I think I actually 'got' your sense of humour, which is a bit worrisome unto itself.
To answer your intended question...it's different for every woman, I would think. No different than it would be for men and the qualities or character traits they look for in women.
Personally, I prefer to be with someone who is funny and not serious most of the time, but is willing to show his sensitive side from time to time. But, that's just me.
IMO, being strong doesn't have to mean being insensitive. The two can co-habitate.
Everyone that crosses my path of life, romantic or otherwise, has something to offer and is different than any other. Every memory and experience makes my life better. In some twisted way, even the not-so-good memories have a purpose!
I see every person that has come into my life as different and neither better or worse than another. Just different.
Having said that, I can say from personal experience, that the toughest memories to store away properly are those where the break-up wasn't relationship based, but just life's circumstances. Again though, I wouldn't move on to another relationship until I was certain that those bags were unpacked and put away to prepare for the next voyage!
I can only speak for myself on this one as I'm sure everyone's experience is different. If I'm somewhere with someone new, I'm there because I've let go of the past. Letting go of the past though, doesn't mean letting go of memories - how do you forget someone who was special to you at some point in your life? They are engraved in my mind and are part of who I am in some way.
Every person that has been in my life has some special place and I'll never forget, but once I've moved on, it's with the hope that I'll create new memories with a new man, not relive the old ones! My experience with a new person will never be the same as with an ex in the past. He's a different person.
Truthfully, if I'm dancing cheek to cheek with a new guy and thinking of an ex, I probably shouldn't be with the new one. But, that's just me maybe? Would I freely share the memory everytime it pops into my head? Nope, that's just insensitive - if it's still that vivid a memory that I'd subject him to that, I'd probably suggest we go somewhere else instead!
I really appreciate what you've said. Question though: If we understand and can reason that the lies are to avoid rejection or to gain approval, should we tolerate them and still love unconditionally?
Just curious as to your thoughts as I've run into this a number of times!
My compassion and understanding has been tested to the max and I'd welcome some enlightenment cause I'm having trouble with it!
You are such a gem, Kelly!!! How so very sweet of you to think of those that will be alone! We're blessed to have people like you in this world!!
I'm trying to find a soup kitchen to volunteer at - Christmas Eve is our big night and Christmas Day is pretty low key, so I thought I would do a good turn for all the blessings I have in my life!!
It's been great coming back and re-connecting with old friends, but this seems too much work!!!!! And apparently, there are a whole bunch of new features since I was here that make it more work! Men don't seem to read profiles before they IM or send emails. I thought my profile was pretty clear that I've met someone and am committed to that relationship - this doesn't mean IM me and see if I'd be willing to cheat and meet someone closer to home!!!!!!! What part wasn't clear?
Time for me to go again - please please stay in touch to those of you that have my email addy and to those that don't, I wish you tons of luck!
I will check in once in a while...just to visit with the gang...wish I had more time to spare!!!! Good luck to all of you!! May you all meet your prince or princess!
Lefffffffffffty!! I heard that you'd left for a while and now you're back! Awesome! I just came back and it seems like this is a full time job, although it's nice to hear from the old regulars! I was very under the weather today and finally feel well enough to stop in for a bit!
Bad news though! My lips are reserved for a very special man that I met through here 7 months ago! But, I'd be happy to plant a friendly one on your cheek!!
There ya go!
I haven't heard from you in ages so I'm hoping that all's good with your dental surgeries (hopefully you're done now!) and life in general!
Write me sometime and fill me in on all your dating trials and tribulations!
Thank you Willow, Mur and Jo! It's been nice to reconnect with some old friends!
And NO Jo, no one gets 'details' !! No matter where life takes us, this one's very special to me! And yes, I'm off 'da market'! Have been for 7 months now! And thank you for all your kind words!
I've come back for a visit...and have found an awful lot of new people and a few precious ones that are gone and will be missed!! Where's Kelly gone to???????? Met a great guy from here (went to meet him in Spain a few weeks ago and had a great time)! Still working on that and committed to it, but I've missed all of you and the weather has turned cold here in Ontario, so I'm baaaaaaaack for a visit! Please stop by and say hello!
Hmmm...that's an interesting question! Genereally, I am always happy and count my blessings for what I have, rather than chase the things I don't have. I am blessed with all the things I need in life...a wonderful family and group of friends...a full fridge and a full life...I am waiting to be blessed with true love, but that will come in time.
My career - I work to live, not the other way around, so I'm happy 'cause my bills are paid and well on the way to meeting my financial goals!
Physical - I want to lose 10 lbs before I have to pull out the summer clothes, which is a work in progress at the gym, but I'm generally happy with that and the rest of my physical being - except for the darned spring allergies!
Education - Don't have enough time to read anymore, so that's a bit of a pain! Education is an on-going lifetime process!
Emotionally and mentally - My heart's at another place! When my heart will get to there is the only question now. Waiting for fate to show it's hand on that front!
I'm not sure if it's a mid-life crisis or just another part of growing as a person, but it seems that a number of my friends and I are certainly processing where life goes from here. In my case, I have cared for others since I was 15 and still continue to do so at 44. I wonder when I will reach that point in my life, where I only have to think of what's best for me. Once our children become independent, then our parents are elderly and need to have us there for them. It does seem endless and overwhelming some days!
And that's my two cents....when I figure it out, I'll let you know! lol
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What part wasn't clear? 
to all!
RE: What do you like/dislike most about CNN?
Hmmm...like most? The documentaries, but the delicious Anderson Cooper is a close second!Dislike most? I don't usually stick around long enough to analyze it. I usually use the power of the remote instead!
Just my two cents!