:) just something that rose up... I think maybe because experiencing reading some posts... the negativity of them.. and noticing the negativity of certain ones.. about themselves. Nobody should feel that they are "not good enough"... and worse, be bitter or hateful about it. It may ruin their chances of really meeting the person for them.
I think it's important to realize what we are really here for... for most of us it's to find our soulmate. And of course I'm not leaving out those wonderful people that stay here because of friendship, or inspiration, or to give advice... but still, the main reason for most of us, would be to find a soulmate. In order to do that, we need to be OURSELVES.. not pretending we are what we're not because in the end, truth comes out. I've had an experience which I found myself married to someone who pretended to be someone he was not before we were married... and you all know what the result of that turned out to be. Drawing the "flies with honey" will only eventually get the fly stuck and kill it. And to go a little deeper, insecurity about ourselves, baggage and all the other problems we might have had in past relationships I feel is best to LEARN from them, to make us better, wiser... NOT BITTER... that will only hurt the chances of finding the right one for us... or even possibly losing the chance of meeting the woman or man because of these insecurities or the bitterness that is in a wierd way turned against as an "attack" just to make that person feel "better" somehow. It's not healthy to do that. Don't feel someone is NOT "good enough" or not attracted to you before giving them the chance to show they might be... every new relationship is a new beginning. Meeting someone new is a new beginning. Making a friend is a new beginning... Best to put all hurts behind or at least try to make a positive out of a negative.
Just something I'm feeling.. and wanted to voice it out.
Well, sometimes it's not our fault... If I'm in a 20 mile radius of a "bad boy", they seem to come to me as though I'm some kind of magnet. They start out "good boys" but end up "bad boys".. Just my luck.
For ZD and cute... I know, it's a touchy subject.. There are some aspects I agree with and some I don't when it comes to rules of the church. I'm doing this not because I feel guilt, or anything like that... It's not easy to explain... the best way I can think of is one reason is that I'm doing it so I don't inhibit myself or the person I plan to marry. Another reason even though it may cater to the laws of "man", but it makes me feel more comfortable to abide by the law even though I may not agree with all of it... because sometimes there are laws that we don't agree with, but we still abide by. Bottom line I'm doing it because it's just the right thing to do for myself... to feel completely "free". Does that kind of make sense?
In 3 weeks time, I'll be going to the Arch Diocese in Trenton to start the process of getting an enullment so if I plan to remarry, I can marry in a church. My ex "deserted" us so I fall into that catagory, but I know it will be a grueling process... I need all the prayers I can get..
LOLOLOL!!! LMAO AGAIN!!! What a fun night!! Oh goodness.. help me.. my stomach hurting...
Wave, Oh my dear.. please.. you've helped so many here with their profiles.. but just one suggestion... I think I had one of those hats when I was about 6 in furry white.. please ditch the hat.. please... Only saying it cause I love ya.. please ditch the hats please!!!
LMAO!! boy am I in a wierd mood tonite.. or should I say this morning...what you said was funny and I don't think you meant any harm.. I'm still laughing though.
But really, if you really read it you can get the grasp of it...
Are you new..? Hi Welcome to the site :) I believe Wave once said a while ago that he made friends here...and he shows a lot of compassion for the woman he's involved, so it's not like he's looking for someone else. So does "Chance" who I believe is married, but she stays on too...and we'd be lost without her.. she's a beautiful poet and inspires us all.. :) some people stay on because they make friends, some like to help by giving advice and some just enjoy reading the the threads and the posts... And like I mentioned, he posted that bod pic after persuading me to post the pic I have to help make me feel better, more comfortable... I'm glad I have the confidence to keep it up... and I see no reason for him to take his off.. if his girlfriend doesn't mind.. why not.
<Eageleyes wrote "learn to appreciate the little things in life and be grateful at what you have than what you dont."
Well said :^)>
I agree too.. :)
Since she didn't get a chance to add... could "more or better" be the "bond" and the closeness and the growth of loving and understanding.. is what makes it "more or better"? Maybe that's it? Well, when she gets a chance to answer we'll see... but that's what I feel coming from it.
By the way, nice to meet you Ken'... I've been here a while, just haven't signed on for some weeks...
Let them get angry... hopefully some will realize that maybe instead of sitting on the couch, drinking a six pack and wolfing down a 5 pound bag of potato chips isn't going to make them feel better about themselves than if they take a jog around the block a couple of times... Maybe hopefully they'll realize the point is not only looking more attractive, but FEELING more attractive about themselves is the key...
I'm tongue tied with my typing this early morn... Wave did not have his bod picture up b4 he helped me... he did it after knowing I felt uncomfortable with mine.. and did it then.. so again.. don't blame him.... Besides, what's with it... theres a lot of beauty in this world, and one is the human body... Thanks wave for giving me a confidence boost when I needed it.
Adding on... by the way Wave.. I remember when you were helping me with my profile you suggested that I use the picture I have here now, but I wrote that I was embarrassed to post my main profile picture in a bikini... and you "upped" my confidence there's nothing to be ashamed of so d I did it... along with being the sweetheart that you are, you posted your "bod" picture and wrote me back to let me know that you did something similar to make me feel more comfortable... soooo, any jealous guys, it's partially my fault too..you can blame me too... okay?
Take it as a grain of salt Wave, really... I have to admit though, you are definitely one of a kind... LOL! And don't forget guys, he's helped a lot of guys here with their profiles to attract MORE women... along with helping women with their profiles.. And it's okay to be confident... he helped me with my own... You can be confident without being self centered.
Just adding on.. another member posted something under a thread similar to what you posted...
she wrote:
<"Yes...been lied to by my ex, been lied to by family...it ain't great! Makes it hard to trust others, when those around you and closest to you can't even be honest!" >
It's a tough barrier to break with an already broken heart...
You're right to say there is no real easy answer.. so we ask eachother, look for answers, have the hope of meeting the "right" one and the wisdom to sort out the wrong ones... I guess it's one of those questions that can be answered only by the one that we meet who is truly right for us...
I know.. the bigger the church, the smaller you may seem to feel... In your church, they have prayer groups, etc you may want to look into, where there's a smaller group of people that join once a week or more.
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Just to voice something I'm feeling right now...
I know.. not taking it to heart is the point... :)