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when i first joined this site a few days ago, i struggled to find a pic that was a good representation of how i look. the one i posted is a bit more than a year old but it mostly looks like me, with some minor differences. very few pics of me even exist and i don't have my own camera or anybody who will take more for me, so i have to make do with what i have available to post.
how important are pics really? my sister has been a member of a different dating site for a couple years. she's beautiful but never ever under any circumstances posts her pics there. i helped her create her profile and everything we said was accurate and expressed well. i tried to do the same with my own, same style with different ideas of course, and included pics. right from her very first pictureless day on that other site, she started receiving messages and chat invitations and went on many dates. some good, some not so good, but she has so many men to choose from it's not even funny.
with that being said, i'm wondering if there's any benefit at all to having my pic posted here. i know there are things in my profile that might scare some men away (maybe my pic is one of them?) but i believe it's best to be honest so they have an idea who i really am. i also know i tend to get a bit wordy, so no need to tell me that.
any thoughts or suggestions? my skin is pretty thick, so i can take it, but please try to be kind in your honesty if you can. no guarantee i will change anything but i'd sure appreciate your opinions.
thanks to anyone who replies.