Pre Nups (39)

Rene...i always play safe...no other way LOL

Lily ...you rock

John....i got along fine with my ex...we split things fairly. No need for one now...if your not in a releationship...correct???? i am leaning towards one in my next relationship though. It makes sense to me.

well i have much time meditating on the subject of our relaationship break down adn completely understand tht i had no less than 50% respoonsibility for its demise. i realixe my focus on our future, my degree( as i was in university at the time) may ahve clouded the necessary attention to the here and now. I spent far too much time on the future and allowed the us to drift apart, by the time i realized what was happening she was already in another man's bed and made plans to take everything with her. I was ready to split our worldy possessions in half as most of it was accumulated together, but her greed and anger for our failed relationship quickly turned our separation evil A prenup made b4 her anger took over her decision making processes would most likely have separated our "stuff" 50/50 as i believed it should have been, her anger turned me into the bad guy and therefore she deserved everything; of course her lawyer agreeed A prenup does not mean i am planning for the end of the relationship, it only means that if reason and rationality become clouded by negative feelings than there is in place an arrangement to dissolve and ressolve the situation fairly.

the beauty of this contract is that you both decide how things should and would be divide IF the relationship broke down. this leave all options open and so long as you both agreea nd sign off on it than there is no goin back IF teh relaionship bottoms out what you bring into and leave with is up to the parties involved, i personally like the cheating clause: if caught cheakin of being unfaithful you loose all vested interest and the other party retains all assets

i had thought we would be together forever, and her storied of past relationship lead me to believe she would be reasonable if we separated( i.e. her last marriage she did things rationally as she just wanted to move on with her life and take what was hers) thsi go round though she even went after a company i started 14 months after we hadd separated and while i think it was more her lawyers idea than hers, she still agreed to it

without a prenup it means that what ever story one party creates the other must defend against right or wrong, fair or not, it begins a she said against he said situation and when anger is factored into ones decisions they tend to become self serving

Working with a mediator made my divorce reasonably fair so a pre-nup would not have made much difference. At this point in my life I wouldn't care if I had one or not. If my partner felt strongly about one I'd be willing to go for it. If not, I'd trust in love.