single mum ( Archived) (267)

Yes that maybe true,,,HOWEVER,,,many men DON'T want a "Package deal" just as many women don't want a man with 3 kids living with her and her new man all the time.

It should be remembered that as women usually gets custody the potential new men have to make a choice of the kids being there most of the time with brief relief when the real father occasionaly gets the kids or run a mile and try to find a woman without so much baggage.

Just as women will do also!

Oh I see maybe you would feel ok if your man suspected you of deception and treated you as such?

Or maybe you are seeing my situation as yours in your married situation where you had right to expect a responsible man?

They are doing you a favour. Be thankful.
Women have babies. That is why women exist, in the biological scheme of things. Some women become pregnant before marriage and others who have babies during a marriage become divorced or widowed.
If you meet a man who is not able to accept and understand that you are better off without him. Thank him for not wasting your time.

That sums up the type of person he is

So you had a look at my profile to mine dirt, yet your eagle eye perception missed the photo of my wife and the tattoo of her and my daughters name on my arm I got to help my daughter as she first learned to read her name.

Did you ever think to tattoo your kids name onto your skin to help them that way and let them know they are yours forever?

Or are you sitting in your lounge thinking the $2 coloring books and the electronic babysitter with 30 channels is better?

You are drifting off now to avoid the unpleasent position you find yourself in defending the deception women use to have babies while they are unmarried in a hope to extract large child support from someone they know would result in a high monthly stipend.

So you support that deception, then?

Maybe he types slowly, Icannot believe any man would in todays world not take precautions himself.

Especially if he does not want kids.

Mind you think of the attitude any son would have with him as a dad.....

Please do show me where I defended any deception? You cant because I didnt.

And yes your moral compass is lost, picture of your wife or not, you do not state she is your wife, you state you are divorced and looking for a long term relationship.

What a load of crap you speak! There is no need look at your profile to find dirt, what you have posted here on this thread says enough about you.

No of course I have never considered tattooing my kids names on my skin, why on earth would I do that? That is sooo ridiculous! Anyway your children are NOT yours forever. They will grow up and be their own persons, you do not own them. You have the privilege of being their parent and guardian but when they grow up they will live their own lives. If you are lucky and if you deserve it, they will continue to be in your life into your old age, but that is not your right. It is their choice.

And once again, show me where I have supported deception? I asked you before to point it out, but you could not, because I NEVER did.

I will type slower so you can keep up.

You mentioned I was divorced single and looking,,,what a guess?

And yes you suggest I should be responsible for a child I didn't want and had reasonable reason to think wouldn't occur due to 2 kinds of preventative measures being in place, so you support the womans point of view.

I told her she would be alone without a father for the kid, she was well aware of the likely sistuation yet chose to have the kid anyway.

If a woman chooses to walk the path of stupidity she can walk alone!