Is Manogamy natural... If not whats best? (12)
mikew2479: I just curious what people think..
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
You use the word "we". Personally, for me, it's one man at a time when it comes to relationships. In some cultures, the more women the merrier for the man; other cultures the wife doesn't mind if there is a mistress as long as she has credit cards.
If a man cheated on me I don't want to hear "it was only one time" and I don't want to hear "I don't love her" and I certainly don't want to hear "I'm sorry". There is no forgiveness when it comes to cheating...
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mikew2479: I just curious what people think..
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Do you mean MONOGAMY??? I think it works for some and not for others, which is fine as long as no-one is deceitful along the way.
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mikew2479: I just curious what people think..
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Well, I wouldn`t call it Natural ,more like moral but then again, what is moral and who is it to say what is morally and what`s not...
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If you have wandering eyes...then marridge should not be considerd......breaking someones heart.......for your own pleasures....is unforgivable......jmo.
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In response to: I just curious what people think..
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings.... Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?
I personally believe in monogamy but everyones different and as long as all parties involved know what's going on then its fine.
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trueheart1941: If you have wandering eyes...then marridge should not be considerd......breaking someones heart.......for your own pleasures....is unforgivable......jmo.
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Different cultures have different ideas of what is acceptable in a relationship/marriage. The idea that monogamy is natural or not depends greatly on your upbringing and social environment as well as your own personal inclination.
As a general rule, I find that if YOU would not be ok with your partner having a fling, then they may most likely feel the same way about you. If, however, you are ok with it, then you should seek a like-minded individual with whom to carry on a relationship with. There are some out there who live that sort of life and are happy.
In the end, you are partly responsible for your partner's happiness and security within the relationship, and an unexpected 'fling' can stop trust in its tracks. There is a sense of violation inherent in what we term cheating and what you termed loosely as a 'fling'. Not to mention in this age potential health risk factors which can also violate your partner's safety.
If monogamy is not your thing, best to be upfront about that from the beginning.
As a general rule, I find that if YOU would not be ok with your partner having a fling, then they may most likely feel the same way about you. If, however, you are ok with it, then you should seek a like-minded individual with whom to carry on a relationship with. There are some out there who live that sort of life and are happy.
In the end, you are partly responsible for your partner's happiness and security within the relationship, and an unexpected 'fling' can stop trust in its tracks. There is a sense of violation inherent in what we term cheating and what you termed loosely as a 'fling'. Not to mention in this age potential health risk factors which can also violate your partner's safety.
If monogamy is not your thing, best to be upfront about that from the beginning.
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AnnBrown: Different cultures have different ideas of what is acceptable in a relationship/marriage. The idea that monogamy is natural or not depends greatly on your upbringing and social environment as well as your own personal inclination.
As a general rule, I find that if YOU would not be ok with your partner having a fling, then they may most likely feel the same way about you. If, however, you are ok with it, then you should seek a like-minded individual with whom to carry on a relationship with. There are some out there who live that sort of life and are happy.
In the end, you are partly responsible for your partner's happiness and security within the relationship, and an unexpected 'fling' can stop trust in its tracks. There is a sense of violation inherent in what we term cheating and what you termed loosely as a 'fling'. Not to mention in this age potential health risk factors which can also violate your partner's safety.
If monogamy is not your thing, best to be upfront about that from the beginning.
As a general rule, I find that if YOU would not be ok with your partner having a fling, then they may most likely feel the same way about you. If, however, you are ok with it, then you should seek a like-minded individual with whom to carry on a relationship with. There are some out there who live that sort of life and are happy.
In the end, you are partly responsible for your partner's happiness and security within the relationship, and an unexpected 'fling' can stop trust in its tracks. There is a sense of violation inherent in what we term cheating and what you termed loosely as a 'fling'. Not to mention in this age potential health risk factors which can also violate your partner's safety.
If monogamy is not your thing, best to be upfront about that from the beginning.
I agree, if everyone was honest about their own needs, then wait till they meet a like minded person, instead of trying to fit in a mould they don´t or trying to make others fit into a mould they don´t, there would be a lot more happy couples around.
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Brilliant various opinions.
sorry I meant Monogamy...
What I got from this was To be aware of other opinions regarding relationships.
Morality and upbringing may play a part but pain is an indicator somethings going wrong.
And to be honest about your intentions and perhaps make sure you find like minded people... try not to judge! but it happens.
sorry I meant Monogamy...
What I got from this was To be aware of other opinions regarding relationships.
Morality and upbringing may play a part but pain is an indicator somethings going wrong.
And to be honest about your intentions and perhaps make sure you find like minded people... try not to judge! but it happens.
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mikew2479: Im not sure I still understand whether human beings are built to be Monogamous ( damn that word sounds strange )
Every human is different... Why do you need to have them all be this or that
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Why is it that people in relationships need to leave the marriage to have flings... Is this just a natural thing we shouldn't really punish i.e the need for flings....
Is there a better way to define a relationship if not with Manogamy???
Is there a way which would work for our natural urges but would be acceptable.... What should we really be doing?