any woman,being the perfect male specimen in everyway,they wouldnt have to try and change me.
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missha72: why do men/women change or try to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?
you have to work at a relationship all the time.
something that is worth having does not come easy.
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I think we ALL have a good side and a bad side....
weather it just be just moody, or terrible,
and It just takes time to see the bad sides of a person,
so I will say it takes alot of time to really get to know someone...
Some are good at hiding the bad side, until its too late..
Then its like they are a different person...
truth being thats who they really are they just hold it back, and this is hard to accept, as we set High Hopes, and then Find Discouragement when The Real them comes out..
Usually about 6 months, the true persons is seen...
Just from my experiences...
Make sure you have seen their bad side a few times,
then you will know if you can tollerate them for a long duration.
weather it just be just moody, or terrible,
and It just takes time to see the bad sides of a person,
so I will say it takes alot of time to really get to know someone...
Some are good at hiding the bad side, until its too late..
Then its like they are a different person...
truth being thats who they really are they just hold it back, and this is hard to accept, as we set High Hopes, and then Find Discouragement when The Real them comes out..
Usually about 6 months, the true persons is seen...
Just from my experiences...
Make sure you have seen their bad side a few times,
then you will know if you can tollerate them for a long duration.
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HotrodLarrys: I think we ALL have a good side and a bad side....
weather it just be just moody, or terrible,
and It just takes time to see the bad sides of a person,
so I will say it takes alot of time to really get to know someone...
Some are good at hiding the bad side, until its too late..
Then its like they are a different person...
truth being thats who they really are they just hold it back, and this is hard to accept, as we set High Hopes, and then Find Discouragement when The Real them comes out..
Usually about 6 months, the true persons is seen...
Just from my experiences...
Make sure you have seen their bad side a few times,
then you will know if you can tollerate them for a long duration.
weather it just be just moody, or terrible,
and It just takes time to see the bad sides of a person,
so I will say it takes alot of time to really get to know someone...
Some are good at hiding the bad side, until its too late..
Then its like they are a different person...
truth being thats who they really are they just hold it back, and this is hard to accept, as we set High Hopes, and then Find Discouragement when The Real them comes out..
Usually about 6 months, the true persons is seen...
Just from my experiences...
Make sure you have seen their bad side a few times,
then you will know if you can tollerate them for a long duration.
Ooooo Ya the "monsta in the closet" Ive tangled with that one
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we see it time and time again its all a bed of roses until your in a solid long term relationship and suddenly he dosent like the way you dress or you dont like the way he eats with his mouth open .. why do people change so much and want to change each other ?