The world as oyster ( Archived) (5)

As a very new member, I'm particularly surprised at the lack of real communication. Since this is predominantly a vehicle to reach and be reached via WORDS! , I've found exchanges do flatline quickly. Letter writing is an art form that many people in the modern world have little experience with. I get why people hold back their deeper thoughts, but it doesn't take long to determine whether we have much to say to each other. Although I have no expectations in regards to dating, the value of a site like this is to take a risk, speak to a stranger, stretch our outreach and writing/communication skills. I'm a widow of two years now. My partner and I had an incredible verbal dance going on, that sparked wit and wisdom, love and laughter, and offered tremendous insight. Most of the responses to my profile have been, well, I have to say, pathetic, lazy, unimaginative. I am neither desperate or stupid. My life is full and fun, but I began to wonder if I'd ever meet another loving, intelligent, witty, man who I connect with. I'm sure most people are intimidated by singles sites. I am. This is my first and possibly last. We have to remember there's a real flesh and blood human at the other end of that keyboard. How can we expect to meet a life partner on the internet? For that matter, how can we expect to meet, Mr/Ms Right anywhere? It's a miracle. It happened to me once, and so I think it can happen again. So I think of this site as a way to practice communicating, stretch the brain, express with wit and sincerity and hope these connections can help us in some small way.