How many email's before you meet some one (36)
Well you could keep emailing indefinitely if there's still lots to talk about but why wait ages, I would myself think if I or he hadn't suggested meeting up after say two weeks of emailing then it's time to "fish or cut bait!" JMO 
Dropdownbandit: I was wondering what all you forum guru's think about this, I have been emailing back and forth with a some internet pu tang and i thought perhaps i should put my foot down and say that their is a limit on the amount time i am willing to spend emailing back forth with out it leading into a date of some kind.
I told one girl 12 emails and if you dont want to go for a coffee or what ever then thats my cut off point as i find you end up just emailing so much that you either just end being online firends and then end going no where fast, or just get bored writing emails to some one as it doesnt seem to be leading anywhere.
so how many emails/ or how long do you think you should chat with some one online before meeting up in person ?
if mailing someone on a regular basis there is only so much you could say through a screen without things gettin repetitive and boring I told one girl 12 emails and if you dont want to go for a coffee or what ever then thats my cut off point as i find you end up just emailing so much that you either just end being online firends and then end going no where fast, or just get bored writing emails to some one as it doesnt seem to be leading anywhere.
so how many emails/ or how long do you think you should chat with some one online before meeting up in person ?
2 weeks tops i sayI've changed my opinion on this since I first joined......
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Dropdownbandit: I was wondering what all you forum guru's think about this, I have been emailing back and forth with a some internet pu tang and i thought perhaps i should put my foot down and say that their is a limit on the amount time i am willing to spend emailing back forth with out it leading into a date of some kind.
I told one girl 12 emails and if you dont want to go for a coffee or what ever then thats my cut off point as i find you end up just emailing so much that you either just end being online firends and then end going no where fast, or just get bored writing emails to some one as it doesnt seem to be leading anywhere.
so how many emails/ or how long do you think you should chat with some one online before meeting up in person ?
I told one girl 12 emails and if you dont want to go for a coffee or what ever then thats my cut off point as i find you end up just emailing so much that you either just end being online firends and then end going no where fast, or just get bored writing emails to some one as it doesnt seem to be leading anywhere.
so how many emails/ or how long do you think you should chat with some one online before meeting up in person ?
I think giving people an ultimatum isnt a good idea
I mean its supposed to feel natural to meet someone
so it can be comfortable for both involved
asking to meet someone should feel as natural to you
as asking a good friend to go for a drink .
relax and enjoy the process
Sooner is best . If you are in the same country that is.
I'm an oId fashion type of guy but I think .....after the naked pic email be a perfect time to me 
But on the honest side , if you both feel like you have chatted long enough and want to meet then go for it and I wish you both the best for the future
But on the honest side , if you both feel like you have chatted long enough and want to meet then go for it and I wish you both the best for the future
none...
i think chat for a while if you feel a connection ask to meet
if she says no then shes just not interested
if she says no then shes just not interested
LiamMG: i think chat for a while if you feel a connection ask to meet
if she says no then shes just not interested
if she says no then shes just not interested
dust yourself off and keep goingIts hard to tell really. Hmmm, I used to email a lady a bit, we used to chat on Facebook, have a laugh etc. Met up, had a grand day out, but, sorta' realised that perhaps we didnt really get on. Havent talked to her since that day 
I guess when it gets to the point where you know enough about each other to feel safe and comfortable and you feel that compulsion to want to meet up and see how things go.
I guess when it gets to the point where you know enough about each other to feel safe and comfortable and you feel that compulsion to want to meet up and see how things go.
TEASE: dust yourself off and keep going
theres plenty more fish in the sea duckpate: So she was right you weren't interested !
i was interested at the start ok but it dragged on so long my interest waned slowly assssss it went no where, but their was no way i didnt seem bothered right i am 100% sure i showed interest and that it was in fact just her not being to bothered either
LiamMG: theres plenty more fish in the sea
exactly but its important to get straight back up
and to keep moving forward .
the difference between winners and losers is winners
fail more often and from their mistakes .
Dropdownbandit: i was interested at the start ok but it dragged on so long my interest waned slowly assssss it went no where, but their was no way i didnt seem bothered right i am 100% sure i showed interest and that it was in fact just her not being to bothered either
Yeah I understand that. But you kept persuing her for a meet when you had gone off her or gone off the idea of meeting, so I suppose I can't make out why you would do that , is all
duckpate: And to be honest Dropdown , why were you persuing her if you weren't interested.
Was it for your ego ? Not being argumentative here , but perhaps look at how "YOU" behave online rather than other people.
Was it for your ego ? Not being argumentative here , but perhaps look at how "YOU" behave online rather than other people.
now i was interested at the start and most of the time we chated i only lost interested when i felt i was being blown of so i stopped even chatting with her i thought fek move on, thats when i got the you didnt seem interested which pissed me off because we really got on well.
And very much myself online and ive not egotistical at all so no it was nothing like that.
and to yes we chatted for a while to skype etc
Dropdownbandit: now i was interested at the start and most of the time we chated i only lost interested when i felt i was being blown of so i stopped even chatting with her i thought fek move on, thats when i got the you didnt seem interested which pissed me off because we really got on well.
And very much myself online and ive not egotistical at all so no it was nothing like that.
and to yes we chatted for a while to skype etc
And very much myself online and ive not egotistical at all so no it was nothing like that.
and to yes we chatted for a while to skype etc
Ah ok , now I get you ... after you lost interest you stopped asking her to meet up with you . Sorry for the misunderstanding Dropdown .
NoeloD076: Are you nuts or what? I only ask a girl out once.....if she is interested she says yes or if it doesn't suit she suggests a different time to meet. If she says no or agrees to meet me and then cancels then thats that, i move on........ NEXT
well when i say asked you, i mean i just brought it up when we were chatting casually oh lets go for a coffe or some thing i was just txt me what ever and il meet you i would actually say lets go on a date !! because i find that wierd... when i was saying i asked her i just kind of brought it up in our conversations like lets go cinema or what ever.
let me just make this clear ok the thing that pissed me off was not the fact we didnt meet up it was the kind of kick in the balls way after i said fek im not bothering with her again that she then turned around and tried to make it out that i was the one not interested it just peeeeeved me up the wrong way
Dropdownbandit: well when i say asked you, i mean i just brought it up when we were chatting casually oh lets go for a coffe or some thing i was just txt me what ever and il meet you i would actually say lets go on a date !! because i find that wierd... when i was saying i asked her i just kind of brought it up in our conversations like lets go cinema or what ever.
let me just make this clear ok the thing that pissed me off was not the fact we didnt meet up it was the kind of kick in the balls way after i said fek im not bothering with her again that she then turned around and tried to make it out that i was the one not interested it just peeeeeved me up the wrong way
let me just make this clear ok the thing that pissed me off was not the fact we didnt meet up it was the kind of kick in the balls way after i said fek im not bothering with her again that she then turned around and tried to make it out that i was the one not interested it just peeeeeved me up the wrong way
Yea women will do stuff like that even when your dating them
TEASE: Yea women will do stuff like that even when your dating them
Don't be hiding down there.......men are quite capable of the same thing
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I told one girl 12 emails and if you dont want to go for a coffee or what ever then thats my cut off point as i find you end up just emailing so much that you either just end being online firends and then end going no where fast, or just get bored writing emails to some one as it doesnt seem to be leading anywhere.
so how many emails/ or how long do you think you should chat with some one online before meeting up in person ?