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unouwantme2pussyville, Tipperary Ireland144 Threads 4,470 Postsseen as this is a dating site, i want to ask this question.. how big an issue is distance for you on here, yes this was discussed before BUT i was just thinking, isnt online dating ment to broaden your horizon and not just have you stuck in your own society.. the question im posing here is would you speak to someone whose within reasonable distance to you, say 1hr 20 mins to 1hr 30 mins away or does he/she have to practically be in your backyard.. also women on here(can only speak for ye as dont look at men) and i see this alot in profiles prefer lads who have qualifications or are working.. people dont seem to realise were in a deep recession and this shouldnt be held over somebodys head!!
unouwantme2: seen as this is a dating site, i want to ask this question.. how big an issue is distance for you on here, yes this was discussed before BUT i was just thinking, isnt online dating ment to broaden your horizon and not just have you stuck in your own society.. the question im posing here is would you speak to someone whose within reasonable distance to you, say 1hr 20 mins to 1hr 30 mins away or does he/she have to practically be in your backyard.. also women on here(can only speak for ye as dont look at men) and i see this alot in profiles prefer lads who have qualifications or are working.. people dont seem to realise were in a deep recession and this shouldnt be held over somebodys head!!
I live in donegal he lives in limerick not ideal but its not the biggest issue to over come if you want to meet and date the person
as for last part i aint commenting
anniebaby: I live in donegal he lives in limerick not ideal but its not the biggest issue to over come if you want to meet and date the person
as for last part i aint commenting
this is just a general topic, doesnt concern anyone in partic, just to point that out.. so the distance thing didnt stop you..as for last part i aint commenting
can i ask why you wont comment on last bit?
unouwantme2: this is just a general topic, doesnt concern anyone in partic, just to point that out.. so the distance thing didnt stop you..
can i ask why you wont comment on last bit?
can i ask why you wont comment on last bit?
I know its a general topic
i was a little concerned at start but now its fine it works, times it wud b nicer to see him more often but sometimes i like the space used to it now
i wont comment on the last part coz i dont have it on my profile
and as you said ur self we are in a recession so it wud hardly be fair to say needs to be working
anniebaby: I know its a general topic
i was a little concerned at start but now its fine it works, times it wud b nicer to see him more often but sometimes i like the space used to it now
i wont comment on the last part coz i dont have it on my profile
and as you said ur self we are in a recession so it wud hardly be fair to say needs to be working
cool.. so let me ask this question then.. what matters more to you in a lads profile, his apperance or what you read?? this is to everyone, men and womeni was a little concerned at start but now its fine it works, times it wud b nicer to see him more often but sometimes i like the space used to it now
i wont comment on the last part coz i dont have it on my profile
and as you said ur self we are in a recession so it wud hardly be fair to say needs to be working
unouwantme2: cool.. so let me ask this question then.. what matters more to you in a lads profile, his apperance or what you read?? this is to everyone, men and women
Obviously appearance is the 'eye catcher', but, if I dont like what I read in the profile (even if she is a stunner) then I dont bother getting in contact. Equally I've contacted people with great profiles and no pics.
As for the original question, unless you're living in one of the major towns/cities of this country then choice is pretty limited, if like me you live in a small town, ie Carlow. I dont drive, and dont expect anyone to drive to me so, honestly I look at places that are easy to get to via train, bus, whatever; South East, Dublin, etc (not that it makes a lot of difference because as of yet I havent met anyone off here, well....not in a 'date' sense anyway). Forward thinking I guess.
distance is an issue for me an hour and a half is ok but much further is alot of hard work especially when u have children and i just dont have the time for all of that travelling at the moment as for your other question it makes no difference to me wether hes working or not
Green_Sleeves: Obviously appearance is the 'eye catcher', but, if I dont like what I read in the profile (even if she is a stunner) then I dont bother getting in contact. Equally I've contacted people with great profiles and no pics.
As for the original question, unless you're living in one of the major towns/cities of this country then choice is pretty limited, if like me you live in a small town, ie Carlow. I dont drive, and dont expect anyone to drive to me so, honestly I look at places that are easy to get to via train, bus, whatever; South East, Dublin, etc (not that it makes a lot of difference because as of yet I havent met anyone off here, well....not in a 'date' sense anyway). Forward thinking I guess.
see if apperance is the eye catcher all those stunning looking humans in real life who are with not so good looking partners, wouldnt look sideways at them on a dating site.. it just shows that everyone on here is extremlly fussy, some moreso then othersAs for the original question, unless you're living in one of the major towns/cities of this country then choice is pretty limited, if like me you live in a small town, ie Carlow. I dont drive, and dont expect anyone to drive to me so, honestly I look at places that are easy to get to via train, bus, whatever; South East, Dublin, etc (not that it makes a lot of difference because as of yet I havent met anyone off here, well....not in a 'date' sense anyway). Forward thinking I guess.
unouwantme2: seen as this is a dating site, i want to ask this question.. how big an issue is distance for you on here, yes this was discussed before BUT i was just thinking, isnt online dating ment to broaden your horizon and not just have you stuck in your own society.. the question im posing here is would you speak to someone whose within reasonable distance to you, say 1hr 20 mins to 1hr 30 mins away or does he/she have to practically be in your backyard.. also women on here(can only speak for ye as dont look at men) and i see this alot in profiles prefer lads who have qualifications or are working.. people dont seem to realise were in a deep recession and this shouldnt be held over somebodys head!!
Being without a weekly wage is about the only thing stopping me from 'throwing myself' into asking for the meeting out /dating side of things . Apart from that , I'm free to come and go as I please and don't think I'd have a problem with 2-4 hours drive , as I love driving 
Urbuddy: Being without a weekly wage is about the only thing stopping me from 'throwing myself' into asking for the meeting out /dating side of things . Apart from that , I'm free to come and go as I please and don't think I'd have a problem with 2-4 hours drive , as I love driving
In addition to that , no I don't think I'd really mind if a girl I was dating a girl whom wasn't working .unouwantme2: see if apperance is the eye catcher all those stunning looking humans in real life who are with not so good looking partners, wouldnt look sideways at them on a dating site.. it just shows that everyone on here is extremlly fussy, some moreso then others
Its just human nature I suppose, we are all, for the most part attracted to something that is percieved to be attractive/beautiful, thats peoples own perogative. That I believe is emphasised even more here because, to put it blunt its a bit of a 'pick n mix' or 'window shopping', we all have our best pics up (even the 'vunerable' sleeping pics :P), one can pick out the 'pretty' ones and give them a shot without the risk of facing any major embarrasment, unlike in 'real life'.
As regards good looking people being with not so good looking people in real life, well, everyone has there own perception of what they find attractive I guess personality really does win out, and rightly so. I'd always associated physical beauty with success, ie, if you were beautiful/good looking you'd have all the luck, but that isnt necessarily true in the long run.
unouwantme2: im fussy but not ridiculously fussy
i wouldnt turn around and say(talking about on here now not a pub/club)my potential gf would have to be from a, have to have this hair colour has to be this height, etc etc... i dont believe this ''one type'' crap at allGreen_Sleeves: Why would you be slated for that? Its the truth is it not and true of almost everyone? If you dont find someone attractive physically/mentally then you dont find them attractive, simple as. We all have ideas in our head of an ideal partner, what it is we are looking for, no point settling for less, its your future be as fussy as you choose to be
you say we all have our idea of the ideal partner... would you be overlly fussy in what you look for, like one particular type?unouwantme2: you say we all have our idea of the ideal partner... would you be overlly fussy in what you look for, like one particular type?
Yeah I reckon I am fussy and look for certain traits in people, I wouldnt be as naiive to search for someone with particular looks, if thats what you mean (although is he were about 5'7", hair as black as coal, pale skin and striking blue eyes I wouldnt say no
). I'd look for someone with somewhat similar interests/likes.We all have a 'type', right?
unouwantme2: seen as this is a dating site, i want to ask this question.. how big an issue is distance for you on here, yes this was discussed before BUT i was just thinking, isnt online dating ment to broaden your horizon and not just have you stuck in your own society.. the question im posing here is would you speak to someone whose within reasonable distance to you, say 1hr 20 mins to 1hr 30 mins away or does he/she have to practically be in your backyard.. also women on here(can only speak for ye as dont look at men) and i see this alot in profiles prefer lads who have qualifications or are working.. people dont seem to realise were in a deep recession and this shouldnt be held over somebodys head!!
Distance is no problem for me ...willing to travel anywhere in Ireland or the UK
Maybe even further away if I really really think he is worth it!As for having no job/qualifications
what kind of woman puts that up on her profile? I don't know any women with that attitude and I know plenty of the ladies on here! Personally it really wouldn't bother me if the guy had a job or not....I have a job but it doesn't mean I am loaded 
Good sensible post by the way....hope I answered all you wanted to know
Green_Sleeves: Yeah I reckon I am fussy and look for certain traits in people, I wouldnt be as naiive to search for someone with particular looks, if thats what you mean (although is he were about 5'7", hair as black as coal, pale skin and striking blue eyes I wouldnt say no ). I'd look for someone with somewhat similar interests/likes.
We all have a 'type', right?
lol no i can honestly say i dont have ''one particular type''We all have a 'type', right?
unouwantme2: cool.. so let me ask this question then.. what matters more to you in a lads profile, his apperance or what you read?? this is to everyone, men and women
wow more questions
serves me right for not reading than further than your initial post!Well (and again I just speak for myself) I chat to men on here with no picture up so I guess initially I don't care what they look like....however if I was going to meet them I would want to see a picture first and to be very blunt, looks matter to me....I just have to fancy the look of them.....doesn't mean they have to be handsome, but I need a physical attraction or there is no point.
Having said that, I understand that most men are crap at taking pictures of themselves
and unlike the women, men don't really care if their photos show them at their best or not! So I would meet a guy if I got on well with him on email/forums and didn't exactly melt at his photo...(gosh you are making us all think today!)
unouwantme2: lol no i can honestly say i dont have ''one particular type''
Really? Hmmm, me thus think a poll is required here!
Green_Sleeves: Really? Hmmm, me thus think a poll is required here!
ye honestly, i dont believe in that one type thing at all unouwantme2: ye honestly, i dont believe in that one type thing at all
How do I explain, hmm, its not like there is physically one person out there that I'm looking for and will disregard all others until I do find her, but I'm looking for people with a similar outlook on life, similar interests, likes etc as I tend to get on better with those kind of people, so there may be many of my type, its just a case of getting to know them and seeing if sparks fly
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