Alcoholism (88)

Dec 22, 2011 10:46 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
Well we have a family member who has turned into a shadow of her former self in the last 2 years. She has been drinking day and night, but, for the last 6 weeks has been doing great after a heart to heart showing our concerns. And then yesterday morning the early morning phone calls started and bang our family is in bits again and its just 3 days to Christmas. Can anyone give advice on what we can do? She doesn't admit she has a problem when drinking but does when sober but says that they'll do it their own way?
We have contacted GP's and clinics but they are disgraceful in their approach..

ADVICE NEEDED!!!!! help
Dec 22, 2011 10:59 AM CST Alcoholism
dreccky
drecckydrecckyNavan, Meath Ireland141 Threads 3 Polls 885 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: Well we have a family member who has turned into a shadow of her former self in the last 2 years. She has been drinking day and night, but, for the last 6 weeks has been doing great after a heart to heart showing our concerns. And then yesterday morning the early morning phone calls started and bang our family is in bits again and its just 3 days to Christmas. Can anyone give advice on what we can do? She doesn't admit she has a problem when drinking but does when sober but says that they'll do it their own way?
We have contacted GP's and clinics but they are disgraceful in their approach..

ADVICE NEEDED!!!!!



My sympathy goes out to you..have you tries AA or any similar organizations..?
Dec 22, 2011 11:00 AM CST Alcoholism
SundanceWCork
SundanceWCorkSundanceWCorkCork, Ireland16 Threads 668 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: Well we have a family member who has turned into a shadow of her former self in the last 2 years. She has been drinking day and night, but, for the last 6 weeks has been doing great after a heart to heart showing our concerns. And then yesterday morning the early morning phone calls started and bang our family is in bits again and its just 3 days to Christmas. Can anyone give advice on what we can do? She doesn't admit she has a problem when drinking but does when sober but says that they'll do it their own way?
We have contacted GP's and clinics but they are disgraceful in their approach..

ADVICE NEEDED!!!!!


Tell her to check out the 'Cheap drink' thread. There are many great ideas on where to buy cheap drink.
Dec 22, 2011 11:02 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
SundanceWCork: Tell her to check out the 'Cheap drink' thread. There are many great ideas on where to buy cheap drink.
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Dec 22, 2011 11:03 AM CST Alcoholism
kaache
kaachekaacheAlberta, Canada11 Posts
that's very sad to hear. So much pain for everyone. Addicts need to reach rock bottom before they'll accept help. Interventions seem to be very helpful but you'd need an interventionist to help. Most people become addicts because they don't know how or can't deal with emotional pain. so, if the addict agrees to an intervention, they have to agree to 90 days in a rehab centre which also involves counselling. One thing for sure, addicts can't do it alone. They may give up one drug but soon they're addicted to another. Our family went through this five years ago and, thank God, our brother is not only alive today but is doing very well. For some, the Christmas season often heightens feelings of depression, sorrow, loneliness so you may want to prepare yourself for her not being sober during the holidays. God bless you, your family and your sister.
Dec 22, 2011 11:05 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
dreccky: My sympathy goes out to you..have you tries AA or any similar organizations..?
I dont no about AA as she changes her mind about having a problem.So therefore wouldnt continue with meetings! Was in touch with an organisation in Athy ran my a nun and it looked so amazing but agin she was all game and now has knocked it on the head again!!
Dec 22, 2011 11:05 AM CST Alcoholism
perfect9
perfect9perfect9Meath/Louth, Louth Ireland5 Threads 911 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: Well we have a family member who has turned into a shadow of her former self in the last 2 years. She has been drinking day and night, but, for the last 6 weeks has been doing great after a heart to heart showing our concerns. And then yesterday morning the early morning phone calls started and bang our family is in bits again and its just 3 days to Christmas. Can anyone give advice on what we can do? She doesn't admit she has a problem when drinking but does when sober but says that they'll do it their own way?
We have contacted GP's and clinics but they are disgraceful in their approach..

ADVICE NEEDED!!!!!



MY experience of an alcoholic is unless they make up their minds they need and want the help of packing it in.There is very little you can do to help.Sorry to hear of your troubles and good luck.sad flower hug
Dec 22, 2011 11:08 AM CST Alcoholism
SundanceWCork
SundanceWCorkSundanceWCorkCork, Ireland16 Threads 668 Posts
perfect9: MY experience of an alcoholic is unless they make up their minds they need and want the help of packing it in.There is very little you can do to help.Sorry to hear of your troubles and good luck.


Exactly. There's no advice you can give to an alcie. They've heard it all before. Get out of their way and let them at it or they will drag you down with them.
Dec 22, 2011 11:10 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
SundanceWCork: Exactly. There's no advice you can give to an alcie. They've heard it all before. Get out of their way and let them at it or they will drag you down with them.
an alcie?? Are you for real? If you've nothing good and worth saying then get off. Jeez this place has really changed very mad
Dec 22, 2011 11:12 AM CST Alcoholism
dreccky
drecckydrecckyNavan, Meath Ireland141 Threads 3 Polls 885 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: I dont no about AA as she changes her mind about having a problem.So therefore wouldnt continue with meetings! Was in touch with an organisation in Athy ran my a nun and it looked so amazing but agin she was all game and now has knocked it on the head again!!



Yes its a very difficult situation,but all you can do is keep tryingthumbs up

Dec 22, 2011 11:12 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
kaache: that's very sad to hear. So much pain for everyone. Addicts need to reach rock bottom before they'll accept help. Interventions seem to be very helpful but you'd need an interventionist to help. Most people become addicts because they don't know how or can't deal with emotional pain. so, if the addict agrees to an intervention, they have to agree to 90 days in a rehab centre which also involves counselling. One thing for sure, addicts can't do it alone. They may give up one drug but soon they're addicted to another. Our family went through this five years ago and, thank God, our brother is not only alive today but is doing very well. For some, the Christmas season often heightens feelings of depression, sorrow, loneliness so you may want to prepare yourself for her not being sober during the holidays. God bless you, your family and your sister.
Thanx hun. I dont think interventions are as well known over this side of the world..Mayve they are nd I just havent heard alot about them. I will look into it handshake
Dec 22, 2011 11:13 AM CST Alcoholism
dreccky
drecckydrecckyNavan, Meath Ireland141 Threads 3 Polls 885 Posts
SundanceWCork: Exactly. There's no advice you can give to an alcie. They've heard it all before. Get out of their way and let them at it or they will drag you down with them.


..But you can't give up on people because they have an addiction..we are human beings..and we all make mistakes..and can all find ourselves in this exact situation...
Dec 22, 2011 11:15 AM CST Alcoholism
stanley8m
stanley8mstanley8mkildare, Kildare Ireland211 Threads 10 Polls 8,718 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: Well we have a family member who has turned into a shadow of her former self in the last 2 years. She has been drinking day and night, but, for the last 6 weeks has been doing great after a heart to heart showing our concerns. And then yesterday morning the early morning phone calls started and bang our family is in bits again and its just 3 days to Christmas. Can anyone give advice on what we can do? She doesn't admit she has a problem when drinking but does when sober but says that they'll do it their own way?
We have contacted GP's and clinics but they are disgraceful in their approach..

ADVICE NEEDED!!!!!


People having a drink at Christmas, disgraceful.doh
Tut Tut,, what is the world coming to..innocent
Dec 22, 2011 11:15 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
perfect9: MY experience of an alcoholic is unless they make up their minds they need and want the help of packing it in.There is very little you can do to help.Sorry to hear of your troubles and good luck.
Thanx, I'll need luck at this stage.. Its hard to keep smiling and pretend to everyone that its not hurting you seeing the woman you love most in the world fall to pieces. Another christmas ruined. hug
Dec 22, 2011 11:19 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
stanley8m: People having a drink at Christmas, disgraceful.
Tut Tut,, what is the world coming to..
doh Ur so intelligent sleep
Dec 22, 2011 11:19 AM CST Alcoholism
Keep her away from Athy she will not like it ,friend of mine was there ,that nun wants cheep workers...She has to want to stop herself she knows that...it is so hard for all of you...mail me if you want too.good luck.
Dec 22, 2011 11:20 AM CST Alcoholism
luckycharmer
luckycharmerluckycharmerireland, Wicklow Ireland98 Threads 17 Polls 3,085 Posts
dont mind them there just trying to wind you uphug
Dec 22, 2011 11:20 AM CST Alcoholism
SundanceWCork
SundanceWCorkSundanceWCorkCork, Ireland16 Threads 668 Posts
mmmmuntouchable: an alcie?? Are you for real? If you've nothing good and worth saying then get off. Jeez this place has really changed


Oh pardon me. An alcohol dependent person. And no, I haven't anything positive to say about alcies. They are where they are because they drank themselves there. They drank themselves there while many people told them to stop. They knew better. They could handle it. They abused everyone around them and shit on the world in general. If you want to waste time even thinking about one of these bums then more fool you. They are the only ones who can get off the sauce when they want. You're no shining knight and your concern is pathetic. Get real and grow up.
Dec 22, 2011 11:25 AM CST Alcoholism
mmmmuntouchable
mmmmuntouchablemmmmuntouchableNorthern ireland, Dublin Ireland14 Threads 488 Posts
SundanceWCork: Oh pardon me. An alcohol dependent person. And no, I haven't anything positive to say about alcies. They are where they are because they drank themselves there. They drank themselves there while many people told them to stop. They knew better. They could handle it. They abused everyone around them and shit on the world in general. If you want to waste time even thinking about one of these bums then more fool you. They are the only ones who can get off the sauce when they want. You're no shining knight and your concern is pathetic. Get real and grow up.
Im not even going to give you my thoughts on you, you a**hole!!!!!
Your actually telling me to grow up.YOU'RE telling me to grow up from a 50 yr old man???? have a look at your last post!!!!!! You waste of space!!
Dec 22, 2011 11:25 AM CST Alcoholism
GO TO HELL YOU ...THATS NOT WHAT THIS WOMAN WANTS A B..S LIKE YOU PUTING ON SMART COMMENTS.........
SundanceWCork: Oh pardon me. An alcohol dependent person. And no, I haven't anything positive to say about alcies. They are where they are because they drank themselves there. They drank themselves there while many people told them to stop. They knew better. They could handle it. They abused everyone around them and shit on the world in general. If you want to waste time even thinking about one of these bums then more fool you. They are the only ones who can get off the sauce when they want. You're no shining knight and your concern is pathetic. Get real and grow up.
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