"The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again" ( Archived) (4)

Has detailed instructions on how to talk to strangers, easily and safely. When talking to a new man, focus on what you think of him -- not what he thinks of you. Size him up, and complement something about what he's wearing, or his watch. "I love the color of that shirt it looks great on you. Did you pick it out yourself?" or "That's an interesting watch." This takes the conversation out of the "Do you come here often?, what's your sign?, cha-cha-cha" realm, and most of the time, he'll respond with some solid information. If he says his girlfriend (oops!) gave him the shirt, or his sister, or a friend, you can then ask another question. If he says he bought it in Tahiti, the conversation can take off from there. People love to talk about themselves and their likes and dislikes -- find a way to accomplish that and the conversation is a breeze. As you respond to his questions, don't use one-word answers because they do nothing to enhance conversation. End every response with a question. "Yes, I like the music here. How about you? " With that technique, you don't have to work hard to make the conversation flow. Now, as to flirting -- that's simply showing interest in someone else.

Thanks for the info...Will have to keep that in mind

Hi De Javu, that's a great tank top. It real shows of your...

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Hmm...this may take a bit of practice.