Self-preservation (81)
It is a natural act. Your mind only lets you cope with as much as you can take at the time.
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sorry thought it was a thread about the italian job .........whoops
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Self preservation is when we do everything in our power to protect ourself from danger, better ourself, and do what is the best for ourself...
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I believe that "Self-Preservation" is a sub-conscious defense mechanism created within one's self to protect from emotional stress or pain....JMO...
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I agree. But sometimes I feel so slow at letting go. I mean I will eventually but I usually get there with much resistance, kicking and screaming and holding on as tight I can until I wear myself out. 
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I think it all boils down to fear of some kind.
Some fear is good and useful - it is what prevents us from walking in front of a bus. Other times fears keep us from living a full expression of ourselves. Fear of rejection so we don't take the chance. Fear of being judged so we live a smaller life. The list is endless.
We are a culture that embraces pleasure and that runs from that which we deem unpleasant. Addiction, in part, is one way to avoid feeling and delays having to deal with the emotions you are suppressing. I say delays because your body just stores them to be dealt with later. You cannot avoid it. You will deal with your stuff ... now or later ... the choice is yours.
I think people put up such perceived resistance because behaviour is primarily driven by unconscious beliefs. And if those beliefs are not in line with what you hold in your conscious mind then behaviour will be driven by the unconscious. If you believe something about yourself yet your behaviour isn't consistent with that - it is a pretty good indicator that you have some excavating to do.
Some fear is good and useful - it is what prevents us from walking in front of a bus. Other times fears keep us from living a full expression of ourselves. Fear of rejection so we don't take the chance. Fear of being judged so we live a smaller life. The list is endless.
We are a culture that embraces pleasure and that runs from that which we deem unpleasant. Addiction, in part, is one way to avoid feeling and delays having to deal with the emotions you are suppressing. I say delays because your body just stores them to be dealt with later. You cannot avoid it. You will deal with your stuff ... now or later ... the choice is yours.
I think people put up such perceived resistance because behaviour is primarily driven by unconscious beliefs. And if those beliefs are not in line with what you hold in your conscious mind then behaviour will be driven by the unconscious. If you believe something about yourself yet your behaviour isn't consistent with that - it is a pretty good indicator that you have some excavating to do.
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My thoughts and feelings...
Self-preservation...to protect oneself from harm...
Fear and pain...both physical and emotional, are definately factors that would encourage self-preservation.
Addictions...to numb or sedate pain to the pshyche, or emotional state, that is too unbearable to face...
Sadly, one has to face the pain, the damage and make a decision to go through the process...feel the pain and then let it go..reject it from having impact on your life, every moment, being vigilant in making gentle choices for yourself...good choices.
Resistance....addictions are habits...and I mean habitual behaviours, until a dependency on those behaviours become part of one's day to day existance.
Resistance to pain? Resistance to having to feel it all?
Developing habits to numb and sedate the pain...
If you have a toothache, an exposed nerve, you reach for pain relief...however, that only masks the pain...
To have the tooth healed is to end the pain. To have the nerve removed...
Probably not a great analogy...but it is late here...forgive me.
We can never remove our past...we can only accept it...accept it as past, once we have processed and grieved....and hopefully to let it go...
I don't know if this in any way helps...but I do hope so...
Self-preservation...to protect oneself from harm...
Fear and pain...both physical and emotional, are definately factors that would encourage self-preservation.
Addictions...to numb or sedate pain to the pshyche, or emotional state, that is too unbearable to face...
Sadly, one has to face the pain, the damage and make a decision to go through the process...feel the pain and then let it go..reject it from having impact on your life, every moment, being vigilant in making gentle choices for yourself...good choices.
Resistance....addictions are habits...and I mean habitual behaviours, until a dependency on those behaviours become part of one's day to day existance.
Resistance to pain? Resistance to having to feel it all?
Developing habits to numb and sedate the pain...
If you have a toothache, an exposed nerve, you reach for pain relief...however, that only masks the pain...
To have the tooth healed is to end the pain. To have the nerve removed...
Probably not a great analogy...but it is late here...forgive me.
We can never remove our past...we can only accept it...accept it as past, once we have processed and grieved....and hopefully to let it go...
I don't know if this in any way helps...but I do hope so...
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Well, the key is ... as you have said... You let go eventually... which is better than not letting go at all....
Some people take longer to reach their 'bottom' than others....
Just my humble opine..
Some people take longer to reach their 'bottom' than others....
Just my humble opine..
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Im sorry i have no clue what it means?? I know i have been reading this thread and still have no definition...so i cant answer, but i will be watching to learn.
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I agree with everything you said but this is the hard part.
"I think people put up such perceived resistance because behaviour is primarily driven by unconscious beliefs. And if those beliefs are not in line with what you hold in your conscious mind then behaviour will be driven by the unconscious. If you believe something about yourself yet your behaviour isn't consistent with that - it is a pretty good indicator that you have some excavating to do."
Changing the beliefs. how do you change unconscious beliefs?
"I think people put up such perceived resistance because behaviour is primarily driven by unconscious beliefs. And if those beliefs are not in line with what you hold in your conscious mind then behaviour will be driven by the unconscious. If you believe something about yourself yet your behaviour isn't consistent with that - it is a pretty good indicator that you have some excavating to do."
Changing the beliefs. how do you change unconscious beliefs?
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Yeah, I know I wait until reality slaps me so hard in the face that it knocsk me unconscious and then I wake up just a little bit wiser.
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i would answer this thread but
i don't think i am ready
to let go of that info
i don't think i am ready
to let go of that info
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i guess i need a vacation
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Wow! Just so you don't feel alone on this one...I'm the same way!!! I will probably from hereonin partly hang on...to avoid falling flat AGAIN! Only time will tell and new experiences following along the way...
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To change them, you have to become aware of them...you change them by raising them into conscious awareness. There are many ways to get there ....
These are some the things that work for me ... you may find different things helpful ...
Triggers - we all have buttons that get pushed and cause a strong reaction. Have you ever felt like people just tried to push your buttons to get you going? Our natural tendency is view that negatively. I am grateful when that happens because they have shown me that the button exists. Those are clues to your underworld.
Write - have you ever just written - without censorship, without thought? Just start writing - if you can't think of anything start with 'this is silly, I don't know what to write' or start by describing your day. It doesn't matter ... in the beginning you are flowing with you conscious mind ...do not censor or worry about punctuation ... write ... write .... write .... eventually there is a shift and things come up from deeper. Often what comes up is something that I thought I had dealt with already but pieces of it still lurk. Do not allow your pen to stop moving ... just write until there is nothing else coming out.
Meditation - when we keep our minds filled with noise it is really easy to ignore the signals and messages in your body. Get quiet and listen. Slow your thoughts...listen to that space between them.
The journey is always inward.
These are some the things that work for me ... you may find different things helpful ...
Triggers - we all have buttons that get pushed and cause a strong reaction. Have you ever felt like people just tried to push your buttons to get you going? Our natural tendency is view that negatively. I am grateful when that happens because they have shown me that the button exists. Those are clues to your underworld.
Write - have you ever just written - without censorship, without thought? Just start writing - if you can't think of anything start with 'this is silly, I don't know what to write' or start by describing your day. It doesn't matter ... in the beginning you are flowing with you conscious mind ...do not censor or worry about punctuation ... write ... write .... write .... eventually there is a shift and things come up from deeper. Often what comes up is something that I thought I had dealt with already but pieces of it still lurk. Do not allow your pen to stop moving ... just write until there is nothing else coming out.
Meditation - when we keep our minds filled with noise it is really easy to ignore the signals and messages in your body. Get quiet and listen. Slow your thoughts...listen to that space between them.
The journey is always inward.
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Thank you Sherrie. I do write. I have a hard time with meditation.
I was looking for free online yoga this morning and I found a site with lots of information and many different positions and it even had animation instructions for how to do them. I tried a couple and they killed me...like the locus...I don't think I could ever do that. So I decided I should look further for beginners yoga.
I was looking for free online yoga this morning and I found a site with lots of information and many different positions and it even had animation instructions for how to do them. I tried a couple and they killed me...like the locus...I don't think I could ever do that. So I decided I should look further for beginners yoga.
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I like the episode of Star Trek where the old ship captain was kept alive by the female alien cloud. Every day the old captain would go into the cloud and get entergized. Kirk was trying to reason with the female alien cloud. The female alien cloud said that the man must continue. Spock realized the alien cloud was in love with the old ship captain because what the female alien cloud was doing was illogical. Hey, it could happen. Dr. McCoy agreed with Spock which got a raised eyebrow from Spock to Dr. McCoy. The old ship captain did not think that the female alien cloud was in love with him but just the Companion. Kirk tried to tell the female alien cloud that keeping the old ship captain on the planet would eventually cause him not to continue. Meanwhile, the female who beamed down to the planet to study the female alien and who was close to dying agreed that the female alien cloud was indeed in love with the old ship captain. So the female alien cloud and the female who beamed down to the planet got together and the old ship captain thought the woman was better for him than the female alien cloud especially they merged. The moral of the story is, hmmm, I am not really sure but I think it is revelant to the thread.
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Oh, yeah the moral of the story is don't argue with strange female alien clouds. No, that's not it. I will keep working on it.
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Why is it so hard to let go?
If you attempt to answer any or all of these questions, I appreciate your insights.