Children are so on the ball!! (35)
Haha! he kept that to himself didn't he? ...sounds a bit like he was stringing you along, maybe hoping for some sort of reconcilliation in the future? 
delamer: Haha! he kept that to himself didn't he? ...sounds a bit like he was stringing you along, maybe hoping for some sort of reconcilliation in the future?
how do ya mean?? Doesn't make sense to me! Just re-enforces my belief that I'm better of rid to be honest but the deception.....something that I loath 
SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
]]My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
Kids pick up on everything. I have an 8 year old too and he doesn't miss a trick. They can be so protective too. That was unfair of your ex not to tell you seeing as he was the one who brought it up in the first place about being upfront. Not nice finding out that way
SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
yup, kids ain't as dumb or blind as we make em out to be, nd don't give them enough credit for their ability to read a parents body lingo etc My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
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Kids pick up on everything. I have an 8 year old too and he doesn't miss a trick. They can be so protective too. That was unfair of your ex not to tell you seeing as he was the one who brought it up in the first place about being upfront. Not nice finding out that way
yup theyre very clever at that age! And he told me on the phone while I was in bed sick as a dog... Nice!!Kids pick up on everything. I have an 8 year old too and he doesn't miss a trick. They can be so protective too. That was unfair of your ex not to tell you seeing as he was the one who brought it up in the first place about being upfront. Not nice finding out that way
SereneGreen: yup theyre very clever at that age! And he told me on the phone while I was in bed sick as a dog... Nice!!
How considerate! Hate deception too, it's one thing that really boils my blood, especially when no need for it. You're well rid there.
SereneGreen: how do ya mean?? Doesn't make sense to me! Just re-enforces my belief that I'm better of rid to be honest but the deception.....something that I loath
Definitely better off rid.
SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
For sure its amazing isn't it! How ya feel about it seeing as you have dicussed things sneaky so & so... such a typical man thing to do... and I tell ya ''you can't hide from kids'' I have learnt the hard way
My brother came home last wk said he was getting married we didn't even know he had a gf let alone get married!SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
I have an eight year old who worries about everything, and I learned recently that she needs answers to her questions, and when she gets them, that's it for her, it's the not knowing that causes the worry for them. Better being upfront, especially about dating, as then it is not a threat to them and actually their not that interested then lol
SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
You are split up 2 and a half years , even though you had an "agreement" to let each other know if you were dating somebody else after the split, I wouldnt be offended or feel some way cheated, you might have kids with him yes but his love life is none of your business now just as much yours is none of his business too
VodkaDrinker: You are split up 2 and a half years , even though you had an "agreement" to let each other know if you were dating somebody else after the split, I wouldnt be offended or feel some way cheated, you might have kids with him yes but his love life is none of your business now just as much yours is none of his business too
i would have said it would be more for the sake of the kids so there no secrets and no animosity between eachother 
salanky: i would have said it would be more for the sake of the kids so there no secrets and no animosity between eachother
i agrre with ya salank..
its important for kids to see their parents get along..
SereneGreen: My 8 year old daughter came to me last week upset because she thought my ex had a girlfriend and was hiding it. She'd overheard tit bits of phone conversations and seen him IM a girl regularly while she was there. We've been separated 2.5 years and neither of us had been with anyone in a steady relationship long enough to involve the kids, so this was new and scary for my daughter to consider Daddy might love someone else other than her n her sister ( obviously not me and she understands that!)
My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
on the one hand ye had a deal to tell and he didn't live up to it my way of looking at that is that he didn't introduce kids so really after that its his own business, i get on well with my ex wife but don't share things really and thats part of the reason we get on wellMy ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!
wittyone: I have an eight year old who worries about everything, and I learned recently that she needs answers to her questions, and when she gets them, that's it for her, it's the not knowing that causes the worry for them. Better being upfront, especially about dating, as then it is not a threat to them and actually their not that interested then lol
that was exactly her issue Witty she was full of what if scenarios, worrying the g/f would be her new mum, she might be unkind to her, dad might love her more than his girls etc.... I know she's fine now that she knows and hopefully when it's my turn she won't worry so much, but because she's with me most of the time Im not sure.jimbo79: on the one hand ye had a deal to tell and he didn't live up to it my way of looking at that is that he didn't introduce kids so really after that its his own business, i get on well with my ex wife but don't share things really and thats part of the reason we get on well
I am the same, my ex ask me in the early months of the split would I tell him if I met someone and I said, yes but was not dating, and did not date, until we where over three and a half years split and divorced, so by this stage I did not feel the need to tell him as it is only dating.
VodkaDrinker: You are split up 2 and a half years , even though you had an "agreement" to let each other know if you were dating somebody else after the split, I wouldnt be offended or feel some way cheated, you might have kids with him yes but his love life is none of your business now just as much yours is none of his business too
if I agree to something I usually stick to it as I could see the logic behind it, and would expect the same in return. If I was in the know I could have prepared my daughter for the inevitable questions she had subtly in advance, hence the reason we agreed this in the first place.VodkaDrinker: You are split up 2 and a half years , even though you had an "agreement" to let each other know if you were dating somebody else after the split, I wouldnt be offended or feel some way cheated, you might have kids with him yes but his love life is none of your business now just as much yours is none of his business too
Eh yes it is!! any mother/father is going to want to know elements of your personal life i.e who there friends are/relationships as they have ever right to know that there children are in good hands where ever they may be!! It doesn't mean GF/BF but any individual that may be directly involved with there children it doesn't have to be an ordeal, he needn't tell her until the children are involded however 8yrs old are smart......... thus the poor pet didn't know where she stood! A perfect example are witholding information and she probarly worried about it and put her mammy in a difficult situation when she couldn't answer with the truth until she contacted her dad!!
wittyone: I am the same, my ex ask me in the early months of the split would I tell him if I met someone and I said, yes but was not dating, and did not date, until we where over three and a half years split and divorced, so by this stage I did not feel the need to tell him as it is only dating.
ye totally agree with you its all part of the process of moving on it's healthy, like if my ex wife asked me who i was seeing id tell her where to go fairly quick, i understand it's different when introducing kids thoughSereneGreen: that was exactly her issue Witty she was full of what if scenarios, worrying the g/f would be her new mum, she might be unkind to her, dad might love her more than his girls etc.... I know she's fine now that she knows and hopefully when it's my turn she won't worry so much, but because she's with me most of the time Im not sure.
Yeh I learned this recently when I went on a couple of dates and little one wanted to know where I was going and who with, and was more worried about why her mum was heading off, so I told her I had a date, she ask what he looked like, I showed her photo, she said did you show him me, lol and turned and said to her 7 yrs old cousin, he is handsome, (in a bit of a surprised voice) lol and that was the end of that. Just a matter of keeping them in the loop, and I had not realised she was worried and wondering what was going on. Ask a few questions since just everyday questions like what did you eat, will you marry him etc lol
So agree with you, better to keep kids in the loop, so its no big deal to them that we date, sometimes.
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My ex had asked me when we split to do the decent thing and let him know if/when I was seeing anyone just to keep things open and that he would do the same. BUT when I told my ex our daughter had been upset thinking he had a g/f and not told us, he decided to reveal he'd been in a relationship with a girl since last April!!! I'm really peeved at his secrecy particularly as we'd had many chats about dating and I'd asked him had he been on any dates or anything and the answer was always "No, sure who'd want me eh?".
Just goes to show you that your kids know more than you think and pick up on lots that you wouldn't think they would!!