I would be very, very cautious...i have a rule that states I don't play well with others and I am not about to become someone's second choice either. Each situation is different, but generally when someone tries to come between a man and a woman, the results are never good.
I am sentimental and keep "certain" things which represent memories to me. I have some old letters from high school and some emails from past times, which make me happy and give me a chance to reflect on how life used to be.
As far as momento's, it would depend on what it is..I save some pictures and tangible things, but nothing that gives me cause for sadness and life is about changing..so I purge lots of stuff too. Just a process of elimination and that's how it has always been.
You have extraordinary reserves of strength that are a true testament to the strength you possess inside. Your story was a sad one, but you had the forethought to be honest w/ him and yourself...which is one of the hardest things to do sometimes.
I commend you for your bravery and hope that you will soon find peace and receive the closure you need to move on in life to better things. You have a special someone out there, he just hasn't found YOU yet!
I always stand up for my friends, because they are my friend period. I could not allow someone to bash anyone I love to any extent, so yes, I would most definitely be verbal and have much to say.
Thank you for your answer..I am just trying to be there as much as I can, but I just hope he can come through this one and get strong again. Time will heal and at least he didn't end up marrying her or having children with her, that's the one good thing to come out of it, I guess?
How badly does someone have to hurt you before you walk away and learn a lesson? (not physically, talking emotionally, psychologically, etc.) Not a question for me, but for friend I am helping mend a broken heart through the ending of a 5-year relationship and his ex is now with someone else, he's having a hard time even though she lied and cheated...any advice on how to help him see he is better off? Thank you in advance.
Not to point fingers or be mean, but I would like to know where you get your information about the most intelligent people that ever lived cannot or could not spell, as I am genuinely curious. It is not an entitlement or being snobbish to expect someone to be able to articulate properly after reaching a certain age and having an education. This is a forum and because of one sided communication, what you say and mean could be construed as two different things if it is riddled with bad spelling, improper grammar and whatnot.
I can gladly excuse certain typo's and overlook the language barrier OP, but you are not from another country and yes, sadly, it does reflect badly when someone butchers the English language when it is their native tongue. Communication is precisely that, the translation of your personal thoughts and conveying of opinions and for those that struggle with spelling, I would suggest in order to help oneself become more adept at spelling and grammar that a review of a dictionary or googling some web sites for assistance might be worthwhile.
Please don't think I am picking on you, but when you come off in that manner, it doesn't put you in the best light. You should know that it is nothing to be ashamed about, especially when there are many ways to improve and become better at spelling. Where there is a will, there is a way.
Honey, be glad it happened now before things got even more serious. God will put you where he wants you to be and when your love is meant to find you...it will happen in due time. Hugs..it sucks I know.
Children are not "baggage"...they are a blessing and any man that will not accept mine, well that's not someone I would even consider being with for one second.
I don't care about if a man has them either way, if I like him and he has kids,well eventually if it goes somewhere, I have to accept them as a part of him and love them too. It's a two way street and a personal choice as to how someone views kids.
The statistical information is fine and may very well be accurate, BUT, was there follow up info as to why this happens? Were there any reasons provided?
I was engaged to a man I considered to be the ultimate love of my life and due to many different reasons, we broke up, I ended it. Almost immediately, I held a great sense of regret because I knew it would be so hard to let him go and to move on..well, that was another story.
Fast forward to six weeks after I broke up with him, he calls me to tell me he is engaged to be married and then proceeds to divulge where, what time and where they are going on their honeymoon, I think he was rubbing it in. That almost killed me inside because it made me feel as if all the yrs. we had together didn't even matter to him at all.
NOW, three and a half years later, he has a little boy, is now divorced and HIS ex-wife had moved a new man into the house w/in a week of them breaking up.
I hadn't talked to him in several years as there was mixed emotions and much pain, but I did see him last week and got the whole entire story...just goes to show how easy it is to make mistakes and you can't simply "replace" someone you used to love with someone new.
Love takes time to grow and even if it feels completely right, when you're dealing with a rebound relationship, chances are good it is not going to work and will only result in heartache.
You can almost never delve into a topic of this nature w/o having some very strong and heated opinions. In answer to Alis question, about Muslims marrying non-Muslims..is it not true that a Muslim man can marry outside the faith to women of certain acceptable faiths, BUT, a Muslim WOMAN, MUST marry another MUSLIM male??? that is a complete double standard and what I believe to be an example of discrimination against women, JHMO.
I am not sure quite what you are trying to say here with this comment. IMHO, whether or not someone is a Christian is a personal, religious choice by which to identify oneself. Whether or not you can ascertain if something exists or not, does not really have anything to do with someone being a Christian. Elaborate please, I am confused?
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RE: irish and uk or willing to travel.....lol
I think that's a translation for "cheat, cheat, cheat."