Maybe it's just in the name.. :) That's why the question came up from Wikked... Another suggestion for "Wikked", maybe change your scren name... Something less "intimidating" maybe.. something like "Cinderellaseeksglassslipper" something like that... whatcha think? Is that less intimidating.. giggle or maybe that's even more so.. hell, I don't knos.. I need to get to bed!
After we reach a certain age, especially in our 30's and 40's.. I think EVERYONE has some baggage... and those that claim they don't are either fooling themselves or lying about it. I know I have my share, the trick is finding a way to empty those suitcases or at least throwing them into the river which is not an easy task. You're still young, but at 22, you're living a complicated life already just by having 2 kids... When I was your age, I had my own apartment, living on my own and having a blast. I can't imagine how difficult it could be for you.. someone so young.. and you probably heard it before, but I'll repeat it.. no matter how complicated your life is, no matter how you deal with your own physical ailment... you STILL have your whole life ahead of you... never forget that. And any woman who can't see or understand the responsibilities you carry when it comes to your kids or financial wise is definitely NOT worth it for YOU. You are admirable.. even more so because you are so young. Truly admirable... and that shouldn't be "ignored" except by those foolish enough to do so. As far as never meeting a woman here.. any young woman would be priveledged to meet someone like you. And I mean that sincerely. I would go for you myself, if I wasn't old enough to be your mother! LOL..
But why would it make a man lose confidence? The way I look at it, the only way a woman can make a man lose confidence is by hurting their confidence... personally. Not by the way they look. For example, I wouldn't classify myself as being absolutely stunning.. but I've been told that I am very attractive. I also am able to tell a man or even another woman that they are very attractive without feeling intimidated. Maybe it's just me, I'm different.. I'm philosophical. I did meet someone not too long ago on another dating site before I joined this site who I felt very attracted to. He was a GREAT guy, GREAT personality, kind, thoughtful.. loves kids.. absolutely perfect for me...and was very attractive.. but he slowly started pulling away from me. I didn't know why and I was very hurt by it. He lived in OH and we met personally twice. And the times we did meet, we had a ball together. When I finally got the truth out of him.. with LOTS of gentle persuation, I found that it had a lot to do with the fact that he has MD (Muscular Dystrophy) I knew he had this disability, I seen his disability, and it didn't MATTER to me.. but he pulled away anyway. I cried, he cried... but he kept on telling me he wasn't ready.. but I knew it was more than that because throughout our short relationship, he constantly brought up his disability himself. And no matter how much I tried to convince him that it didn't matter... it just wouldn't sink in. We still talk, but he just wants to be friends and nothing more. I got hurt a bit with him feeling that way, but I'm moving on. I just hope one day he realizes his qualities overcomes his disability.
Well, she has a good point, some men or woman can feel intimidated just by looks... Sometimes it could be a shame... most people would think an attractive person wouldn't have a problem just meeting somebody anywhere.. but sometimes it's not as easy as it may seem, otherwise we wouldn't be here, right? Some of the more attractive men or women can be the most lonlinest because everybody seems to think that they are already taken or they are just not "good" enough for them.
Just keep in mind, you're an attractive woman...And you seem to be very sweet... you'll find someone.. really.. but in the meantime what you might want to think of doing is just take the day to PAMPER yourself. I'm not saying to go "CRAZY"... but as a woman, I know sometimes a little pampering can make us feel better without being over-materialistic. Put a little money aside and buy yourself a nice dress, sweater, shoes, whatever, etc. Go ta a salon, get your hair done.. if you have enough, get a "Glamour shot" taken.. that's always a lot of fun and you can try on different outfits they have and looks. Then afterwards, go out with a group of SINGLE friends.. (try to stay away from couples, too depressing) Also, some counties hold special affairs for Valentines' day like parties, social events that are very inexpensive to attend. Look in the paper or if you get one of those "booklets" on County activities... Just an idea from someone in the same boat as you are... Love, Ann
As I posted once before, wrapping goodie bags for my kid's class.. although I do look forward to those cute valentines kids make for their moms in school... I saved every one since mine started pre-school.
Be supportive in their endeavors.. no matter how small or big they are.. Be a good listener. Point out their good qualities. Be there for them when they need it and let them know that I am there for them.
Really, thanks for correcting me, didn't know that... but there's got to be a way somehow by "disengaging" missiles, whether thru top secret technologies, etc. There's got to be a way. I mean after all, we are not dealing with the most "advanced" type of terrorist related countries... It's just sometimes we are the last to know what these strageties are.
To be honest... I don't have a fear of our country being attacked by a nuclear strike.. Our defense strategy would prevent that from happening.. especially now that our security level is souped up to a level where we would immediately counteract by destroying any incoming nuclear missles on course towards our country, right in space and preventing a catastrophe not only for our country, but other countries as well... What I do have a concern though is any more terrorists attacks from those that are still either entering our country, or have been residing within our country for years just waiting for a command. It's just not jet planes that can cause severe damage, but think about biological warfare.. poisoning water supplies, (Remember that "Light bulb" filled with a deady gas) gang-related warfare, MORE bombs (like what happened first in the Twin Towers, hostages taken and such, MORE hijackings not only restricted to planes.. but trains, etc. The computer and the vast Internet age as good as it is can also be very accessible to terrorists and such.. That can cause huge problems. I still believe that our country is not 100 percent secure within it's OWN boundaries.. but then again.. you can't live your life paranoid about everything. I think we are still learning and just not used to the "shock" of anyone actually getting the nerve to attack our country considering it to be one of the most powerful in the world, that we slacked on security a bit.
I don't know about anyone else, but I'm here looking for my soul mate.. As far as looking for someone "better" than my ex, well that to me is not the issue. My ex was never really my soul-mate. I look back at the mistakes I made, yes, MY mistake in my marriage to him... I overlooked because of ignorance on my part. So it's not really an issue of looking for someone "better", but someone who is really meant for me. Has nothing to do with looks, or money, or prestige. But everything to do with the man's ability to love and to accept love in return, to be compatible, to be friends with and simply put... to be happy and content with eachother. The other day I went food shopping and after I packed my groceries in the car, sat down at the wheel. Looking out of my windshield, I noticed an old couple... sweet old couple smiling at eachother and helping eachother put groceries away in their trunk. It literally made me cry. That's what I'm looking for... Someone to grow old with.
Yes, bring it back! But you know what, it's even nicer when someone actually posts a picture too! Don't know why some just can't do that. I get a lot of those "silhouettes". Maybe some don't know how to do it, I did get replies when I asked them for their photo that they didn't know how to upload, etc. Maybe simple instruction added to this site on your end would help on how to do it. So I'm taking the liberty for those that may not be familiar, instructions how to upload a photo as an example. This is long, I know, but I'm trying in my own words to simplify it as best I can, so if the administrators here think it's a good idea, try to shorten my more extended version lol!
If you have a digital camera have someone take a nice closeup shot of you. If you can't find someone, take one in a mirror with the camera and flash set lower on your body so the flash doesn't show on the mirror but your face shows clearly. A few "test" shots might have to be taken to get the picture right. In my profile I did that with one of my pics, of course it's not 100 percent perfect, but at least it's recent and you can see me clearly in the one with me holding a lit candle which was a good idea. Not only does it sort of conceal the flash, it hides the camera. Good tip for those taking their photo in a mirror. Then use the connecting cord to upload the picture to your computer following the camera instructions. OR, if you don't have a digital camera, take a recent photo of yourself using a reg 35 mm camera and have it developed onto a disc instead of regular photos. OR,take a photo and scan it if you have a scanner following the scanners' instructions. Since there are quite a few people who have Windows XP as an OS.. these are instructions for Windows XP:
Note: Where to find the pictures you uploaded: When you upload photos, most automatically go into your "My Pictures" folder or it will "prompt" you if you want to put the upload in your "My Pictures" folder.. This normally goes for both pictures that are on a disc, pictures on digital cameras or pictures that are scanned. When you receive the prompt to put pictures in your "My Pictures" folder, click "Yes". (It's simpler for beginners to keep photos in that folder) Which then can be found after being uploaded, by clicking on the "start" icon (bottom left corner of yr screen)then click on "My Pictures". The picture(s) should show in that folder.
Now to upload to this site, or most sites have the same procedure:
Type of format:
Stick to the .jpg (.jpeg) format which most sites accepts. You can check the format by going into your "My Pictures" folder, RIGHT click on the picture you would like to post, when the menu pops up, click on "Properties". The upper top of the screen should tell you what format the picture is. Most are in .jpg format.. if not.. then you may have to change it. That's a little more difficult for beginners... but fortunately for you, most uploaded pictures are automatically taken as a ".Jpeg" format.
To upload your photo(s) to this site and/or most sites:
1. Go up to the main bar on top.. "Edit my Profile"
2. At screen, click on "Add/Edit photos" (here it's on the left top corner of the screen.
3. At screen you will find a section asking you to upload a folder with a "Browse" icon. Click on "Browse"
4. At drop down menu, click on "My Documents".
5. At menu, click on "My Pictures"
6. Find and click on the picture you want to show on this site (or any site).
7. The file should show in the box next to the "Browse" option.
8. Then click on "Add".
9. Your photo is now uploaded to this site.
If you want to add more pictures, follow steps 3 to 8 until your maximum is reached.
10. Wait a day or two for the administrators here to approve your photos.
I don't have to remind you, no obscene stuff...so don't try it.. the administrators here will not post it.
Time...Although 3 years is quite long. How about joining a support group in your area? There are plenty out there that help those in your situation. When I was seperated, I did just that and not only did it do wonders, I also made some great friends that have gone through or still going through exactly what I went through. You don't have to be seperated, divorced or widowed.. it can be over a lost relationship with a girlfriend also.
If you asked me that 12 years ago, before I was married, I would say no... not because I think it's not right, it's because I'm shy when it comes to that. But now, with this new internet dating thing, why not? The worst thing that can happen to you is that men don't respond or they write back that they don't have an interest, etc. Now, approaching someone in person, that's a different story... I'm still kind of shy when it comes to that. So dating sites certainly makes it easier for some of us shy people. Anyways, unfortunately sometimes the WRONG ones approach me persoanally! :)
To be 100 percent totally honest? Even though I'm not smiling fully in 2 of my pics... A nice smile on a guy does spark my interest... as far as being fake, well, didn't us gals once put vasaline on our teeth when we walked down that (unfortunate for some of us) aisle? I know I did. My face felt frozen in that position.
Just wanted to let you know... I love your poetry.. you have a true talent. Ever consider putting your words into song? There are sites looking for great poets like yourself to be used as lyrics.
I was told by somebody recently that during the movie "Wizard of Oz" there is a real ghost that appears in one part I think in one of windows of the houses where the Tin Man comes to life after being oiled..and he does the dance "Wish I had a heart" you'll see a ghostly shape. I have the movie but didn't get a chance to check it out...If any of you do.. let me know.
It's computer love... I often say "Love", "Love ya" or "Lots of Love" at the end of emails, etc. Just something nice to say. It's not impossible I guess to fall in love with someone online after a very, very long constantly corresponding relationship... but if you look at it realistically... eventually you are going to have to meet in person. And BE together in person to really experience love fully. Love, :) Ann
LOL! Really? You poor dear... Wait a minute... everyone has a belly button... come on. You're joking right? Unless you're a clone.. it had to be "attached" somewhere. Well if it is true, don't feel bad.. my ex father-in-law had webbed feet like a frog.
That's a toughy and not easy to decide I guess... I think that should've been a part of the issue at the beginning of starting any new relationship. How far are you willing to go? To even start something with someone who lives far away. Some woman may be the ones to feel inclined to move, but they can't because they share joint custody of their children with their ex's. Of course, they don't want to give up their children, so then it's up to the guy. How far is he willing to go? Does he have children? It's a pity that a lot of people that we may be interested in or interested in us live out of state, etc. And most of us have kids, some of us, young ones, and for most of us, are mothers... sharing custody so we can't just pick up and leave as much as we want to...So I guess the bottom line for mom's with kids is to try to find someone close to home, or someone who doesn't have kids and/or is willing to move. So it's probably on the guy's part to move in order for it to work and I'm not being partial, just that's the most practical.
Now I got it... ugh.. now I know how my kid felt.. Feels like goldfish are swimming around in my stomach, pecking at the lining... I feel a little better than I did last nite.. It's my ex's weekend so he has Jeffrey, thank goodness. I threw up so hard, felt like my body turned inside out..yuck!
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RE: WHAT DOES THAT MEAN??!!
Maybe it's just in the name.. :) That's why the question came up from Wikked... Another suggestion for "Wikked", maybe change your scren name... Something less "intimidating" maybe.. something like "Cinderellaseeksglassslipper" something like that... whatcha think? Is that less intimidating.. giggle or maybe that's even more so.. hell, I don't knos.. I need to get to bed!