Is everyone in rush to jump in a relationship, before knowing they can be friends? (34)

Maybe a person can read a profile and see a picture and think that's just what I've been looking for and therefore he or she might move too quickly in hopes of getting there before the masses. Can seem like stalking I guess but it probably was just to try to meet you as soon as possible. What do I know? I'm from the valley too.

I think a friendship first is the way to go but havnt done it yet, maybe thats why I have so many failed relationships

naw, it's cause you're so ugly

I think a lot of people WANT a relationship, want to be with someone, so they jump.
Especially those who feel time is passing them by ... a sense of desperation.
On these sites it's easy to be whoever you want to be or whoever the other person wants you to be.

I myself, would have to agree that a lot of people jump into relationships due to the fact that they dont want to be alone, nor do they really care who it is, as long as they feel loved and get affection.

What happens when we all work this way ..

Is we get more divorces.. and less people working on marriage..
the thing is...
When your on line .. and you thought u found the one.. get married.. then a year later leave them cause they werent "THE ONE" then they jump back on line and find a new man just as quick and do it over again..

The one bad thing about on line dating is that its just to easy to find a new relationship..
What people need to realize.. if all ur relationships arent working it.. it may be time for you to work on yourself..
a lot of the times its an inner issue that is stopping a relationship from being able to develooe fully..
I know this is all off topic..
But to me.. I think in real life and On the net .. Everyone jumps into relationships to quickly without clearly thinking .. Is this guy the one for me..

because they dont care.. if it doesnt work out .. the next week they'll find someone new..

We need to have more morals.. and higher standards of who we would put ourselves with
thanks

FatBrunette - I agree - so many jump because it's easy to jump - it's easier to bail on a marrage or relationship than to work thru the ups and downs. I used to be a jumper but now people have told me my standards are set to high, I've also been told I can spot dysfunctional a mile away

AND this is why I would be still single - I know the right guy will come along but it won't just be someone for the meantime.
My parents didn't teach me very much in the way of setting goals - going for the gold. It's taken me 40 years to know I deserve the best.

Brunette - SOme of us grow up way to soon and others never do, but what is grown up really?

I love me - I really do


Damn If I have to sort out all my personal issues I'm going to be 90 and shriveled

In the old folks home, hey you with the walker slow down so I can catch you........

Well I mean .. obviously in life.. Your always going to have lil issues come up.. But a lot of the times.. people have inner issues.. and by that I mean .. Havinbg low self esteem and not even knowing it..

was hurt as a child by a past situation that they dont even know is bothering them until someone makes them bring it up .. theres so much

I .. will admit.. And Im sure most of us have.. but I started seeing a shrink ..and chit i thought OHIP would have payed for it .. BUT ANYWAYS..

She has made me realize a lot about myself..and Hearing the words come out of my own mouth .. wow.. it really hits yah ..
and I think with only few weeks of going.. Im already a better person..and this.. will help me in my future problems.. when it coms to realtionships or whatever..
But Im not one to give up on what I want ..and ..

Well .. If your going to be with someone for the rest of your life.... and you feel ur really falling for someone.. Why rush???? Your going to be with them forever.. Take ur time.. get to know them ..

great advice - time for me to sign out..have a great night