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freominx: a guy I went out with for 3 minutes, about 34 years ago has been trying to contact me for the past few years. Now, weirdly I became FB friends with a person who lives in the country town where me and this guy met and "went out" for 3 minutes
She and her hubby know him cos he still lives there and to cut a long story short, they were passing on messages to me from him. I eventually gave them my phone no. to pass on, not thinking too much of it, and he phones me yesterday morning! I was a bit stunned and we only talked for about 10 mins, but he definitely wants to catch up and remembers everything about me and told me he has been searching for me for years, (since his divorce). He still sounds the same haha, but I am finding it difficult to conceive how he can be holding a torch for this long, considering it was definitely nothing serious, both he and I were only around 18y.o. at the time, and I am definitely now not quite as "free" thinking as I was back then. Suggestions peoples, remembering he still lives in the country and I am a city slicker
Sounds weird ,like u didnt like him in the first place,"Still sounds the same,since his divorce".Get over it.Move on.Sorry,sad but trueShe and her hubby know him cos he still lives there and to cut a long story short, they were passing on messages to me from him. I eventually gave them my phone no. to pass on, not thinking too much of it, and he phones me yesterday morning! I was a bit stunned and we only talked for about 10 mins, but he definitely wants to catch up and remembers everything about me and told me he has been searching for me for years, (since his divorce). He still sounds the same haha, but I am finding it difficult to conceive how he can be holding a torch for this long, considering it was definitely nothing serious, both he and I were only around 18y.o. at the time, and I am definitely now not quite as "free" thinking as I was back then. Suggestions peoples, remembering he still lives in the country and I am a city slicker
Now that I think back, he was always a gentleman at the ripe old age of 18, and he did treat me very well, just that I was still very immature and wild back then, and I should have treated him better, which is why I am wondering what I ever "did" for him for him to remember me for so long and seek me out? Let's put it this way, if I had met him NOW, he being what he WAS, I would have appreciated him a lot more now that I have life experience blah blah
sounds like he could be trying to recapture his youth and you were part of that.
He is probably in love with what was. And as you say you have changed. There usually is no going back, especially if as you say there was nothing there to start with. Ring him back, tell him it was nice to hear from you but you cannot offer him anything. Or meet him for coffee in a public place and tell him all that.
Good luck
He is probably in love with what was. And as you say you have changed. There usually is no going back, especially if as you say there was nothing there to start with. Ring him back, tell him it was nice to hear from you but you cannot offer him anything. Or meet him for coffee in a public place and tell him all that.
Good luck
miss_socialite: Sounds weird ,like u didnt like him in the first place,"Still sounds the same,since his divorce".Get over it.Move on.Sorry,sad but true
Go out and see - can't hurt! see how far you both have come - and what have you lost by catching up?
freominx: Now that I think back, he was always a gentleman at the ripe old age of 18, and he did treat me very well, just that I was still very immature and wild back then, and I should have treated him better, which is why I am wondering what I ever "did" for him for him to remember me for so long and seek me out? Let's put it this way, if I had met him NOW, he being what he WAS, I would have appreciated him a lot more now that I have life experience blah blah
Hey,we all grow up..Take it as u will.Thats life,live with no regrets.Accept great friends and company,which made us grow up in the first place..Good luck with it all,hope u figure it outWysterious, yeah I wonder if I should still meet up with him, then maybe he will realise I am not the "wild, skinny, free thinking little minx he met back then", though secretly I am still all those things. Maybe the Notebook movie is in the back of my mind, making me think there may be someone out there for ME
freominx: Wysterious, yeah I wonder if I should still meet up with him, then maybe he will realise I am not the "wild, skinny, free thinking little minx he met back then", though secretly I am still all those things. Maybe the Notebook movie is in the back of my mind, making me think there may be someone out there for ME
You dont think that says it all...you need to meet someone,,wild,skinny and free thinking..makes all the difference.You sound like a top lady,just need to find yourself,not try to impress other people.Please dont take it the wrong way,cause I dont mean it like that.Just need to be yourself,,,all the way
freominx: Wysterious, yeah I wonder if I should still meet up with him, then maybe he will realise I am not the "wild, skinny, free thinking little minx he met back then", though secretly I am still all those things. Maybe the Notebook movie is in the back of my mind, making me think there may be someone out there for ME
Maybe he knows this and wants to see what you have grown to be - I met up with my first boyfriend once - I had this fantasy image of him for years - and once I met him - it disappeared lolmiss socialite, it appears you know me well hahaha
yeah, well I've been alone for a very long time, years and years in fact, maybe I should take the plunge
freominx: miss socialite, it appears you know me well hahaha
we all wish for the perfect man,,just caught up with my very first high school boyfriend,,and went through the very exact same thing lol,,it hurts,,but helps us move on..and grow.and then we make better friends.
hahah, thanks miss socialite, but you are younger than me? My time is running out
true noeleena, however he's apparently been searching me out for the past 3 years, and apparently harrassed my FB friend who knows him, so I think he is not just looking for a "catch up" haha
Nice to get some peoples opinions however, would have been nice if some malefolk had posted so I could get their feedback on it too
Nice to get some peoples opinions however, would have been nice if some malefolk had posted so I could get their feedback on it too
freominx: a guy I went out with for 3 minutes, about 34 years ago has been trying to contact me for the past few years. Now, weirdly I became FB friends with a person who lives in the country town where me and this guy met and "went out" for 3 minutes
She and her hubby know him cos he still lives there and to cut a long story short, they were passing on messages to me from him. I eventually gave them my phone no. to pass on, not thinking too much of it, and he phones me yesterday morning! I was a bit stunned and we only talked for about 10 mins, but he definitely wants to catch up and remembers everything about me and told me he has been searching for me for years, (since his divorce). He still sounds the same haha, but I am finding it difficult to conceive how he can be holding a torch for this long, considering it was definitely nothing serious, both he and I were only around 18y.o. at the time, and I am definitely now not quite as "free" thinking as I was back then. Suggestions peoples, remembering he still lives in the country and I am a city slicker
She and her hubby know him cos he still lives there and to cut a long story short, they were passing on messages to me from him. I eventually gave them my phone no. to pass on, not thinking too much of it, and he phones me yesterday morning! I was a bit stunned and we only talked for about 10 mins, but he definitely wants to catch up and remembers everything about me and told me he has been searching for me for years, (since his divorce). He still sounds the same haha, but I am finding it difficult to conceive how he can be holding a torch for this long, considering it was definitely nothing serious, both he and I were only around 18y.o. at the time, and I am definitely now not quite as "free" thinking as I was back then. Suggestions peoples, remembering he still lives in the country and I am a city slicker
Hey Minxy, obviously you made an impression!!
I reckon you should go for it, what is holding you back? Fear? You may be missing something really great, clearly he has never forgotten you but my only question is what happened way back then that you parted ways so quickly? Is there good reason that you shouldn't go back? as I said, I was "free and wild" so just left one day on a whim, returned home to Mummy and Daddy, before my next adventure haha, went back to that country town when I had just married, husband and this guy had a "run in" one night when it was discovered that this guy still had feelings for me. Husband and I left a week later, husband and father to my two children was an abusive arsehole, who ended up in prison for 8 years for attempted murder, I spent the next 10 years in hiding, long story blah blah, haven't really had a relationship since.
freominx: as I said, I was "free and wild" so just left one day on a whim, returned home to Mummy and Daddy, before my next adventure haha, went back to that country town when I had just married, husband and this guy had a "run in" one night when it was discovered that this guy still had feelings for me. Husband and I left a week later, husband and father to my two children was an abusive arsehole, who ended up in prison for 8 years for attempted murder, I spent the next 10 years in hiding, long story blah blah, haven't really had a relationship since.
You deserve to be happy and maybe this is the opportunity to at least get you back out there, even if it doesn't work out. Considering your situation it may be very helpful to you on a personal level to explore where this path with someone you already somewhat know. It may be a bit more comfortable and easy for you to let your guard down and let yourself enjoy life and what it has to offer.
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She and her hubby know him cos he still lives there and to cut a long story short, they were passing on messages to me from him. I eventually gave them my phone no. to pass on, not thinking too much of it, and he phones me yesterday morning! I was a bit stunned and we only talked for about 10 mins, but he definitely wants to catch up and remembers everything about me and told me he has been searching for me for years, (since his divorce). He still sounds the same haha, but I am finding it difficult to conceive how he can be holding a torch for this long, considering it was definitely nothing serious, both he and I were only around 18y.o. at the time, and I am definitely now not quite as "free" thinking as I was back then. Suggestions peoples, remembering he still lives in the country and I am a city slicker