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I'am no expert, but try somthing different,ask a girl to lunch or movie or maybe a friend's girlfriend has a single sister.

Advice, no....but when its time..it will happen...maybe you spend to much time at work

Sounds like a repeat of my life's story. I'm afraid that I have no advice. Women typically don't like shy guys, unfortunately they seem to mistake the for lack of confidence. Which I'm sure you know is a huge crock of bull. It's just that the arrogant guys who have nothing to offer and therefore have nothing to lose come over as being hugely confident in the eyes of women. Well, what they hell, those kind of men are confident because they aren't offering anything, what's not to be confident about?

I'm 57 years old now and I'm still seeking my "sweet 16" so-to-speak. The only problem now is that all women anywhere near my age have been through the wringer several times. They are all hardened-off and heavily burdened with tons of baggage that they don't even recognize as baggage. So it's not fun dating them. The very first thing they do is put me on probation for the crimes of other men. Crimes that would never even dream of committing in my wildest imagination. I totally resent being put on probation like that, but like I say, women my age have been through the wringer several times so they aren't about to trust openly, it's all about proving yourself to the parole board now.

I can only hope that you fair much better than I did. At 39 you're still in a fair position to get some less embittered women.

At least you have this Internet service which for all intents and purpose was only being born when I was 39. That was 1989, and although the Internet itself existed prior to that time, 1989 was really just the feeble beginnings of the public Internet as we know it today. Graphics were very crude, and the few resources that did offer dating ads were all text with almost no pics. Moreover, there were very few people actually using the Internet at that time. AOL was only born in 1989, and Windows was still DOS-based (i.e. it loaded in over DOS and was actually run as a program rather than being a full-fledged OS)

So you have resources to work with that weren't available to me when I was 39. I think if I had had today's Internet when I was 39 I would have faired much better. Too little too late for me.

Best of luck to you!