A "friend" has had an online friend for about 2 years. She lived 4+ hours away and circumstances - work, their own relationships/situations etc - meant that they never met up.
They've dipped into each other's lives during that time, but no mention of anything in the relationship department. Literally 'online friends'.
Recently, she moved, just 20 minutes away, and they met up for coffee. All good, all fun and very, VERY comfortable!
Since then, although STILL nothing has been said or agreed, (perhaps a couple of silly 'hints'), they've chatted, phoned and talked and laughed their way through the days and everything has seemed so 'normal'!
Tomorrow, they are off for a walk in the woods, with her mum and their 2 dogs, or munchies and Trivial Pursuit if the weather's too bad - Their first hookup since the coffee night.
I... ehem, my friend, is useless at reading situations like this. So he'd certainly appreciate the advice... That I will, of course pass on to 'him'...
I think the opportunity is there to make it a date. If your "friend" has feelings for her this is the time to make them known...a lady was never won by faint of heart
venusenvy: I think the opportunity is there to make it a date. If your "friend" has feelings for her this is the time to make them known...a lady was never won by faint of heart
Not so much feint hearted, but crap at reading signals!
scottyburd: If i was going on a date then mum wouldnt be going with me illu.
Consider that her mum has moved too and therefore is still establishing herself in the area. My friends, friend doesn't feel it's right to abandon her mother all day, this early into their move.
I may not be that close to my family, but I actually understand that!
venusenvy: Thats OK just tell her so...be honest, if she has an honest heart she will be touched by that.
Yeah right. " Hey, I'm really crap at reading things, but I really kinda like you. What??? Too awkward??? That's OK, I understand that we can't hang out any more....."
illu_66: Consider that her mum has moved too and therefore is still establishing herself in the area. My friends, friend doesn't feel it's right to abandon her mother all day, this early into their move.
I may not be that close to my family, but I actually understand that!
I wouldnt call it a date then illu..sounds kind of promising though for a future relationship though..
illu_66: Yeah right. " Hey, I'm really crap at reading things, but I really kinda like you. What??? Too awkward??? That's OK, I understand that we can't hang out any more....."
Sounds like a good move!!!!!
Goodness dont be so defeatist. Your killing romance before it can happen. Did it ever occur to you that maybe shes just as nervous?
illu_66: Yeah right. " Hey, I'm really crap at reading things, but I really kinda like you. What??? Too awkward??? That's OK, I understand that we can't hang out any more....."
Sounds like a good move!!!!!
Seems simple... he just calls up and asks her if she wants to go on a real date alone with him.
Now I'm getting confused is the girl or guy your friend?
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A "friend" has had an online friend for about 2 years. She lived 4+ hours away and circumstances - work, their own relationships/situations etc - meant that they never met up.
They've dipped into each other's lives during that time, but no mention of anything in the relationship department. Literally 'online friends'.
Recently, she moved, just 20 minutes away, and they met up for coffee. All good, all fun and very, VERY comfortable!
Since then, although STILL nothing has been said or agreed, (perhaps a couple of silly 'hints'), they've chatted, phoned and talked and laughed their way through the days and everything has seemed so 'normal'!
Tomorrow, they are off for a walk in the woods, with her mum and their 2 dogs, or munchies and Trivial Pursuit if the weather's too bad - Their first hookup since the coffee night.
I... ehem, my friend, is useless at reading situations like this. So he'd certainly appreciate the advice... That I will, of course pass on to 'him'...