anger (13)

Yes some can...I did not know to what point until these past few days. Especially someone that means absolutely nothing to me. So from that I've learned is that I know WHO I am...

I've learned to ignore, and act my dissatisfaction by reporting it differently

I left two marriages because my ex's were both anger freaks. It was like living with 6 year olds. It took years for me to learn not to react. I was puzzled to the point of therapy to try and figure why I seemed to be attracted to these types of women. All better now though. Some folks just never learn coping skills, other than raging when things don't go their way. I have a temper as well, I try to do things that defuse my reactions, without ignoring the fact that I am angry about something. I find most people's anger is misdirected anyway, so I don't buy into it. My rule is that if someone can't speak to me in a civil manner, even when they are angry, I have no time for them. I don't do tantrums or drama though, ie. silent treatment. pouting, etc.

The best advice I ever got was: when someone upsets you, count to 10 before responding...I guarantee, you will walk away feeling great!

As a sober man tere are three emotions I try not to let enter into my life each day, although being human they still do just not as often as they used to.
They are resentment, anger and fear and here are the definitions that were given to me and that I still try for the most part to use to this day.
Resentment--The feeling I get when I don't think I got my way in the past.
Anger--The feeling I get when I don't think I am getting my way right now.
Fear--The feeling I get when I don't think I will get my way in the future.

Just some thoughts and views. Have A Nice Day Everyone. Frank

For myself I find that I stay as calm as possible because that just ticks the people off even more cause they are not getting a reaction. And if they do get a reaction out of me it is generally in calm voice but at the same time they are it without them even knowing it till it is all over and they have had time to think about it.

To get over these situations I generally go for a walk or listen to music. Music for me is very calming when I need it.

I will not lie. Sometimes I tend to get impatient and can lose it and react without thinking clearly first. But I am learning how to prevent it and to find other methods to calm myself. I just tell myself that by reacting a certain way may give off a wrong impression to others and I want to show others a more positive side to myself.

The past few days I have been provoked quite a lot as some of you could tell but did I react? Nope. Because I have my dignity and morals and believe I can be better than that. I am not the one giving off bad impressions but the person who is reacting negativily yes.