Stop second-guessing. Stop doubting that things could have been any different than what they currently are. You’re stuck in the past, stuck on things that once were but no longer are. You cannot undo the past and you certainly can’t make the speculation of knowing what is best for someone.You and I need to let go of the illusion that it could have been any different. Because if it was supposed to be different, it would have been.If you tried to make up for your mistakes, tried to correct your wrongs, tried to change to become a better person, then you did all you could. And if you did all those things, it means that your loss didn’t come in vain. That is what you should be focused on.Not wondering why, I messed up, why he or she isn’t coming back. Wondering why they don’t change. Why they don’t grow up.You are wasting your time and energy on things that are out of your control. We all crave closure and peace of mind. But you know what I’ve realized is the biggest closure you can find?Letting go of the illusion that it could have been any different.
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