dating more than one person (79)
hey hun i know exactly how you feel ive had some lads come stright out and tell me they're dating other people.. had say one date and they never got back to me after that
than the same thing that your going through.. the whole cant wait to meet you texts while still talking to other women online... i guess they're keeping the options open but they more the play around the more i realise those guys just dont want to commit so im better off staying away..
dont get your hopes up tho.. your quite a catch
than the same thing that your going through.. the whole cant wait to meet you texts while still talking to other women online... i guess they're keeping the options open but they more the play around the more i realise those guys just dont want to commit so im better off staying away..
dont get your hopes up tho.. your quite a catch
gimme ur number hun and id make all the time in the world 4u your gorgeous
flick1980: just wondering yere opinions on when you start talking to someone and you agree to meet up and ye exchange numbers. do you think that between the time of exchanging numbers and meeting up ye should both stop emailing other people on dating sites. i know that probably sounds stupid considering its a dating site and therefore people have a right to date more than one person.
basically my story is, ive been chatting to a really nice guy the last while on a different site we are meant to be meeting up this weekend. he was really keen at first texting lots but the last few days he hardly ever replies if i text him. then this morning i text him to see if he fancied meeting up today as i had a free day and i knew he wasnt working till tonight. i was even gonna drive down to meet him and all. he never replied all day. i got a text a few mins ago to say that he is sorry he didnt reply to me today but he was very busy. i had told him it was no problem if he couldnt meet up but to let me know. anyways what has me upset is that while he tells me that he was too busy to reply to me today, he logged into the dating site a few times today so surely if he had time to go on that a couple of times then he had time to reply to my message. i understand that he is on a dating site so he is doing exactly that - dating but i dont think its very nice to be texting someone saying your looking forward to meeting them and then still emailing people and probably meeting up with others at the same time. i just feel like im just an option for him and if something better comes along before the weekend then he will cancel on me. im considering not even replying to him at all now seeing as he had no problem not replying to me all day.
i know im feeling sorry for myself now but i dont think im ever gonna meet a nice genuine straight to the point guy.
you want my adress? basically my story is, ive been chatting to a really nice guy the last while on a different site we are meant to be meeting up this weekend. he was really keen at first texting lots but the last few days he hardly ever replies if i text him. then this morning i text him to see if he fancied meeting up today as i had a free day and i knew he wasnt working till tonight. i was even gonna drive down to meet him and all. he never replied all day. i got a text a few mins ago to say that he is sorry he didnt reply to me today but he was very busy. i had told him it was no problem if he couldnt meet up but to let me know. anyways what has me upset is that while he tells me that he was too busy to reply to me today, he logged into the dating site a few times today so surely if he had time to go on that a couple of times then he had time to reply to my message. i understand that he is on a dating site so he is doing exactly that - dating but i dont think its very nice to be texting someone saying your looking forward to meeting them and then still emailing people and probably meeting up with others at the same time. i just feel like im just an option for him and if something better comes along before the weekend then he will cancel on me. im considering not even replying to him at all now seeing as he had no problem not replying to me all day.
i know im feeling sorry for myself now but i dont think im ever gonna meet a nice genuine straight to the point guy.
think multiple chatting is ok, but as soon as one has met nd want to take things further ie a second meet/date then i would think flirting with other peeps is prob a no no
gingernail: hey hun i know exactly how you feel ive had some lads come stright out and tell me they're dating other people.. had say one date and they never got back to me after that
than the same thing that your going through.. the whole cant wait to meet you texts while still talking to other women online... i guess they're keeping the options open but they more the play around the more i realise those guys just dont want to commit so im better off staying away..
dont get your hopes up tho.. your quite a catch
than the same thing that your going through.. the whole cant wait to meet you texts while still talking to other women online... i guess they're keeping the options open but they more the play around the more i realise those guys just dont want to commit so im better off staying away..
dont get your hopes up tho.. your quite a catch
aww thanks hun.
im just a bit depressed now. i just dont know how he could of just ignored my text all day. he seems genuine so its just annoying. i dont think i could even make myself ignore someone for a full day, surely he must of known i was gonna be waiting around for a reply. 
lovejoy83: gimme ur number hun and id make all the time in the world 4u your gorgeous
thanks very much for the lovely compliment
unfortunately due to past experience on this site i wont be giving out my number on here 
baldydude: you want my adress?
think multiple chatting is ok, but as soon as one has met nd want to take things further ie a second meet/date then i would think flirting with other peeps is prob a no no
think multiple chatting is ok, but as soon as one has met nd want to take things further ie a second meet/date then i would think flirting with other peeps is prob a no no
maybe i am reading too much into it. just got annoyed that he couldnt send one quick text today and could still log in to the site a couple of times. ah i dunno if its worth it even going on the first date now. I think ignoring someones txt all day long, knowing, as u say, they must be waiting for a reply is just wrong. He may have been nice before, but I think he showed his true colours today. I wouldn't waste anymore time with this person if I were you flick
no prob i completely understand.... would u like mine 2use if u like??
flick1980: maybe i am reading too much into it. just got annoyed that he couldnt send one quick text today and could still log in to the site a couple of times. ah i dunno if its worth it even going on the first date now.
well if he couldn't be bothered sending a reply it kinda says enouf dont it? even he couldn't or didn't want to meet today at least he should have the decency to answer your txt/mail nd say so
flick1980: maybe i am reading too much into it. just got annoyed that he couldnt send one quick text today and could still log in to the site a couple of times. ah i dunno if its worth it even going on the first date now.
exactly, it only takes a minute to reply to a text message, how busy could he have been?
flick1980: aww thanks hun. im just a bit depressed now. i just dont know how he could of just ignored my text all day. he seems genuine so its just annoying. i dont think i could even make myself ignore someone for a full day, surely he must of known i was gonna be waiting around for a reply.
yup sure i met up with a lad back in november he texts me when ever he wants.. but when i text him first he never replies or he does hours later saying how busy he is.. he keeps saying we have to meet up again but i dont see it happening.. i told him that im going to drogheda and he freaked at me saying that it was valentines weekend sure how was i meant to know he wanted to spend it with me.. men just confuse me.. but whats worse is that if i dont text him beck he keeps texting me until i do.. saying whats wrong what did i do etc.. im leaving him be
mutual effort is a must for me and hun you deserve better like us all
hem23: I think ignoring someones txt all day long, knowing, as u say, they must be waiting for a reply is just wrong. He may have been nice before, but I think he showed his true colours today. I wouldn't waste anymore time with this person if I were you flick
If his heart isn't in it now then it don't look great. If you really think it could go somewhere, be honest - tell him what you put here and that you need him to respect your time and effort as much as you respect his, that you would value a text just saying, "sorry - busy will text later"
Pfft interesting, ye are interesting?!
It's called "Dating" i.e. ye date multiple people to increase the chances of meeting someone ye like and want to actually be with?!
I dunno about ye but if I agreed to meet every one I mailed on this yoke and as a result of meeting "I wasn't allowed be in contact with any other women" t'would be a sad state of affairs.
If he didn't mail back, he's not interested/lost interested for whatever reason, it's called dating...you chat you date sus people out, drop people etc. and hopefully find someone.
I know it's a far cry from getting pissed and shifting the first bit'a'meat in the club with a pulse and ending up having babas with but times have changed, embrace it.
I now include a bunch of affectionate emoticons "to make you feel better" as is tendancy on this thing
It's called "Dating" i.e. ye date multiple people to increase the chances of meeting someone ye like and want to actually be with?!
I dunno about ye but if I agreed to meet every one I mailed on this yoke and as a result of meeting "I wasn't allowed be in contact with any other women" t'would be a sad state of affairs.
If he didn't mail back, he's not interested/lost interested for whatever reason, it's called dating...you chat you date sus people out, drop people etc. and hopefully find someone.
I know it's a far cry from getting pissed and shifting the first bit'a'meat in the club with a pulse and ending up having babas with but times have changed, embrace it.
I now include a bunch of affectionate emoticons "to make you feel better" as is tendancy on this thing
flick1980: just wondering yere opinions on when you start talking to someone and you agree to meet up and ye exchange numbers. do you think that between the time of exchanging numbers and meeting up ye should both stop emailing other people on dating sites. i know that probably sounds stupid considering its a dating site and therefore people have a right to date more than one person.
basically my story is, ive been chatting to a really nice guy the last while on a different site we are meant to be meeting up this weekend. he was really keen at first texting lots but the last few days he hardly ever replies if i text him. then this morning i text him to see if he fancied meeting up today as i had a free day and i knew he wasnt working till tonight. i was even gonna drive down to meet him and all. he never replied all day. i got a text a few mins ago to say that he is sorry he didnt reply to me today but he was very busy. i had told him it was no problem if he couldnt meet up but to let me know. anyways what has me upset is that while he tells me that he was too busy to reply to me today, he logged into the dating site a few times today so surely if he had time to go on that a couple of times then he had time to reply to my message. i understand that he is on a dating site so he is doing exactly that - dating but i dont think its very nice to be texting someone saying your looking forward to meeting them and then still emailing people and probably meeting up with others at the same time. i just feel like im just an option for him and if something better comes along before the weekend then he will cancel on me. im considering not even replying to him at all now seeing as he had no problem not replying to me all day.
i know im feeling sorry for myself now but i dont think im ever gonna meet a nice genuine straight to the point guy.
basically my story is, ive been chatting to a really nice guy the last while on a different site we are meant to be meeting up this weekend. he was really keen at first texting lots but the last few days he hardly ever replies if i text him. then this morning i text him to see if he fancied meeting up today as i had a free day and i knew he wasnt working till tonight. i was even gonna drive down to meet him and all. he never replied all day. i got a text a few mins ago to say that he is sorry he didnt reply to me today but he was very busy. i had told him it was no problem if he couldnt meet up but to let me know. anyways what has me upset is that while he tells me that he was too busy to reply to me today, he logged into the dating site a few times today so surely if he had time to go on that a couple of times then he had time to reply to my message. i understand that he is on a dating site so he is doing exactly that - dating but i dont think its very nice to be texting someone saying your looking forward to meeting them and then still emailing people and probably meeting up with others at the same time. i just feel like im just an option for him and if something better comes along before the weekend then he will cancel on me. im considering not even replying to him at all now seeing as he had no problem not replying to me all day.
i know im feeling sorry for myself now but i dont think im ever gonna meet a nice genuine straight to the point guy.
His loss Flick
I think when it comes to actually meeting the cold feet syndrome can set in for either one or both, I would not allow my experiences with others cloud my future experiences, it is not a nice experience and I hope you feel better today. I think some people multiple date and some choose not to, my friend from another site, multiple dates and she is never in these days, lol she would constantly tell me I am mad and should follow suit, I know if I was multiple dating I would be up front about it, as I don't like to mislead others, it is not fair. Though find it hard to fit in dating at all in my life, never mind multiple dating. Re the mailing, I think people do continue to mail others to keep their options open incase things do not work out, I have continued mailing but let who ever is mailing me know that I am meeting someone, so as not to mislead, some wish me luck and stop mailing and some are happy to mail as friends. Just be yourself flick, and I believe there is nice guys out there 
Hi Flick
You getting a lot of good advice on here - as they say there is definately a bit of the cold feet syndrome setting in - i would let him make all the moves now about the weekend - if there is little or no contact then you have saved yourself some time which could be put to better use.
Im a serial messager to a few people but they know when i am interested in someone else or have met someone cos I tell them and I do not lead them on from the outset - I chat to people as friends and if someone wants to meet me then they are aware that I chat to others as friends - God I wouldnt have energy for more than one at my age
Don't take this personally Flick - things may change before the weekend and if they dont consider it a lucky escape
Cheer up and good luck with this
You getting a lot of good advice on here - as they say there is definately a bit of the cold feet syndrome setting in - i would let him make all the moves now about the weekend - if there is little or no contact then you have saved yourself some time which could be put to better use.
Im a serial messager to a few people but they know when i am interested in someone else or have met someone cos I tell them and I do not lead them on from the outset - I chat to people as friends and if someone wants to meet me then they are aware that I chat to others as friends - God I wouldnt have energy for more than one at my age
Don't take this personally Flick - things may change before the weekend and if they dont consider it a lucky escape
Cheer up and good luck with this
baldydude: well if he couldn't be bothered sending a reply it kinda says enouf dont it?
even he couldn't or didn't want to meet today at least he should have the decency to answer your txt/mail nd say so
even he couldn't or didn't want to meet today at least he should have the decency to answer your txt/mail nd say so
thats the part that annoyed me. and im thinking that if he could of went all day and it not even bother him that he didnt reply then i think that i shouldnt waste my time on him..
hem23: I think ignoring someones txt all day long, knowing, as u say, they must be waiting for a reply is just wrong. He may have been nice before, but I think he showed his true colours today. I wouldn't waste anymore time with this person if I were you flick
sally101: If his heart isn't in it now then it don't look great. If you really think it could go somewhere, be honest - tell him what you put here and that you need him to respect your time and effort as much as you respect his, that you would value a text just saying, "sorry - busy will text later"
Insertcatchyname: Pfft interesting, ye are interesting?!
It's called "Dating" i.e. ye date multiple people to increase the chances of meeting someone ye like and want to actually be with?!
I dunno about ye but if I agreed to meet every one I mailed on this yoke and as a result of meeting "I wasn't allowed be in contact with any other women" t'would be a sad state of affairs.
If he didn't mail back, he's not interested/lost interested for whatever reason, it's called dating...you chat you date sus people out, drop people etc. and hopefully find someone.
I know it's a far cry from getting pissed and shifting the first bit'a'meat in the club with a pulse and ending up having babas with but times have changed, embrace it.
I now include a bunch of affectionate emoticons "to make you feel better" as is tendancy on this thing
It's called "Dating" i.e. ye date multiple people to increase the chances of meeting someone ye like and want to actually be with?!
I dunno about ye but if I agreed to meet every one I mailed on this yoke and as a result of meeting "I wasn't allowed be in contact with any other women" t'would be a sad state of affairs.
If he didn't mail back, he's not interested/lost interested for whatever reason, it's called dating...you chat you date sus people out, drop people etc. and hopefully find someone.
I know it's a far cry from getting pissed and shifting the first bit'a'meat in the club with a pulse and ending up having babas with but times have changed, embrace it.
I now include a bunch of affectionate emoticons "to make you feel better" as is tendancy on this thing
that is funny. ah i know its dating, its not the fact that he was emailing others that upset me asuch. its more that im thinking he cant be that interested in me if he had no problem not replying to my text yesterday morning and had it in him to ignore it all night and only reply when he knew that he couldnt meet as he would be in work at that stageMore Threads
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basically my story is, ive been chatting to a really nice guy the last while on a different site
i know im feeling sorry for myself now but i dont think im ever gonna meet a nice genuine straight to the point guy.