Is love Give and Take or is it Take only (26)

mhmhmh,just wondering if this logic can be applied in relationship or friendship or love?
If A=new relationship or friendship or love
and B=Past relationship or friendship or love

then should anyone a man/woman compare the above by saying
1. A + B = A? or
2: A + B= B?

ritter59,you have a point!.

Sorry,just to make it clear based on the thread heading.Here I mean in building relationship or love or friendship plus some experiences.

Hi ritter, i think you miss understood my point here. I never never tryed to buy some one to make him love me ok, and i never expact things in return. My situation was diffrent and this is not the place to talk about it.

Hello freeze.

My reply was more for just me.
I didn`t mean to be personal and I was only expressing a point of view. I never had any intention of hurting anyones feelings.
Sorry if i did so in any way.

Don't worry about it, it's ok. I know you did not want to be personal.

its about giving first and taking.I'm only speaking about feelings here not money.I used to be a person that gave alot.Gave alot of my time ,my feelings and was there whenever needed.But there is a danger in only giving as you can been seen as rug to be walked on and that is very bad.

When one gives alot and forgets to take something in return, people without wanting to will start taking them for granted and treating them as something they can use,without realising they are doing it.

I gave alot ,everything in love in a relathionship and in friendship and noticed even with good real friends this would happen.When i stopped giving so much of my feelings and my time (hey i had to start looking after me alittle)some of the so called friends were not around anymore .

We must give but we must also recieve because if we dont we just become tthat rug i said above.

Of course everybody likes to recive something in return sometime. Who doesn`t want to be loved back when you love someone??
Give, but do not be taken forgranted. Then you have to stop giving. That way, people will know what they have lost. If they are your friends, they will respect you. If not, they never were your friends.
And....don`t forget to treat yourself sometime, you deserve it.

No I disagree , security and satbility are the two top reasons for women to pick a man .. Majority of women in the world choose their partners in this way .. Those few idealists who deny this will learn to do it later ..

Maybe getting unemployed was a blessing in disguise as the leech would have bled you dry!

Hope I'm not sounding insensitive, I've been there too, lost job and girl but not one as a consequence of the other as seems to be your case.

Have to agree with Yami to a certain extent... there are women who look for security and stability (financially.)


There's a saying in Maltese which literally translated means without money you can't hug and kiss.

In MANY cases unfortunately it's true. Note the emphasis on MANY as in NOT ALL before I get shot down in flames for generalising!

Obviously being financially well off is an attractive asset but then the importance women give to a man's affluence varies from one woman to another. So in a nutshell I think being rich is good but not necessarily ESSENTIAL