Why are older women so reluctant to date a younger guy? ( Archived) (37)

This is quite amusing. I actually had this discussion with a friend very recently.

1)Maturity
2)Not wanting to be a sugar momma

there are two....I'm sure there can be more added.I know everybody is not the same but all other things being equal it just seems to me that older men are more on the same page as I am.

You really should not classify all women. I know I am not the only woman who is attracted to younger men. But I am not looking to date. Why do you want to date someone older?

I'm not, I think if you look closely you'll see the use of the pronoun 'I'

Im not...bring them on...YUMMIE!!!

me either but you seem to be looking for a fling which is not forme.good luck. there are many yahoo groups that may help.

Well, my personal opinion, as a woman in my forties, why I don't prefer men who are too much younger than me is because realistically, I feel intimidated in a way. It's not because of insecurity or anything like that, it's because I feel that it's not fair in a way to a man who is younger (five years or more). Having children is one of my stronger issues with it being that I am at the age where it could be extremely risky. Therefore having children with me would almost be out of the question, unless adoption is an alternative. Also, since I've been "around the block" so to speak prefer someone who is on the same level, close to my age along with being intellectually, financially and emotionally about the same as myself. I'm not speaking for everyone, just myself and I certainly do realize that some younger men would fit into the same catagory as I am, but I guess that intimidation just kind of turns me off to the idea.

Just my personal opinion.

Love,
Ann

My most recent relationship was with a 31-year-old. Having an 8-year age difference never really seemed like an issue to us, only to her friends. We did have a lot in common that age has nothing to do with, so I'm sure it helped. I always try to make people around me laugh, and I guess women like to laugh. If you can be funny without being immature I guess it helps. I don't know any magic spell to make older women like you, but if you can give details about the roadblocks that make the woman not interested, maybe I can be of help.

I'm not the same person i was when i was younger or even 5yrs ago. I've changed how i view things, what i'm looking for in a relationship and even how i look at myself. I need someone who's had the same chance to evolve and i think that comes with age and experience. I also can't have anymore kids and i'm not even sure i would want to start over again with that by adopting either. If a man already has young children, that's fine and i would love them as my own but i guess that's what makes it doable to me...they wouldn't be my own.