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Snuggs09: How often have you heard someone you dated for awhile say they are no longer interested in a relationship with you, but, we can still be friends.
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Nope ...
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I only have one friend from past bf's and he is now my best friend.
He is now married and we still stay in touch.
Considering i have only had 5 relationships i will take this as a good sign that being friends can work.
Not always...but depending on how you both care for each other and will always be there for the other no matter what! Then it will work.
He is now married and we still stay in touch.
Considering i have only had 5 relationships i will take this as a good sign that being friends can work.
Not always...but depending on how you both care for each other and will always be there for the other no matter what! Then it will work.
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Snuggs09: How often have you heard someone you dated for awhile say they are no longer interested in a relationship with you, but, we can still be friends.
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Can't be friends of the relationship ended on a bad note. I rather walk away.Its hard enough if you love that person and invested a lot emotionally and otherwise into the relationship to just be friends after.
Time heals , maybe in time yes .......
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Snuggs09: How often have you heard someone you dated for awhile say they are no longer interested in a relationship with you, but, we can still be friends.
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Hasn't worked for me. Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
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Snuggs09: How often have you heard someone you dated for awhile say they are no longer interested in a relationship with you, but, we can still be friends.
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Tough one Snuggs.
I always wanted to remain friends with my ex's. Of the three serious relationships I have been in I am only friends with my ex wife. I think having kids together is a major factor in us remaining friends.
It really depends on how the relationships ended. If there was infidelity I can see it as being a non runnder, or if there was a lot of arguing, where things are said that cant be unsaid, it can be a problem. Also when someone feels the pain of 'heartbreak' time and distance are the obvious remedies. Its hard to have distance if you see what has caused you this pain regularily.
Personally though I would have liked to remain friends with the other two.
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Well actually Im very close with my ex. Yes it can work. We hang out together and infact he is currently dating a really good friend of mine. WOW I might be ready for the Jerry Springer Show 
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devon80: Well actually Im very close with my ex. Yes it can work. We hang out together and infact he is currently dating a really good friend of mine. WOW I might be ready for the Jerry Springer Show
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I guess that works for some, but not for me.
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vinny1967: Tough one Snuggs.
I always wanted to remain friends with my ex's. Of the three serious relationships I have been in I am only friends with my ex wife. I think having kids together is a major factor in us remaining friends.
It really depends on how the relationships ended. If there was infidelity I can see it as being a non runnder, or if there was a lot of arguing, where things are said that cant be unsaid, it can be a problem. Also when someone feels the pain of 'heartbreak' time and distance are the obvious remedies. Its hard to have distance if you see what has caused you this pain regularily.
Personally though I would have liked to remain friends with the other two.
I always wanted to remain friends with my ex's. Of the three serious relationships I have been in I am only friends with my ex wife. I think having kids together is a major factor in us remaining friends.
It really depends on how the relationships ended. If there was infidelity I can see it as being a non runnder, or if there was a lot of arguing, where things are said that cant be unsaid, it can be a problem. Also when someone feels the pain of 'heartbreak' time and distance are the obvious remedies. Its hard to have distance if you see what has caused you this pain regularily.
Personally though I would have liked to remain friends with the other two.
Hi Vinny
I myself wouldn't be able to remain friends because I put too much of myself into the relationship. I would feel betrayed if he said "it's not working" when I know I'm in love with him. Mind you Vinny, that very thing happened to me although he didn't have the decency to tell me he wanted out.
I love too much and too hard when in love.
I agree if I caught the person cheating on me I would tell him to hit the highway.
I think it's better to move on with your life when a relationship fails. I doubt the new person in my life would appreciate the last love being a so-called friend.
Nice to see you
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Amity: I only have one friend from past bf's and he is now my best friend.
He is now married and we still stay in touch.
Considering i have only had 5 relationships i will take this as a good sign that being friends can work.
Not always...but depending on how you both care for each other and will always be there for the other no matter what! Then it will work.
He is now married and we still stay in touch.
Considering i have only had 5 relationships i will take this as a good sign that being friends can work.
Not always...but depending on how you both care for each other and will always be there for the other no matter what! Then it will work.
Amity, when I hear that someone has a best friend, I wonder what that person is to the other person. What I mean is, my idea of a best friend is that they will be there for me when I need to talk, they will come to my resuce if I'm in an accident.
Would your best friend's wife be agreeable to that
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sultryash: Can't be friends of the relationship ended on a bad note. I rather walk away.Its hard enough if you love that person and invested a lot emotionally and otherwise into the relationship to just be friends after.
Time heals, maybe in time yes .......
Time heals, maybe in time yes .......
Time can only be healing if you can forgive the person that hurt you. I have to say, I can't. I'm not sure about time healing Sultry.
That's exactly my point. If you loved so hard that you gave it all (emotionally) to that one person and then that person says.....see ya.
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kidatheart: Yep, works for me too, I hold no ill will towards anyone I've dated, but that doesn't mean I'd date any of them again. There was one thing in common with all of them, they're good people, and that was the initial attraction, Just because we're not dating anymore, doesn't negate that fact.
I still like them as people, and get along with them just fine.
I still like them as people, and get along with them just fine.
What an excellent attitude Kid. You are so right. The initial attraction was that they were good people. The fact that the relationship didn't work doesn't mean that they aren't quality people anymore.
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Snuggs09: Hi Vinny
I myself wouldn't be able to remain friends because I put too much of myself into the relationship. I would feel betrayed if he said "it's not working" when I know I'm in love with him. Mind you Vinny, that very thing happened to me although he didn't have the decency to tell me he wanted out.
I love too much and too hard when in love.
I agree if I caught the person cheating on me I would tell him to hit the highway.
I think it's better to move on with your life when a relationship fails. I doubt the new person in my life would appreciate the last love being a so-called friend.
Nice to see you
I myself wouldn't be able to remain friends because I put too much of myself into the relationship. I would feel betrayed if he said "it's not working" when I know I'm in love with him. Mind you Vinny, that very thing happened to me although he didn't have the decency to tell me he wanted out.
I love too much and too hard when in love.
I agree if I caught the person cheating on me I would tell him to hit the highway.
I think it's better to move on with your life when a relationship fails. I doubt the new person in my life would appreciate the last love being a so-called friend.
Nice to see you
I guess I see things slightly differently. I was attracted to these people for a variety of reasons. They have traits I like and I would not have entered a long term relationship without them. Basically what I'm saying is they still have those characteristics and I still like them as people.
I also dont see a past relationship as a failure. I would have regretted not having those relationships, and while they ended, I got so much from each one and I enjoyed each ride
And you C
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vinny1967: I guess I see things slightly differently. I was attracted to these people for a variety of reasons. They have traits I like and I would not have entered a long term relationship without them. Basically what I'm saying is they still have those characteristics and I still like them as people.
I also dont see a past relationship as a failure.
I would have regretted not having those relationships, and while they ended, I got so much from each one and I enjoyed each ride
And you C
I also dont see a past relationship as a failure.
I would have regretted not having those relationships, and while they ended, I got so much from each one and I enjoyed each ride
And you C
If I think back I don't see anything in my life as a failure, but an adventure. It only makes life more interesting to live. 
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vinny1967: I guess I see things slightly differently. I was attracted to these people for a variety of reasons. They have traits I like and I would not have entered a long term relationship without them. Basically what I'm saying is they still have those characteristics and I still like them as people.
I also dont see a past relationship as a failure. I would have regretted not having those relationships, and while they ended, I got so much from each one and I enjoyed each ride
And you C
I also dont see a past relationship as a failure. I would have regretted not having those relationships, and while they ended, I got so much from each one and I enjoyed each ride
And you C
I'm going to jump right through this screen and get ya
I envy you Vinny that you can look at your past gf's and know that they added to your life.
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I have forgiven all and let go. I wish them well in life and release them in my heart. I am friendly towards my ex, I even get aong great with his new spouse. We certainly raised the kids cooperatively, with no anomosity. However, would I sit and dish about my latest date?? not a snowalls chance in hell. Ive learned to set clear boundaries, boundaries I dont have with friends.
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nevica: If I think back I don't see anything in my life as a failure, but an adventure. It only makes life more interesting to live.
I don't want to be difficult, but if you are deeply in love with someone, and that person dumps you like a load of bricks, how can you look at that as an adventure and then agree to be in a friendship with them.
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venusenvy: I have forgiven all and let go. I wish them well in life and release them in my heart. I am friendly towards my ex, I even get aong great with his new spouse. We certainly raised the kids cooperatively, with no anomosity. However, would I sit and dish about my latest date?? not a snowalls chance in hell. Ive learned to set clear boundaries, boundaries I dont have with friends.
That's what I'm asking, what should the boundaries be with your past lover when they are now your friend.
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Snuggs09: How often have you heard someone you dated for awhile say they are no longer interested in a relationship with you, but, we can still be friends.
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?
Hi Snuggs, long time no see. I've been off here for quite a while, came back to hold up my record on one of the games and decided to take a peek and see if there was anyone I remembered.... And low and behold you, Snuggs, the nicest lady, was the first I saw. See quite a few familiar faces on your thread as well. Hope you are all well.
In response to your thread question, it didn't work that way for me. The relationship ended on a very sour note for me; and we left it as we'd keep in touch, but I was not able to. The pain caused during the relationship ran too deep; I'd been hurt too much, and too deeply. Some wounds heal fully, but some only heal on the outside, the pain still remains on the inside. So nice to run into you....
Eggy
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Does it really work?
You spend time with this person, you were intimate, you told him/her your secrets, your problems and yet they no longer want you in their life............except to be friends.
What are the boundaries of a friendship like that?
What happens when you find someone knew.
Would you want to be friends with your last love while trying to develop a new relationship?