we can still be friends... (56)
nevica: If I think back I don't see anything in my life as a failure, but an adventure. It only makes life more interesting to live.
Its a journey with so many choices. It is what we make of it.
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Snuggs09: That's what I'm asking, what should the boundaries be with your past lover when they are now your friend.
"My life is my business" was a hard won lesson for me.
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Snuggs09: Amity, when I hear that someone has a best friend, I wonder what that person is to the other person. What I mean is, my idea of a best friend is that they will be there for me when I need to talk, they will come to my resuce if I'm in an accident.
Would your best friend's wife be agreeable to that
Would your best friend's wife be agreeable to that
Yes , she is wonderful. Lovely lady.
And yes he is my best friend....that does not necessarily mean i am his.
He is there when i need him...and i am here for him when he needs me.
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Snuggs09: Should I assume your son is also his son
If so, that makes a difference.
When my husband and I divorced, we were better friends after the divorce than husband and wife. We had a daughter and I knew it was breaking his heart to be away from her. The court told him when he could see her but I told him he could see her anytime he wanted to. I couldn't bear to see the hurt in his eyes when he dropped her off at the door. Besides our daughter, I knew that he was a good man. We just couldn't be married anymore. We were friends until the day he died.
If so, that makes a difference.
When my husband and I divorced, we were better friends after the divorce than husband and wife. We had a daughter and I knew it was breaking his heart to be away from her. The court told him when he could see her but I told him he could see her anytime he wanted to. I couldn't bear to see the hurt in his eyes when he dropped her off at the door. Besides our daughter, I knew that he was a good man. We just couldn't be married anymore. We were friends until the day he died.
My son is grown up and only my son, not his. But my ex was the only father figure for my son, my son's father disappeared when he was very little. My son has his own life and can meet my ex any time he wants, I and my ex don't have to have a good relationship for that. Even when my ex didn't talk to me he had a good relationship with my son.
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DoznEggs: Hi Snuggs, long time no see. I've been off here for quite a while, came back to hold up my record on one of the games and decided to take a peek and see if there was anyone I remembered.... And low and behold you, Snuggs, the nicest lady, was the first I saw. See quite a few familiar faces on your thread as well. Hope you are all well.
In response to your thread question, it didn't work that way for me. The relationship ended on a very sour note for me; and we left it as we'd keep in touch, but I was not able to. The pain caused during the relationship ran too deep; I'd been hurt too much, and too deeply. Some wounds heal fully, but some only heal on the outside, the pain still remains on the inside. So nice to run into you....
Eggy
In response to your thread question, it didn't work that way for me. The relationship ended on a very sour note for me; and we left it as we'd keep in touch, but I was not able to. The pain caused during the relationship ran too deep; I'd been hurt too much, and too deeply. Some wounds heal fully, but some only heal on the outside, the pain still remains on the inside. So nice to run into you....
Eggy
How great to see you Eggy. I just came back to CS myself two weeks ago.
We have much in common when it comes to the pain of a relationship ending. Mine ended six years ago and I still feel the pain. I don't want to be friends with him because he was a sneal and liar.
Yeah, some the familiar faces are still hanging around. I'm still trying to get my hands on Vinny but one minute he says too many miles between us, then he says I'm too old, then he says he doesn't like my blue sweater in my profile. He wants me to send him all my money before he decides if he wants to hang out with me. I'll get him by hook or by crook
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Snuggs09: I'm going to jump right through this screen and get ya
I envy you Vinny that you can look at your past gf's and know that they added to your life.
I envy you Vinny that you can look at your past gf's and know that they added to your life.
And took
A lot 
The relationships I have been in have all ended differently, one particularily badly, but they were good people and I dont regret, for one minute, any time spent with all of them.
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DoznEggs: Hi Snuggs, long time no see. I've been off here for quite a while, came back to hold up my record on one of the games and decided to take a peek and see if there was anyone I remembered.... And low and behold you, Snuggs, the nicest lady, was the first I saw. See quite a few familiar faces on your thread as well. Hope you are all well.
In response to your thread question, it didn't work that way for me. The relationship ended on a very sour note for me; and we left it as we'd keep in touch, but I was not able to. The pain caused during the relationship ran too deep; I'd been hurt too much, and too deeply. Some wounds heal fully, but some only heal on the outside, the pain still remains on the inside. So nice to run into you....
Eggy
In response to your thread question, it didn't work that way for me. The relationship ended on a very sour note for me; and we left it as we'd keep in touch, but I was not able to. The pain caused during the relationship ran too deep; I'd been hurt too much, and too deeply. Some wounds heal fully, but some only heal on the outside, the pain still remains on the inside. So nice to run into you....
Eggy
Great to see you
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Amity: Yes , she is wonderful. Lovely lady.
And yes he is my best friend....that does not necessarily mean i am his.
He is there when i need him...and i am here for him when he needs me.
And yes he is my best friend....that does not necessarily mean i am his.
He is there when i need him...and i am here for him when he needs me.
That's beautiful Amity. My husband was an alcoholic and we divorced because of that. However, I was always there for him when he needed to be dragged out of a bar, or when he would sleep in his car in the middle of winter. I was his true friend whenever he needed me. We were platonic and that didn't matter because he needed my friendship in order to stay alive. Unfortunately, I took my daughter to see him on Easter in 1975 and the next week I got a call that he was found dead. I lost the best friend I ever had.
So I answered my own question, yes you can be friends when a relationship ends. I know in my heart that I would have still been his best friend even if we didn't have our daughter
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Snuggs09: How great to see you Eggy. I just came back to CS myself two weeks ago.
We have much in common when it comes to the pain of a relationship ending. Mine ended six years ago and I still feel the pain. I don't want to be friends with him because he was a sneal and liar.
Yeah, some the familiar faces are still hanging around. I'm still trying to get my hands on Vinny but one minute he says too many miles between us, then he says I'm too old, then he says he doesn't like my blue sweater in my profile. He wants me to send him all my money before he decides if he wants to hang out with me. I'll get him by hook or by crook
We have much in common when it comes to the pain of a relationship ending. Mine ended six years ago and I still feel the pain. I don't want to be friends with him because he was a sneal and liar.
Yeah, some the familiar faces are still hanging around. I'm still trying to get my hands on Vinny but one minute he says too many miles between us, then he says I'm too old, then he says he doesn't like my blue sweater in my profile. He wants me to send him all my money before he decides if he wants to hang out with me. I'll get him by hook or by crook
What a coinky dinky Snuggs! Yes, we have a lot in common, I tend to agree with the posts you have here. I give everything I have, and that's what I want / expect in return. Just be a kind, caring and loving man, and you'll have a happy, loving, loyal, king, generous partner for life. Luckily I did not have much time invested. It was a valuable life lesson for me. So once must endure some pain in order to become stronger and wiser.
Yes, Vinny was one of the familiar faces I saw and kidatheart too. And there was another; I forget the whole name but I believe it's something like "Boban" or something like that. So sorry I can't remember, but I had a recent birthday and it seems with each one, more memory cells fly the coop.
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After my first wife told me she wanted me to leave because she couldn't deal with my having heart disease, she said we could remain friends. Yeah, she showed what kind of friend she was.
I walked away with what was mine and hardly ever said a word to her when I picked up my boys for a weekend or so. Now that the youngest has flown the coop, I don't have to deal with her anymore.
I walked away with what was mine and hardly ever said a word to her when I picked up my boys for a weekend or so. Now that the youngest has flown the coop, I don't have to deal with her anymore.
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Snuggs09: I don't want to be difficult, but if you are deeply in love with someone, and that person dumps you like a load of bricks, how can you look at that as an adventure and then agree to be in a friendship with them.
I agree with that, you can't be friends with anyone. My first husband, my son's father, sold our house, took the money and disappeared. Police couldn't find him. I was left alone with a 2 years old kid in a strange big city, without savings or job, or place to live, in revolution time, my parents lived in a different coutnry, friends turned their back to me because it was hard enough to survive for everyone. Guess, I have learned a lot about human nature then. and it lead us to a lot of new adventures. it certainly made our life more interesting but would I like be friends with my first husband? NO, I don't think I even want to know what happened to him.------ This thread is Archived ------
when you invest so much into a relationship and then realise that you have been betrayed, no, friendship is not possible.
Just say goodbye and get on with with life.
Just say goodbye and get on with with life.
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DoznEggs: What a coinky dinky Snuggs! Yes, we have a lot in common, I tend to agree with the posts you have here. I give everything I have, and that's what I want / expect in return. Just be a kind, caring and loving man, and you'll have a happy, loving, loyal, king, generous partner for life. Luckily I did not have much time invested. It was a valuable life lesson for me. So once must endure some pain in order to become stronger and wiser.
Yes, Vinny was one of the familiar faces I saw and kidatheart too. And there was another; I forget the whole name but I believe it's something like "Boban" or something like that. So sorry I can't remember, but I had a recent birthday and it seems with each one, more memory cells fly the coop.
Yes, Vinny was one of the familiar faces I saw and kidatheart too. And there was another; I forget the whole name but I believe it's something like "Boban" or something like that. So sorry I can't remember, but I had a recent birthday and it seems with each one, more memory cells fly the coop.
I think Boban was the first one to post. You make good sense Egg in that some pain is necessary for one to get stronger. I would have preferred to go to the gym and use the barbells
Happy belated birthday young lady
I hope you will stick around on the funny farm.
Let me tell you about memory cells....uh, I forgot
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vinny1967: Great to see you
Thanks Vinny, You Too! It's been a while. Seems like a long while. If my computer hadn't remembered my password, I'd still be in the blackhole of "wonder what my password is" land.
Wonder who else is still around??? I may have to pop in more and figure out how things work around here again. If you don't use it, you lose it as the saying goes.
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Sunnydaze14: when you invest so much into a relationship and then realise that you have been betrayed, no, friendship is not possible.
Just say goodbye and get on with with life.
Just say goodbye and get on with with life.
That's what happened to me, I was betrayed without one single warning. It's over and if I met someone new I know I wouldn't bring that baggage into a new relationship. Now I have a lot of time on my hands since losing my job so my mind isn't being used enough to be productive. Hence, I think about what if....
He wasn't even a good friend when we were together. What was I thinking when I fell in love with him
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Snuggs09: I think Boban was the first one to post. You make good sense Egg in that some pain is necessary for one to get stronger. I would have preferred to go to the gym and use the barbells
Happy belated birthday young lady
I hope you will stick around on the funny farm.
Let me tell you about memory cells....uh, I forgot
Happy belated birthday young lady
I hope you will stick around on the funny farm.
Let me tell you about memory cells....uh, I forgot
Well, I can already tell, I miss the smiles that are so abundant here. I'll be around now and again.
You're a hoot Snuggs! Thank you for my early evening chuckle tonight.
And thank you for your sweet birthday wishes; I truly appreciate them!
I'm off for now..... I hope my puter continues to remember my password. Glad I popped in today.
P.S. I'm allergic to Gyms and Barbells; but I take an anti-gym allergy pill every night so that I can force myself to get on my treadmill every morning. Goes back to the "If you don't use it, you lose it" philosophy; and I ain't getting any younger.
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Raynew1959: After my first wife told me she wanted me to leave because she couldn't deal with my having heart disease, she said we could remain friends. Yeah, she showed what kind of friend she was.I walked away with what was mine and hardly ever said a word to her when I picked up my boys for a weekend or so. Now that the youngest has flown the coop, I don't have to deal with her anymore.
That's very sad Ray.
Even thought we were divorced I took care of my husband when he was drunk or in need of any kind of medical care. I'm so sorry that you experienced this fair weather friend.
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DoznEggs: Thanks Vinny, You Too! It's been a while. Seems like a long while. If my computer hadn't remembered my password, I'd still be in the blackhole of "wonder what my password is" land.
Wonder who else is still around??? I may have to pop in more and figure out how things work around here again. If you don't use it, you lose it as the saying goes.
Wonder who else is still around??? I may have to pop in more and figure out how things work around here again. If you don't use it, you lose it as the saying goes.
Indy is still here, and JLW fell in love online
Now thats not news but someone fell for him Only kidding but he is now in a serious relationship. Laura 
is still here and others drop in from time to time as well. Probably forgot a few 
Oops Conrad and Bodleing.I was missing for 6 months or so myself, but the winter killed me and I logged back in. New crowd here really but I suppose it has a shelf life.
Hotel California springs to mind
Either way its good to see you and hope you and yours are well.
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it's a waste of time.
Just get closure, it's best you leave on good terms.
How would you like it if some old flame was hanging around still in the future relationships.
It's just rubbish keeping in conctact with an ex.
Only exception is if there are kids involved.
Just get closure, it's best you leave on good terms.
How would you like it if some old flame was hanging around still in the future relationships.
It's just rubbish keeping in conctact with an ex.
Only exception is if there are kids involved.
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