What If It Was Not Yours? (125)
maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
she should be stoned I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
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maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
Regardless of the real "reason," she meant to lie to begin with?
Yes. He should walk. Straightaway. How could he ever trust her in anything ever again?
And by the way, it's not just "another man's responsibility." It's hers, too.
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ali110: she should be stoned
That's hardly a viable alternative ali.Cheating is,in my opinion,impossible to forgive,but add to that someone trying to pass another mans baby off as yours is just truly unforgivable.
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maryrachelle: That's hardly a viable alternative ali.Cheating is,in my opinion,impossible to forgive,but add to that someone trying to pass another mans baby off as yours is just truly unforgivable.
good post 
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maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
He should leave and do so as soon as possible. Now he knows exactly what she is and it’s not his child. She’s responsible for her actions and this child is her responsibility not his.
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he should go now, did she really think she could get away with it esp when the real dad is black?
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chococherrie: he should go now, did she really think she could get away with it esp when the real dad is black?
I hardly think it matters what race the real father might be. The point as I see it is, the woman intended to lie about the paternity. Whether she might have gotten away with it or not does not change the fact, she was gonna lie.
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Onlyguy: He should leave and do so as soon as possible. Now he knows exactly what she is and it’s not his child. She’s responsible for her actions and this child is her responsibility not his.
You're right onlyguy he should leave,but he still feels love for her even with all the anger and hurt she has caused.He keeps saying that others have forgiven infidelity before and he thinks he should at least try.She needs to step up and be resonsible by being a good mother to this child,and the father need to start taking responsibility for what he has helped to create.He wont do so though and she knows this which is why she wants to hold on to my family member.
What a mess.
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maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
This rang a bell from the past in my family.
During the war the Americans were based in Bournemouth and my aunt, whose husband was in the Royal Navy, had a relationship with a black american.
She didn't tell a soul so when the baby was born imagine the shock. My uncle stood by her and accepted the child who was raised in a loving home.His colour caused him problems un fortunately as it was considered unacceptable in those days.
A lovely guy who overcame predjudice thank goodness.
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maryrachelle: You're right onlyguy he should leave,but he still feels love for her even with all the anger and hurt she has caused.He keeps saying that others have forgiven infidelity before and he thinks he should at least try.
She needs to step up and be resonsible by being a good mother to this child,and the father need to start taking responsibility for what he has helped to create.He wont do so though and she knows this which is why she wants to hold on to my family member.
What a mess.
She needs to step up and be resonsible by being a good mother to this child,and the father need to start taking responsibility for what he has helped to create.He wont do so though and she knows this which is why she wants to hold on to my family member.
What a mess.
In all this mess like you say I feel sorrow for the child to be but I still think he should leave her ASAP.
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It's better he finds out now I guess.How much worse would it be to find out 18 years down the road thinking all the time that this was your biological child.What kind of cruel,cold hearted person deceives someone about something like this?
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ali110: she should be stoned
Fortunately she does not live in an Islamic country.
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maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
She sounds terrible and I feel sorry for the baby and her husband.I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
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bestbefore: This rang a bell from the past in my family.
During the war the Americans were based in Bournemouth and my aunt, whose husband was in the Royal Navy, had a relationship with a black american.
She didn't tell a soul so when the baby was born imagine the shock. My uncle stood by her and accepted the child who was raised in a loving home.His colour caused him problems un fortunately as it was considered unacceptable in those days.
A lovely guy who overcame predjudice thank goodness.
During the war the Americans were based in Bournemouth and my aunt, whose husband was in the Royal Navy, had a relationship with a black american.
She didn't tell a soul so when the baby was born imagine the shock. My uncle stood by her and accepted the child who was raised in a loving home.His colour caused him problems un fortunately as it was considered unacceptable in those days.
A lovely guy who overcame predjudice thank goodness.
This post says it all. The rest well, no comment.
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Veritaas: This post says it all. The rest well, no comment.
You see no difference between the lie being exposed before or after the baby's birth? When the real father might still be held accountable?
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maryrachelle: It's better he finds out now I guess.How much worse would it be to find out 18 years down the road thinking all the time that this was your biological child.What kind of cruel,cold hearted person deceives someone about something like this?
She's a rotten cow once a liar always a liar, poor him and poor little child.
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maryrachelle: Recently, a family member found out that his child is not really his child. He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?
Honesty is needed, and before the birth obviously. Everyone needs to enter parenthood with their eyes wide open
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curly28: She's a rotten cow once a liar always a liar, poor him and poor little child.
I agree.As usual it's the child who is going to suffer in this situation.The father of this child is no prize and already has other children he is not a father too. It's not fair at all to my cousin,but if he decides to leave then this child will have no father whatsoever.As I said before what a mess.Why don't people think before they take off their pants?
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maryrachelle: I agree.As usual it's the child who is going to suffer in this situation.The father of this child is no prize and already has other children he is not a father too. It's not fair at all to my cousin,but if he decides to leave then this child will have no father whatsoever.As I said before what a mess.Why don't people think before they take off their pants?
Has anyone asked the mother that?
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He's been with this woman for years and he is hurt and shocked.He probably would of remained in the dark forever if not for amnio done.It seems they can do paternity testing through this.The only reason she told him is because the bio dad is black and there would be no way she can pass off this new baby as his.
I told him he should leave before this child is even born.Why take on another mans responsibility?