which one is worst ( Archived) (22)

my bf and i were together for 8 months. he is muslim and i am christian.
we work together and he asked me not to tell anyone that we are together. i agreed,

we were happy until his parents are arranging marriage for him.

he went for vacation- and i found out from his friends that he got engage to the woman his parents picked from him.

then in a week he got married.

during those painful times, i broke the promise and vent out everything to my colleague because it was painful. so hurtful.

cause i felt so guilty about telling it, i told him that i spoke about us to one of our colleagues, he got angry at me.

cause he asked me before if i spoke to anyone and i said no- there i lied.

i am feeling so guilty. but at one point i should not.

i asked him to forgive me. he said that if his wife finds out that he had a gf before marrying him, it will be a big problem.

i know i should be bothered cause now he is married. but how come this has been my fault where in act, i should get angry.

It sounds like you are very lucky to get rid of him IMO.

He is the lier by dating you knowing that he could not take it all the way to marriage because of religious beliefs. He has deceived YOU I think, big time.

Better luck next time .....

thank you so much, :)

he should have thought about it before having a relationship with you..was he an arab?

he is an arab yes. he is nice to me. i broke the only thing that he asked me to do. but come on, it was hurtful finding out what he did. and i meant no harm by venting it out

he is an arab yes. he is nice to me. i broke the only thing that he asked me to do. but come on, it was hurtful finding out what he did. and i meant no harm by venting it out

He asked you not to talk about your relationship when you were together, which you agreed to and kept that promise, yeah?

If, instead of asking you this, he had asked you not to talk about your relationship even after his forth coming arranged marriage, what would you have said?

If you are asked to make a promise based on false information, the promise does not extend to the information that the person has witheld.

If a friend asked you to look after her kids for the afternoon and then went on holiday for a fortnight, is it fair for that friend to expect you to look after her kids for the whole fortnight?

Nobody has the right to supress your need to talk and process hurt that they have caused with their lies.

You are only feeling guilty because this lying toad has bullied you into feeling like that.

If this information may impact on his marriage, he should have thought of that before he had a relationship with you, or married his wife. His wife is being lied to also.

Take it as lesson learnt for better next time :-)

you are so right,

i mean, yes, how can you start your life with your wife if you cannot discuss your past.and what, pretend to your wife that you had never seen anyone. and now, he is judging me of lying.

yes, o everyone here, i feel so guilty because i tried to be true. and i always am. and i feel so guilty about lying.

and yes again maybe at some point i wish him to remember me on a good note.