Misleading or what? (81)

Envy51: Are you the type of person who makes a judgement of another person, male or female on your first meeting with them?
I am asking this question because, while i am full of guff on here and when you get to know me (ask anyone on here who has meet me a few times)............... At first i am very shy and standoffish to a point where some people think i am a snob. I am not, i am just painfuly shy .........!!!!!!!!!!! Does anyone else suffer ( and i use the word SUFFER because i do) from being shy and what do you do to overcome it?

johneire31: I know exactly what you mean here, i used to treat this condition and it is a condition with alcohol, not a good idea. I bet you work well with certain types of people who are more 'out going' but don't invade your space either, people with a bit of cop on and understanding. A doctor would call this General Anxiety Disoder or Social Anxiety Disorder and probaly put you on valuim or something to calm you down or refer you to head doctor.

I have it mildly, so I take nothing, kinda force myself into uncomfortable senarios its meant to help. check out CBT on google, its mean't to be very good if you get a good skrink or practioner.

the whole thing is based on the fight or flight response in humans, a response we don't need today to that extent. We become protective and our bodies start getting defensive. like small trembles, dry mouth,stutter, shaky voice, sweating more, our nervous system becomes hyper sensitive as a protective mechinism for our survival. it over reacts to the situation.

In CBT, your taught to recognise and to 'rehearse' certain common life situations, your shown a sequence of techniques you use to counter act the bodies responses, over time these become very natural and you automatically deal with the situations easier, that the theory anyways, have a good google. Watch the Kings Speech, a true story of the present queens father and how he suffered and dealt with it.

on the other side, you have a medicine solution. Drugs like lexepro and lyrica and cymbalta are drugs used to treat anxiety of various origin. They are not addictive but some of them have a discontinuation senario to them, you just can't stop taking instantly when you want you have to reduce the dose over time. I have two friends who are on them and they report a massive improvemnet to their lifestyle, I can't say for sure.

But one thing i can say is this condition is dibilating, isolating, and causes severe stress, nobody needs to live like this, and I feel today you don't have to cos help is there, probably start with you doctor and see from there. there is no harm in trying anything, if it doesn't work or is not for you, you can always go back to they way you are now.

Nothing in this post is intended as medical advice or to replace medical advice, you doctor should be consulted in the first instance, everything above is my own opinion and may not be right for you.

In response to: Are you the type of person who makes a judgement of another person, male or female on your first meeting with them?
I am asking this question because, while i am full of guff on here and when you get to know me (ask anyone on here who has meet me a few times)............... i am very shy and standoffish to a point where some people think i am a snob. I am not, i am just painfuly shy .........!!!!!!!!!!! Does anyone else suffer ( and i use the word SUFFER because i do) from being shy and what do you do to overcome it?

Envy51: I know people can be deceiving Aims but .......................would you be able to tell the difference between a shy person and someone who is acting shy?

Crystal29: Yeah Envy I'm afraid I judge immediately I meet someone....its just my way. When I meet someone then I know right away if they are someone I would want to spend time with or not.....and I usually get it right...I think.....theres no point in wasting anyones time.

I only get really shy when I fancy the pants off someone....

Envy51: Thank you for you post but i have to say i think you are taking my shyness to the level of an anxiety disorder without any knowledge of me.......... !!!!!

While every persons input on the forums is welcome, i think you should read the question that i posted and answer that and not a question that YOU think i asked..................... a lot of people may say i am saying this because i do not like your answer, it is not that, i just think your answer is way over the mark of the question i asked ........!!!!!!!! Opinions please?

Envy51: Sorry i should have added these words .............At first

Godsgift: Don't be deceived. Many of the people you would regard as extroverts, are at heart deeply shy and nervous. Their way of coping is to unconsciously create an external exuberant personality to keep the world out. You can lose track of who you really are that way.

Your own way of coping is to unconsciously put a wall around yourself and I'm guessing there's times you hate yourself for being that way.

I'll bet if you and Sharina got talking, you'd find that deep down, you're extremely similar.

itchywitch: sometimes i prefare it when some stay in their shell