No, you don’t stand alone on this point, regardless of the difficulties of putting photos on line; subscribers to CS should make an effort to do so. Ostensibly, CS is a dating site. If someone just wants to chat, say so in the first instance, then we all know where we stand. That being the case, who cares about a photo.
Would you respond or talk to a complete stranger at a social gathering if they had their face covered with a blank drawing? I suggest not!
Is there a reason, I always ask myself? If so, why not be honest and declare it?
I for one, corresponded with someone on CS over some 39 mailings, the response was just what I wanted to hear, kind, considerate and sweetly phrased, but every time I asked for a photo, I was stonewalled, in the end, I just gave up!
The moral of the story, it’s a waste of time and effort, if there’s no photo, following a few mailings.
I see...well I'm not talking to people without a pic...I have one up...why should they be the only one knowing to whom they are talking? I don't see a point in replying to them...
well if you are kinda good friends with someone not having a photo up and they do not want to send it to you if you ask there must be something to it...
Paddy.....just looked at your profile......I must say you do not look at all like any 64 year olds I ever see.....Grandma's 102....you two must have the same type of genes.....lol....
I love to see photos up on here. It is so nice to put a face with the comment on the forums. I look at this site as a social gathering of people, and the ones without pictures seem like they are hiding something when they have very little in the profile as well.
I used to think that way, but concluded that unless you are in darkest Africa, almost everyone has a friend with a digital camera or a scanner. And, even if they don’t, there are public internet cafes or libraries who will help.
Therefore, it still remains my view that unless one declares the reason for being on here for social chat only, it serves nothing but to heighten the mystery!....Your guess, is as good as mine.
I have someone on here who has no picture, but he couldn't be a nicer person. He makes me laugh, makes me wonder, makes me think. Supportive, warm, a terrific sense of humor. I would like to see what he looks like, but it really isn't THAT important because he is such a wonderful human being.
On the other hand, what if you were blind? Would you go through life not interacting with other people just because you couldn't see them? I know it's not quite the same, but it is something to think about.
Some people are afraid they may be seen by someone they work for. or with .... others afraid friends or family may see them..
Some are married and dont want the wife/husband to find out..
there are many reason someone may be secreative... If you dont like people without photos... or dont want anything to do with them .. then just dont email them .. plain and simple..and if they email you .. just delete it... I usually delete all my mail anyways.. so .. meh
Agreed, but if you are led on by encouraging mail and lots of it too and then you give them your private e-mail address to send a pic or even just an explanation, it makes you wonder.
Long mails and personal information given on the CS mail system in response to specific questions, takes time, effort and concentration, not to mention disappointment especially when the questioner appears to have taken a genuine interest.
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Would you respond or talk to a complete stranger at a social gathering if they had their face covered with a blank drawing? I suggest not!
Is there a reason, I always ask myself? If so, why not be honest and declare it?
I for one, corresponded with someone on CS over some 39 mailings, the response was just what I wanted to hear, kind, considerate and sweetly phrased, but every time I asked for a photo, I was stonewalled, in the end, I just gave up!
The moral of the story, it’s a waste of time and effort, if there’s no photo, following a few mailings.