'You can't help who you fall in love with'... (107)
pKrema: I had a child to think about...
The anger, feeling worthless, ugly...it was all there, inside...
Expressing it was a luxury I couldn't and didn't want to afford at that time...
I used the negative energy to move forward in a positive way...
I fully get that but having a conversation about splitting up and parting woukdnt normally but done with a child present ....so in that time i would have let my emotions about it out .. then gladly move on and ket him live his life and me mine. . I wouldnt bottle my emotion because that woukd make me cold and angry and not only woukd it be harmful to me but to my child also.The anger, feeling worthless, ugly...it was all there, inside...
Expressing it was a luxury I couldn't and didn't want to afford at that time...
I used the negative energy to move forward in a positive way...
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SlainteMhaithx: I fully get that but having a conversation about splitting up and parting woukdnt normally but done with a child present ....so in that time i would have let my emotions about it out .. then gladly move on and ket him live his life and me mine. . I wouldnt bottle my emotion because that woukd make me cold and angry and not only woukd it be harmful to me but to my child also.
Not necessarily...you just let them out in a different way...channeling into positive changes...Emotional instability is harmful...to all involved...
Relaxed and collected parent is what a child needs, not an emotional wreck...
But everyone see it in a different way and I respect that...
It isn't easy for sure...
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pKrema: Not necessarily...you just let them out in a different way...channeling into positive changes...
Emotional instability is harmful...to all involved...
Relaxed and collected parent is what a child needs, not an emotional wreck...
But everyone see it in a different way and I respect that...
It isn't easy for sure...
I wouldnt call someone who shows anger when something has angered them an emotional instability Kremap.Emotional instability is harmful...to all involved...
Relaxed and collected parent is what a child needs, not an emotional wreck...
But everyone see it in a different way and I respect that...
It isn't easy for sure...
Its called using your emotions intelligently....thats what they are there for.
If on the other hand they burnt his car or cut up his clothes...thats an extreme...that can be called a somewhat emotional instability...all the same they still felt their emotions.
But letting someone you know who u trusted that they have hurt u and upset u is healthy....thats what i would have done...
Its like a death...if you dont go through the grieving process but consistantly instead but on a show of happiness...where has that upset gone....sometimes they need to be felt ...betrayal and death are two instances where u feel your emotion.
But yes different strokes for different folks.
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SlainteMhaithx: I wouldnt call someone who shows anger when something has angered them an emotional instability Kremap.
Its called using your emotions intelligently....thats what they are there for.
If on the other hand they burnt his car or cut up his clothes...thats an extreme...that can be called a somewhat emotional instability...all the same they still felt their emotions.
But letting someone you know who u trusted that they have hurt u and upset u is healthy....thats what i would have done...
Its like a death...if you dont go through the grieving process but consistantly instead but on a show of happiness...where has that upset gone....sometimes they need to be felt ...betrayal and death are two instances where u feel your emotion.
But yes different strokes for different folks.
The sooner you realise it's over the better...grieving is healthy but should not become the main feeling...that's what I see as an intelligent approach to a situation you can not change...Its called using your emotions intelligently....thats what they are there for.
If on the other hand they burnt his car or cut up his clothes...thats an extreme...that can be called a somewhat emotional instability...all the same they still felt their emotions.
But letting someone you know who u trusted that they have hurt u and upset u is healthy....thats what i would have done...
Its like a death...if you dont go through the grieving process but consistantly instead but on a show of happiness...where has that upset gone....sometimes they need to be felt ...betrayal and death are two instances where u feel your emotion.
But yes different strokes for different folks.
It is possible to go through it without the drama and waste... It doesn't mean one is cold or lacking emotions...
Letting them know how you feel, sure, they already know tho...
Sometimes it just happens, people fall in love with someone else...
Love doesn't come with a guarantee that it will last forever or that this one is the One and Only...
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pKrema: The sooner you realise it's over the better...grieving is healthy but should not become the main feeling...that's what I see as an intelligent approach to a situation you can not change...
It is possible to go through it without the drama and waste... It doesn't mean one is cold or lacking emotions...
Letting them know how you feel, sure, they already know tho...
Sometimes it just happens, people fall in love with someone else...
Love doesn't come with a guarantee that it will last forever or that this one is the One and Only...
I dont believe i mentioned drama anywhere in my posts.It is possible to go through it without the drama and waste... It doesn't mean one is cold or lacking emotions...
Letting them know how you feel, sure, they already know tho...
Sometimes it just happens, people fall in love with someone else...
Love doesn't come with a guarantee that it will last forever or that this one is the One and Only...
Nor did i say i would continue to act hurt after the first conversation...what i did say was i would tell him how i felt and then i would move on.
Nor did i say i would continue to live in grief either.
Simply i would feel how i feel and then let it go.
But changing a negative to a positive in the initial stages of it is not healthy.
Feeling how you feel...let it out...then move onto the positive...
Of course...people fall in and out of love all the time...i would never stay with someone ive fallen out of love with either..
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But thats just me.
The anger, feeling worthless, ugly...it was all there, inside...
Expressing it was a luxury I couldn't and didn't want to afford at that time...
I used the negative energy to move forward in a positive way...