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Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved. ( Archived) (39)

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Mar 14, 2007 2:27 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
WhiteOwl
WhiteOwlWhiteOwlSydney, New South Wales Australia2 Threads 18 Posts
WhiteOwlOPSydney, New South Wales Australia18 posts
We all want to have a love in our life, so why are we also afraid of it?
Any advise....
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#2
Mar 14, 2007 2:32 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
o0shorty0o
o0shorty0oo0shorty0onear Berlin, Germany10 Threads 2,194 Posts
o0shorty0onear Berlin, Germany2,194 posts
I am not afraid...no need to be...if I know they care as much as I do I can tell them how I feel and where I want it to go wink
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#3
Mar 14, 2007 2:34 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
dragondog4
dragondog4dragondog4Perth, Western Australia Australia55 Threads 3,912 Posts
dragondog4Perth, Western Australia Australia3,912 posts
Because when it fails it hurts. And giving up your solo freedom is a major step when you have only recently discovered it again.

Rod stewart probably said it best with "the first cut is the deepest"
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#4
Mar 14, 2007 2:39 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
ariesgirl003
ariesgirl003ariesgirl003Bangin, New Jersey USA32 Threads 3,038 Posts
ariesgirl003Bangin, New Jersey USA3,038 posts
Because you never know if you will get in return or if it will be true. I'm afraid.... and its easy to just keep the wall up and let no one in.
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#5
Mar 14, 2007 2:41 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
native_grl38
native_grl38native_grl38Belleville, Canada10 Threads 4,332 Posts
native_grl38Belleville, Canada4,332 posts
Yes unfortunately love is unpredictable...Just when you think it is...it's not!!!!!!!!!!

I'm like you Aries....It's easier to keep me to me!!!!!!!!!!!!


conversing conversing
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#6
Mar 14, 2007 2:47 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
RedHeadedTaurus
RedHeadedTaurusRedHeadedTaurusHere, Michigan USA17 Threads 1 Polls 8,455 Posts
RedHeadedTaurusHere, Michigan USA8,455 posts
Some people do want a love in their life...yet they are afraid, yes. Could be that they are afraid of being hurt, commitment, emotions, change of lifestyle, etc. Various reasons are possible for this. Expressing wants, needs, expectations, thoughts, feelings, and the like, would be most important when first getting involved with another. In other words: communication is key & can be helpful when attempting to figure out this thing called "love" and being "afraid" of it. Best of luck to you. wine
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#7
Mar 14, 2007 2:54 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
RainbowSlider
RainbowSliderRainbowSliderYellville, USA171 Threads 7,174 Posts
RainbowSliderYellville, USA7,174 posts
Man, I heard that. I have just recently been reprieved of the grief phenomenom. The stuff just had me all twisted up inside. Just starting to feel like a whole person, again. I guess I took that better half stuff seriously and it took some major work which many helped me on the forums to get through. Grief can take you to the slough of despair just like the book, "Pilgrim's Progress" talks about in allegory. It can completely screw up your emotions, spiritually and psychological mental health. I was just about ready for a rubber room when I first got to CS.wave
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#8
Mar 14, 2007 3:17 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
ariesgirl003
ariesgirl003ariesgirl003Bangin, New Jersey USA32 Threads 3,038 Posts
ariesgirl003Bangin, New Jersey USA3,038 posts
True ....thumbs up
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#9
Mar 14, 2007 3:24 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
VioladorDeLaLey
VioladorDeLaLeyVioladorDeLaLeyBajo Un Sol Feliz, USA11 Threads 4,548 Posts
VioladorDeLaLeyBajo Un Sol Feliz, USA4,548 posts
i agree thumbs up
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#10
Mar 14, 2007 3:38 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
highfidelity
highfidelityhighfidelityEurope, Lower Saxony Germany37 Threads 2,287 Posts
highfidelityEurope, Lower Saxony Germany2,287 posts
kiss if there is a reciprocate construction of two souls building up what they feel and desire and there is a chemistry that creates trust no one should be afraid.. also nobody said it must be allways easy and overhelming from the start mumbling
So you will be scared after a while!"!!! Why ?
Sometimes, from my part I think the quick ready emotions are the most missleading ones kiss
But what I know confused
the mysterery of love is as great as the Universe !

If you find a combination of factors meeting yours - not only to please - but still to meet yours and feel understanding and comfort of this becoming love, you will last - if two realy are caring and willing to make it work, than with the fast burning flame of the moment - of which we are afraid to get burned again dunnokiss
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Mar 14, 2007 3:38 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
WhiteOwl
WhiteOwlWhiteOwlSydney, New South Wales Australia2 Threads 18 Posts
WhiteOwlOPSydney, New South Wales Australia18 posts
I also think, because our gift of love is so deep and strong, we are also afraid of it...so we guard it well, until it is very safe to show it, then we cant help holding on any more and it blows up, that scares the pants off the other including one self , expecilly if they cannot open to their own love inside, but when both partners do, well,...then its fire works and magic happens...hug
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#12
Mar 14, 2007 3:46 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
highfidelity
highfidelityhighfidelityEurope, Lower Saxony Germany37 Threads 2,287 Posts
highfidelityEurope, Lower Saxony Germany2,287 posts
hug you are right on this WhiteOwl from the Paradise of Gozo wave
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#13
Mar 14, 2007 4:06 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
Jess642
Jess642Jess642Agnes Water, Australia25 Threads 4,545 Posts
Jess642Agnes Water, Australia4,545 posts
I am not afraid of love...

I am afraid of the illusion of love I self-create...

I am afraid of the danger of expecting love to be selfish...

I am afraid of deceiving myself into expecting love from another (partner) to fulfil me...


I am not afraid of loving freely.

I am not afraid of giving or receiving love.
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#14
Mar 14, 2007 4:22 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
longingformyluv
longingformyluvlongingformyluvPittsburgh, USA39 Threads 3,355 Posts
longingformyluvPittsburgh, USA3,355 posts
I imagine alot of people are afraid to love because of devastating past relationships. When one thinks they married their best friend for life only to be betrayed in the worst way...well it will take baby steps toward another relationship.
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#15
Mar 14, 2007 4:24 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
native_grl38
native_grl38native_grl38Belleville, Canada10 Threads 4,332 Posts
native_grl38Belleville, Canada4,332 posts
Yes the illusion we create or let ourselves believe is the worst illusion of all and often the scariest!!!!!!!!!!


conversing conversing
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#16
Mar 14, 2007 5:15 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
Musicalle
MusicalleMusicalleHalifax, Nova Scotia Canada19 Threads 415 Posts
MusicalleHalifax, Nova Scotia Canada415 posts
I don't think people are afraid to love... I think they're afraid of getting HURT. Love is an emotion... And I don't think people are afraid of that emotion called LOVE.. I think they're afraid of the commitment involved in a loving relationship.

JUST my fitty cents.wave kiss
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#17
Mar 14, 2007 5:21 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
musichic
musichicmusichicQuakertown, Pennsylvania USA31 Threads 1,438 Posts
musichicQuakertown, Pennsylvania USA1,438 posts
because of all of the above!
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#18
Mar 14, 2007 6:07 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
Argonaut45
Argonaut45Argonaut45st. john's, Newfoundland Canada2 Posts
Argonaut45st. john's, Newfoundland Canada2 posts
I think everyone is right here but one thing that is missing in the threads is what I think is important. The more we love the more love we receive and the more we fear opening ourselves to being loved the less love we receive. Love gives love and it is its own reward so don't be afraid to tell those close to you that you love them and better yet show them. Argo
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#19
Mar 14, 2007 6:08 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
mamino
maminomaminomontreal, Quebec Canada1 Posts
maminomontreal, Quebec Canada1 posts
to much pain.....frustrated
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Mar 15, 2007 12:44 PM CST Why are people afraid to love? expecially when they want to be loved.
WhiteOwl
WhiteOwlWhiteOwlSydney, New South Wales Australia2 Threads 18 Posts
WhiteOwlOPSydney, New South Wales Australia18 posts
Thank you Argo,
How true, the more one loves to more we recieve, risk it all and plung in the depths with awareness and open one's heart of who you are...pure LOVE...kiss
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