Baggage or Rebound.... (28)
JaneBond30 Threads 1,058 PostsWould you/could you, let yourself love with someone who still has a flame for another, from a past relationship? Would there be any difference in your answer, if you found out before or after entering a relationship?
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Nope. Life is too short & there are too many fish in the sea, in my opinion. The flame has to be all for ME, and nobody else. 
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It is almost impossible to move into the future while holding on to the past.
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Yeah, before the relationship, if she told me. I would probably say no to the relationship, and just be friends. I would want her heart to be in the right place. If it couldn't be with me, then why start something that could break my heart?
If she told me while we were in a relationship, i might try to see if she was over them or getting over them. If not, i would end it right then and there, and be friends.
I would not do that to any one else. So i would not want that done to me.
If she told me while we were in a relationship, i might try to see if she was over them or getting over them. If not, i would end it right then and there, and be friends.
I would not do that to any one else. So i would not want that done to me.
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I won't compete with memories. I need someone in the here and now.
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If I knew before hand then I would sat no, I have been in relationships only to find out later that she is still in love with her ex and just sucks!
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same here...
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don't do baggage nor rebound.
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You can't fight a ghost... if I find out after, the feelings of betrayal would be too much for me to bear...
He is either there for me, or he isn't...
He is either there for me, or he isn't...
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Good question.
I think it depends on how it's being handled... If they are still in love... then, I wouldn't begin a relationship... freindship, sure.
I would hope to hell I'd know before it got that far.
I know when I was going through the process of taking care of stuff in the beginning... I felt the need, bad. I had no feelings of love... at the time. Some call it rebound. The word is interesting to me because my idea of rebounding would be to bounce up from a low spot...?
I did feel much for others during that time...even the fakes, LOL!
I knew I could feel again. That was important to me.
I think it depends on how it's being handled... If they are still in love... then, I wouldn't begin a relationship... freindship, sure.
I would hope to hell I'd know before it got that far.
I know when I was going through the process of taking care of stuff in the beginning... I felt the need, bad. I had no feelings of love... at the time. Some call it rebound. The word is interesting to me because my idea of rebounding would be to bounce up from a low spot...?
I did feel much for others during that time...even the fakes, LOL!
I knew I could feel again. That was important to me.
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call the exorcist....
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sometimes people honestly think they are ready for a new relationship but then you hear a song or smell a smell or go someplace you visited with the ex and suddenly all the old feelings come flooding back....sometimes it's the ex that can't let go and the partner feels guilt.
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I wouldn't either but sometimes people aren't always upfront about something like that. I guess there could be a number of reasons why they would choose to do that. I could see someone having good feelings about a past relationship, but carrying the flame into a new one would be cause enough for me to not let my feelings go any further than friends. Rebounding from a bad experience is always a good thing, while rebounding from a relationship usually is asking for trouble......someone is always bound to get hurt.
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Has never happened.
I enter their live and they automatically forget about anyone else, I mean they are only human.
I enter their live and they automatically forget about anyone else, I mean they are only human.------ This thread is Archived ------
I agree, why get in the middle of something that is going nowhere. Cheers girl!
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I think a lot of it is at the time, you take the person for granted. I know that is what i did, and when i lost her, i just broke down because, i then realized what a wonderful girl she was and how much i loved her because she wasn't in my life anymore. I think it might be all three you mentiond. I dont really know yet...still working on it.
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