Just Dating ( Archived) (8)

ok peeps......I have decided to just go with the flow and try this dating people thing. I am no longer "LOOKING" for love.......had it and it slipped through my hands. So I have decided to take this approach and see where it leads me. Aren't we just suppose to have fun in life anyways? It's ok to be alone as long as you surrond yourself with friends? I still don't want to die alone but I am not going to put myself through agony to find someone either. So do the rest of you think it is a "good" thing to slow down and enjoy......or would you continue searching desperatley?

Slow down and be with friends. It helped me Kandiekane. I know where you are coming from. Friends help to take the agony and pain where you can deal with it. It doesn't really go away but some days are better than others. Fun helps and so does poetry. Sometimes, you just have to get out of the house and be with physical people. Get a hug from someone even if it is family. I go to my meetings and they help. I know how hard it is to be alone and been that way physically for a few months. It is like you want to replace the love you once had and feel like you are being punished just because you have a heart. It is like you have all this love inside of you that you want to share with someone that has love to share with you. It doesn''t bother you to share if someone will share with you. Desparately I try to change from the person I once was so I won't take myself and others for granted. Every day is a new day to become better and learn from past mistakes. I relive ever pain I ever caused to others and ever hurt that I caused because there was so much ignorance in me. I find it hard to blame others because to blame is to judge and with all my mistakes and faults who am I to blame. Every day in here I gain some little insight that helps me to make it through to the next day. Sometimes, there are so many insights and sometimes the insights hurt because they open past wounds. Don't worry you are with people who can understand. Every day is a new day to say I am sorry. I hope you find comfort and the true value of friends.

Roy

i think it's a good idea to slow down a little bit to enjoy life. I'm only 18 and for the last two years i've done only two things and thats work and go to school. Since then i've felt nothing but missery for i no longer know how it feels to have fun and nothing excites me anymore like the old stuff used to. But during the last two years i did have a girlfriend for nine months but we broke up so I to have had love for a short time. My advice is don't give up but at the same time don't try and let things try and look for you for you will be waiting in the sea of dispare for as long as you wait.

Thanks guys for the awesome advice it really does help me see things clearly.

Hey Kandie.....it's been my experience that as soon as you stop looking for Love, Love finds you.......did me!

Good Luck sweety! You deserve ONLY the BEST!

~Apes

Thanks aprilanne!!