No point in divorcing... (14)
Yes I promote that zealously. It is better to live with someone first and get to know them properly.
Also (and this is probably just a male thought) I feel the marriage licence is a mental trap. It suggests that you can stop trying because they signed on that dotted line. You have your contract go do what you like.
As in all business's, one bends over backwards for the other until they get that signature on the dotted line. Then it is bad luck buster you signed the contract.
Without that signature you keep trying, for that special person might not be there tomorrow.
Also (and this is probably just a male thought) I feel the marriage licence is a mental trap. It suggests that you can stop trying because they signed on that dotted line. You have your contract go do what you like.
As in all business's, one bends over backwards for the other until they get that signature on the dotted line. Then it is bad luck buster you signed the contract.
Without that signature you keep trying, for that special person might not be there tomorrow.
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i like your view...
But i still want to wear that dress...if there would be another excuse to wear it and get people together
But i still want to wear that dress...if there would be another excuse to wear it and get people together
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People are moving to that trend in droves, just living together, and why? I dont really know. Maybe its because we do evolve as we get older, and marriage would tend to make a break a little harder if we dont eveolve in the same direction.
Now adays it is easier than it was in the past to just give up, the work has been taken out of a relationship, and almost everyone can tell you that at some point you will have to work on yours.
Maybe its because we have become so used to our instant gratification/disposable world that we live in, "oh well, its not working. time for a new one"
I'll probably wind up just living with someone in the future for a long while before marriage, but you never know the love bug could make me change my mind.
Now adays it is easier than it was in the past to just give up, the work has been taken out of a relationship, and almost everyone can tell you that at some point you will have to work on yours.
Maybe its because we have become so used to our instant gratification/disposable world that we live in, "oh well, its not working. time for a new one"
I'll probably wind up just living with someone in the future for a long while before marriage, but you never know the love bug could make me change my mind.
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Just my opinion, but I think too many people get divorced because it is an "easy out" for them. Instead of finding out what the problem is and trying to solve it or come to an agreement they decide it is OK to just divorce each other instead. Now, I am not saying that people should never get divorced, don't get me wrong. If that were the case I would never have divorced my ex. But you should have a really good reason to divorce and not just for those good old "irreconcilable differences" that so many people use to justify a divorce. 
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You know I keep hearing "looking for that special person", "soulmate" etc. Maybe we should put aside the "perfect person" ideal and look for the person who in all reality is a good friend. A good friend listens, has your back, tells you when you look like hell and that's okay, stands in your way of yourself, loves you for who you are and who they are because they are with you....it goes on and on.
We live in such a disposable society and maybe that's okay with most. People are not disposable though. When one is treated this way everyone wonders where toxic people come from...
Take your time...don't jump into a relationship to get away from something else. Other people won't make you happy if you're not. I do know one thing...your real friends will give it to you straight - not let you run around like an idiot so they can take advantage of you.
We live in such a disposable society and maybe that's okay with most. People are not disposable though. When one is treated this way everyone wonders where toxic people come from...
Take your time...don't jump into a relationship to get away from something else. Other people won't make you happy if you're not. I do know one thing...your real friends will give it to you straight - not let you run around like an idiot so they can take advantage of you.
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This "taking the time" thing sounds awfully familiar
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Just buy yourself a pretty white dress and throw
a BIG party. lol
a BIG party. lol
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A prty would do it, Cristina!
..No signatures and a hell of a lot of fun for all..
Lets's have a "Cristina Wants to Wear That Dress"
party!!!
..No signatures and a hell of a lot of fun for all..
Lets's have a "Cristina Wants to Wear That Dress"
party!!!
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hey, the "institution"in itself isnt a bad thing hein?
But i'll think about that party:)
But i'll think about that party:)
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"You two kids need to get married." Kids getting married. Heck, that don't even make sense. 
Sorry for the venting. Man this thread touched a raw nerve.
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This "tradition" has long been broken in the States. Personally I believe that it is a major contributor to the high divorce rate. When a couple incohabitates prior to marriage. There is no sense of permanence. She has her stuff, he has his stuff, either is free to leave if it doesn't seem to work out. The problem is this, that feeling is carried into the marriage. That lack of permanency is perpetuated out of habit. So when the honeymoon, lovey dovey feelings are gone (as they always do), suddenly it's, "since when am I not free to quit?"
Attraction is a natural, biological funtion. It is an innate part of our primal nature. Love, on the other hand is a conscience choice. We decide to love, even though...fill in the blank. The butterflies disappear in every relationship (not to say they cannot return), it is inevitable. The question then becomes what do you do next? Do you quit, and chase the butterflies from one relationship to the next? Or, do you recall the vows you made, and love each other even though.... ?
Attraction is a natural, biological funtion. It is an innate part of our primal nature. Love, on the other hand is a conscience choice. We decide to love, even though...fill in the blank. The butterflies disappear in every relationship (not to say they cannot return), it is inevitable. The question then becomes what do you do next? Do you quit, and chase the butterflies from one relationship to the next? Or, do you recall the vows you made, and love each other even though.... ?
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So, as Lightning said, irreconciable differences shouldnt sustain a divorce. Other reasons do exist of course...
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