Don't want to have kids right now.....is that so wrong (23)
glimmerschnitzelSoenderborg, South Denmark Denmark54 Threads 177 PostsThe reason why me and my x broke up was because she wanted kid's right here and right now. However I didn't feel like it and that ended our relasionship. Is it me or should one not feel that it's time for kids before having one
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A kid is not just for Christmas. They are a commitment for life be every certain you are ready.
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Exactly my point friend.
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NOPE,
Not so wrong at all glimmerschnitzel. Some pple never want to have kids. You definetly need to WANT them if your going to have them or else you will resent them.
Wait for the right time and the right lady. When that special time comes then...BAM you'll want to be a dad and have fun with diapers and bottles. Until then enjoy your freedom and watch out for the ticking time bomb women who are hankering for babys.
Survived without kids so far and loving it,
Yaoigirl
Not so wrong at all glimmerschnitzel. Some pple never want to have kids. You definetly need to WANT them if your going to have them or else you will resent them.
Wait for the right time and the right lady. When that special time comes then...BAM you'll want to be a dad and have fun with diapers and bottles. Until then enjoy your freedom and watch out for the ticking time bomb women who are hankering for babys.
Survived without kids so far and loving it,
Yaoigirl
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Thamk's Minnesota. My way of thinking :o)
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Just because her biological clock is ticking, doesn't mean she's mature enough to deal with a child.
I've never had kids of my own, and I feel fortunate. I've had step-type-children (they weren't official step-children because we never got married, but you live with someone long enough, you become a step parent regardless.) and I have to say, if you're not ready for them, they can be overwhelming.
It's obvious this woman was being selfish if she couldn't consider your feelings on the matter. Maybe she is ready, I dunno, but if you're not, its not right for her to become resentful about it.
Communication is key. Her goals and yours needed to be examined rationally, and if they weren't compatible, then a seperation was in order, amicably.
Too bad most people never evolve beyond high school...
TET
I've never had kids of my own, and I feel fortunate. I've had step-type-children (they weren't official step-children because we never got married, but you live with someone long enough, you become a step parent regardless.) and I have to say, if you're not ready for them, they can be overwhelming.
It's obvious this woman was being selfish if she couldn't consider your feelings on the matter. Maybe she is ready, I dunno, but if you're not, its not right for her to become resentful about it.
Communication is key. Her goals and yours needed to be examined rationally, and if they weren't compatible, then a seperation was in order, amicably.
Too bad most people never evolve beyond high school...
TET
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Head on man, and we got a dog and I don't even think she can take prober care of that one.....lucky I'm having the dog most of the time
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R u on crack?
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What.....never did drugs and I'm never gonna
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It's not wrong as long as you make your intention clear at the beginning. Not fair to lead a woman to believe otherwise.
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good communication solves the prob
when you first meet someone
do you want to get , or get her pregnant?
its a big step
not one to be taken lightly
too many single parens as it is
shucks to be honest you may click with somebody
and out of nowhere they are completely different
not enough devotion nowadays
easy to jump in the sack
but something else to be there for the pack
your decision
when you first meet someone
do you want to get , or get her pregnant?
its a big step
not one to be taken lightly
too many single parens as it is
shucks to be honest you may click with somebody
and out of nowhere they are completely different
not enough devotion nowadays
easy to jump in the sack
but something else to be there for the pack
your decision
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When we started out she ask'ed me if I would like kids and I told her that i time I thought that "so I was told" I would like to have kids.....I was also told that I would get an beer belly. Didn't happen one oranother. I still think that I would like to have some kids, but you have to find the right person to get em with
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Head on dude. Just my words exactly
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there are so many people having kids just because they want to hold on to their partner, or because they feel they should.
for me personally, i am not sure if i want children- dont get me wrong i love kids- i worked in child care for years n loved it. n maybe it's just a matter of having not found the right person.
but i would not, n could not allow myself be pressured into having children no matter how much i loved the person.the sad thing is that alot of people seem to think women that don't want children are abnormal in some way!
for me personally, i am not sure if i want children- dont get me wrong i love kids- i worked in child care for years n loved it. n maybe it's just a matter of having not found the right person.
but i would not, n could not allow myself be pressured into having children no matter how much i loved the person.the sad thing is that alot of people seem to think women that don't want children are abnormal in some way!
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why is it abnormal not to want kids 
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what i mean is i remember my granny saying she thought a woman wanst right( in the head) if she didnt want children- she seemed to think it was a woman's natural need- to want kids.
hey paul, i sent ya a tex, did ya get it- or am i a spa with the wrong number
hey paul, i sent ya a tex, did ya get it- or am i a spa with the wrong number
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Well, send them abby normal ones over to talk to me!
LOL.
I don't have a prob with women who don't want kids. Problem is, most of them already do! That's why they don't want kids! (MORE, that is).
Not that this is a problem with me. I often like the children more than the parents. The kids have a reason to act childish. They're children!
The adult on the other hand...
TET
LOL.
I don't have a prob with women who don't want kids. Problem is, most of them already do! That's why they don't want kids! (MORE, that is).
Not that this is a problem with me. I often like the children more than the parents. The kids have a reason to act childish. They're children!
The adult on the other hand...
TET
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First of all, you are NOT wrong that you dont want children, and the second thing I wanna have some kids when i find the right person and the last but not the least, I dont agree with You, tessie07 that when a person wants to have some kids with his/her partner not becoz of holding on their partner not to go away, but becoz of having a mutual wonderful person together. I wanna be a father not to hold on my partner but becoz i wanna be a father...
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