Weddings... should we look at marriage differently (16)

Sadly many marriages fail. Should we as a people start to look at marriage differently(say a 5 year contract for instance) or just continue on this downward slope?

The way I read your thread is, that when you marry you have to stay together for at least 5 years?

If that is what you mean. I say "No"..if a marriage isn't going to work after say a year, what is 5 years going to do, just cause grief for both parties...if its not going to work, why stay in it? Just my opinion.

Hey Donna. The 5 year thing was an example, i was just wondering if we should change marriage as we know it.

Hey Ron, I still stick by my original reply, regardless of how long of a contract it is.

Random question: If it were more difficult to get married would people would value it more and be less likely to throw in the towel so easily?


The last I saw, the divorce rate was around 57% - remove any abusive situations from the equation and that still leaves an astounding number of breakups,


Just curious ...

how would you make it more diffucult,,,,an age limit or something

I'm not sure - it was just a random thought that popped in my head while reading the thread.

It seems a lot of people are getting married though without knowing each other very well. It also seems that some people lack the skills necessary to work through issues in a constructive way.

We train people on the job. We teach people to drive. We educate them about things that happened hundreds of years ago. And yet we don't do anything to prepare them with the skills necessary to nurture themselves and to fully participate in a successful union.

Working in post-secondary for so many years I noticed it becoming a bigger and bigger issue with each passing year. Many children have been forced to raise themselves. How then do they learn. There is more disrespect, more a sense of entitlement and less personal accountability. No, this does not apply to everyone ... it is just a noticeable trend. It is little wonder that so many marriages fail.

I have no answer ... just an observation that sparked a ...

What about a class of some sort in high school. You know, money management, family matters, etc?