Who did the inviting for the date? If you did, then its customary to pay for your date.
and if you are not comfortable with that custom, then make it clear it's a "dutch" arrangement to the lady in question.
Generally, I find it rude when asked about the $$$ I make and it's a good red flag that would tell me to continue looking for someone who is not motivated completely by the almighty dollar.
Keep looking..oh and not to burst your bubble, but MEN do the same thing so don't tar and feather please.
apparently hiding posts is a new feature, so now when you solicit input or feedback and you do not "care" for the answers you can just arbitrarily "hide" these things??
Then what's the point of even posting a thread to find out what others think??? Sort of self-defeating if you ask me.
I think thou does protest too much about the true intent of HIS thread.
I see no hornets nest here, unless you are counting your original post into the "nest" factor.
Not touchy at all, find it comical you are insulting women, then turning around and acting all innocent like its supposed to be an experiment or a joke, because you KNOW how you look now...
As a previous poster already pointed out, get comfortable, because you will be here for awhile with posts like this and an attitude like yours. Best of luck because you will need it!
sounds like someone here is complaining and has a case of "sour grapes"...hello POT?? It's Kettle on the line!
Everyone makes mistakes, if you are perfect, you sir, wouldn't be here complaining about women, because you would have already found your "perfect" match.
Get over yourself and stop being such a bitter ball! Not attractive by any stretch..just a piece of advice!
He's just not that into you....move on, cut off contact and accept the truth. If he wanted to be with you, he would have done so before now, he's not testing you, not biding his time deciding if he likes you as more than a friend, because not even a friend would treat someone like he has treated you.
1.) You can't "Fall" into love with someone you've never met and if you do, you need to rethink the situation and maybe talk to a therapist. 2.) Don't hang on to someone that does not want you, it's not healthy for you. 3.) move on and find someone who can and actually does want to be with you.
We are only treated as we allow others to treat us..you deserve better, plain and simple.
I think you are still grieving the end of the relationship.
The fact you are still emotional tells me you haven't yet moved on and you are still vulnerable to her deception.
To answer your question, WOULD you be okay with being her second best and be content with knowing the next time something better comes along you will be cast aside like a day old newspaper?
If so...proceed with reconciliation and enjoy it for however long it lasts, because it won't be long.
That doesn't happen here, so you shouldn't have to worry about that. If you're on another site, I don't know what to tell you, just use your best judgment and realize if it sounds too good to be true, well you know the rest...
Why does it seem that a majority of NON-believers feel fit to judge others that choose to believe, as if you know what's in our hearts and minds.
Maybe this has been your experience, but as a Christian, it is my job to hold my faith, be a good person and to NOT judge others, because this is what I firmly believe.
YOU need to get out of the DARK AGES and realize Christians come from all walks of life, can have open minds, and NOT care what others think/feel/or say about them...and I'm one of those! TYVM!
Everyone has their own personal preferences..if you don't want a woman with children, I suggest you clearly read the profile of the lady in question BEFORE sending an email/flower.
If it is in a social situation, you can politely let her know your preferences without being a clod about it.
Thirdly, we all have preferences and if you are being hammered for yours, maybe you should rethink the way you are going about meeting ladies.
I wouldn't dare say a lady with children would really want to be in a relationship or take it personal if a man didn't prefer to be with her, she'd likely say "Whatever!" and move happily along, because we don't need people like that in our lives.
You must first learn to be happy with being single and love yourself and find contentment with the life you have, before you will be able and ready to share it with someone else.
I went to school and was trained for an entirely different career than what I'm actually doing now.
However, that being said, I LOVE my career, it provides me with an outlet for my creativity, is something I love to do and didn't actually picture myself doing..so it was a pleasant surprise as to how it happened...but I love it and wouldn't change a thing!
I like to patty out turkey, add some garlic & onion powder, seasonal salt, and black pepper in it, add a dash of Worcestershire sauce and grill and cut up some nice ripe avacados, sprouts and gruyer cheese...heavely! : )
I was married once before, not 100% sure I'll never do it again, but it would take one helluva guy to change my mind.
I have an issue with lots of men being intimidated by my career choice and level of dedication I have to it, I am basically a chronic work-a-holic..it's something which stimulates, rewards me and lets me fulfill my passionate side all at once, it's a great job!
I also wouldn't shack up with someone either, I think I'm to set in my ways to do that and would be a bit of a control freak, because of how I run things in my home, but like I said, if I meet a helluva a man, anything is possible...even compromise!
Don't disparage those who get married, if it works for them and makes them happy, so be it..I just don't think it's in the cards for me again, so I'm not holding my breath, searching high and low and turning over stones to find "the one"..just enjoying my life as it is and living life to the fullest.
I've had migraines off and on for the past 10 years, stress related were the initial reasons, but since that time, I've noticed other things can trigger skull crushing pain so I watch my diet and things I'm exposed too in the environment, "triggers", so to speak.
Has anybody here had these types of problems and if so...what have you found to do naturally to help alleviate or get rid of them.
Mine seem to come during times of extreme emotional upset or stress, when I consume things with certain preservatives, have too much caffeine or the weather changes become extreme. Or lately it's been brought on by extreme insomnia.
I have prescription meds for it, but sometimes it doesn't even make a dent in the pain..so I'm ready to try new methods and any suggestions are sure to be most appreciated and I thank all of you in advance.
If I were in the same position, I know for my own peace of mind and well-being I would leave.
BUT, saying it and doing it are two different things and he might not be prepared to do that, especially if he still loves this woman.
I think it's unfortunate others in the family had to find out about it because he has enough tough decisions to make in this situation, without having the judgments and opinions of others to contend with as well.
He needs to do what he feels is right for him and while I could never forgive someone for cheating on me, not everyone feels that way...it is a sad and unfortunate situation and I feel badly for him to be in this position.
you always make me laugh, listen to my complain, always give good advice, have been a shoulder and a rock for me, and are someone I'd love the chance to get to meet someday and someone whose friendship I have and always will cherish!
Being pretty will only get you so far as you've stated OP, what does last is a good heart and a beautiful soul and this will transcend to the lives you touch and how you spend your time here on Earth. Beauty of spirit is to be the essence of true beauty!
I don't think it's right to point fingers of blame to England for all the problems of the world. Each country has it's own cross to bear and every single one of the governments make mistakes, as do we, as humans.
I just think it's an overly simplified explanation and think the world's problems are a conglomeration of many different things, intolerance, crimes against each other and humanity, violation of human rights, religious intolerance, social unrest, hunger, poverty, etc...who will ever know why the world is truly the way it is...I Just find it very, very, very sad.
I don't know Jac, I truly don't. I will say this, I'm very conflicted and I think that shows my indecision here on this whole issue...who is to say what is right or wrong.
There's a difference between an "eye for an eye," and the "golden rule," are two different things. One is for justice and one code is for living a morally upright and just life.
I don't know how to answer that one...its just a conundrum to me.
No not double standards at all...if someone were trying to kill my children and I could take their life to spare my children or give my life to protect them so they could live I'd do it in a heartbeat, I challenge you to find a mother/father that wouldn't put themselves in the same shoes...would you stand by and watch someone murdering your child, if you could prevent it?
I didn't say anything about an "eye for an eye," I said I believed in the Golden rule for MY life, which simply states, "do unto others AS you would have them do unto you". So please do not put words into my mouth here.
I said I could/would do anything to protect MY children, but I also stated I do not know how there could ever be justice for the woman because in my personal opinion, maiming her attacker might bring back traumatic memories for her and she has already suffered enough.
I hope this clarifies my position here a bit better. It's all good.
For my children, I would do anything, IF someone were saying trying to do something dangerous to them, take their life, I'd die fighting to protect them.
As far as this situation, it goes against my very nature to say I'd actually be able to deliberately physically scar or maim someone if they'd done it to me. I think I'd want retribution, but I think beings I live in America here and not in the Middle East, there would be a jail sentence involved....and that would be fine for me because at least I know he'd be paying for his crimes and jails in the US are not a pleasant place to be.
However, for this woman to have to do it herself....I can't see justice for her coming through that manner..I believe it's going to do more harm than good.
Two wrongs do not make a right...and my do unto others scenario meant more of the fact I live by a code of ethics which means, if someone is kind to me, I pay it back tenfold...if someone is mean and nasty to me, I turn the other cheek and just avoid the person as much as possible..we all have encounters with people we just don't mesh with, that sort of thing.
I know in my heart, I could never deliberately just hurt somebody because they'd hurt me first...but I'd have no problem letting the justice system work in my favor and extol a proper punishment.
I know what you're saying exactly, and I agree. The golden rule to me means, I treat others as they have treated me..but I'd never be able to deliberately physically scar someone with acid just because they'd done it to me...the very thought makes me shudder...omg.
BUT, if someone intentionally harms my children...all bets are off! DO what you will to me..but my kids are another story and it goes without saying I'd protect them to my very last dying breath.
I live my life on the tenets of if someone treats me kindly, I return the kindness. If someone does something nice for me, I believe in paying it forward...etc.
I just feel so bad for the mental anguish the woman must be going through, because deep down she must really wish for there to be justice, but in what form??
and what is justice in this case really? Or is there any possibility of it for her?? she's going to have to live the rest of her life looking at her face and staring at what he did to her everyday....that's sad.
Then to have to go and maim a person herself...isn't that sort of like making her relive part of what happened to her? And to me, there's no possible way that could be good for her mentally, psychologically or emotionally.
This whole scenario just breaks my freaking heart...for that poor woman...
Good to see you on here Jac...have missed being amongst you all for some time..glad to be back my friend.
My younger daughter's father is for lack of a better word..uninvolved.
To make her feel less ostracized because he's all about playing Daddy to his gf's kids and his other two, I just keep her involved in lots of activities, we do fun things together and I put my focus entirely on her and her needs when she's with me.
Yes, she has questions, but, like you although I have my thoughts, it's not about what I think or feel, it's about being honest w/ her in a way that a 7 y/o child can understand. I never speak down about her father to her, I tell her the positive things (though not many) about her Dad and try to build him up in her eyes...and when she's old enough to fully understand how he is, she'll draw her own conclusions with no help from my input.
The new gf being pregnant has got to be emotionally hurtful and confusing to her, especially if she is feeling her father is in a sense replacing her with this other "new" baby. To which my advice to you is to tell her she will always be first with you, try to look for the positives in the situation and play on those aspects.
Remember to never put your feelings/anger/frustrations first in any situation involving an ex, it only winds up hurting the child/children of the situation.
We know how we feel, we know it's justified and we even know deep down it's not right what they may do to the children in the situation, but keep a civil tongue, bite it for the sake of your kids.
Do your best to make sure she feels secure and loved from you, reinforce her good qualities, shower her with praise and attention and love...and she should come through it just find, children have amazing stores of resiliency and it's been proven to me time and again when I see my little girl and how she has come through this situation.
You can't fix stupid when it comes to your daughters father, but you can do your best to minimize how that stupidity is going to affect her..I wish you great strength, love and understanding, because it's never easy!
I am all for the Golden Rule theory here "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
BUT, I had no idea they were going to have the woman drop the acid herself....that has got to present some very real fears and emotional trauma for her.
I don't understand how to justify in my mind living by the Golden Rule and then actually having to physically maim someone...and I can imagine she's probably going through the same thing.
Yes, I would want justice, but is this really the answer, making HER do it to HIM???
I think it would just bring back the past and reopen her old wounds again....as far as I can see here, there's no medium ground and it's just very, very sad.
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RE: women why....
Who did the inviting for the date? If you did, then its customary to pay for your date.and if you are not comfortable with that custom, then make it clear it's a "dutch" arrangement to the lady in question.
Generally, I find it rude when asked about the $$$ I make and it's a good red flag that would tell me to continue looking for someone who is not motivated completely by the almighty dollar.
Keep looking..oh and not to burst your bubble, but MEN do the same thing so don't tar and feather please.