Christmas always reminds me of being in love, especially when spent alone. I stopped looking several years ago for reasons that seem reasonable to me; my age, the energy required for the search, the emotional investment needed if I did find someone (fear of being hurt) etc. Mostly I feel quite content with my life, then I get that lonely feeling now and then....you know what I mean, it's why most of us are on this site, even though my profile says just a casual friendship. Who am I trying to fool ?
carenzanear the sea, South Holland Netherlands3,113 posts
In response to: Christmas always reminds me of being in love, especially when spent alone. I stopped looking several years ago for reasons that seem reasonable to me; my age, the energy required for the search, the emotional investment needed if I did find someone (fear of being hurt) etc. Mostly I feel quite content with my life, then I get that lonely feeling now and then....you know what I mean, it's why most of us are on this site, even though my profile says just a casual friendship. Who am I trying to fool ?
you're never too old to find love. perved your profile and I think you're a wonderful man.
so, I can only say I hope you'll find your mate soon.
How many years have we both been here? 5-6 years? Maybe love is pure luck.
Yes I think it's been at least 5 years. I've been off and on this site so often and have met some wonderful women on the forums. However, distance seems to be a problem.
paws4: Christmas always reminds me of being in love, especially when spent alone. I stopped looking several years ago for reasons that seem reasonable to me; my age, the energy required for the search, the emotional investment needed if I did find someone (fear of being hurt) etc. Mostly I feel quite content with my life, then I get that lonely feeling now and then....you know what I mean, it's why most of us are on this site, even though my profile says just a casual friendship. Who am I trying to fool ?
This is a normal feeling, I bet the majority who do not have someone feel this way. From the sounds of it, even if you have decided to give up, ha, you would still like someone in your life.
I think it's worth all the reasons you state to still not give up hope.
I'm glad you are being honest with your self. So change your status to looking for relationship instead of a casual friendship. Maybe you will get some nibbles. Who on here really wants a casual friendship unless you are married or involved with someone. A casual friendship means nothing to a woman. Flip it around and think if you met a women who wanted a casual friendship and you liked her, there would be a problem.
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