Unfortunately, there are some of us that THINK we know the person before we marry them... then all of a sudden when the vows finally come out.. Usually in situations when one first "draws the flies with honey"... When it comes to that time, the "innocent" one says "I Do"... and then find the other one should've really said "I Don't"...
If I was able physically, I would camcord making a movie the entire day with my 8 year old son... playing with him, spending every second doing things he enjoys doing, telling him over and over again how much I love him. I would tell him, how important it is to be kind to others and to do onto others as he would have done to him.. (which I do anyway, but I would really emphasize it more) I would share with him every beauty I see in this world, the simple things.. a tree, a flower, the sky and the clouds, go ta zoo, (again) and try to have him see the animals that live among us and how they are important to be cherished... then unfortunately... it will come to the time when I would tell him the truth, it can't be something you lie about.. that I may be going away, that I will die... but I will always still be with him, watching him from heaven. Bedtime coming close, I would lye down beside him, cuddling him until he falls asleep. Then for a brief moment... camcord the final hour.. telling everyone else that I love them. And to those that I might've hurt in the past, whether intentionally in the slightest way or unintentionally, that I'm sorry, and to please forgive me... And to those that hurt me, let them know I forgive them. Then I would say my final prayer, and then go "home".
Wow! That even made ME cry.. and I"m not even going to croak!!! Seriously, I have tears rolling down my face!
EVERY SINGLE NIGHT around 8:30 or so for about 20 mins... Lavender bubble bath, as hot as I can stand it... 2 candles lit on the bottom 2 edges of bathtub where my feet are.. (don't put one on edge near my head anymore since I once almost caught my hair on fire!)
I CHERISH this, it's the only small period time of total absolute peace and quiet I have to myself that is until my 8 year old casually wanders in even though his bedtime is 8:00 babbling about "turbine engines"-he's into racecars... Then it's time to come out.
OK, OK... I'll keep it on... Wave, thank you thank you...but you know what will make me feel better.. is if another FEMALE makes a suggestion on this ... so my fellow female companions... what do you think?... should I keep this one?
Thanks wave, but I feel kinda funny putting the one w/me on the horse only because I'm wearing a bikini as my primary photo... u know what I mean? Like I'm trying to flaunt myself or something. How about the one holding the candle instead...? What do you think?
I'm thinking about taking more shots of myself anyway. I'll have my neighbor take a picture of me instead of taking one of myself in the mirror.
Re: Flag 2: I realize that it's a man's nature to look at women... There's no HARM in a look... when he's alone or with his friends... And believe me when I tell you, I'm not the jealous type... but when you're sitting in a restaurant or whatever, with a date... who's trying to carry a conversation and you are not focusing on them, but looking at another woman's (ahem) whatever... and WORSE, being totally oblivious that your date NOTICES it... that is RUDE. On the flip side.. would you like to try to talk to a woman who shows very interest in what you have to say, because her attention is all of a sudden drawn to some handsome "Chippendale" hunk that just walked by, sat down nearby and starts salivating over him. Or worse, tells you she has to go "powder her nose" and winds up leaving with the handsome hunk... how would that make you feel? In my case, I wouldn't be hurt at all if a guy would do that to me... automatically I would think he's not worth it... u see?
Re: Flag 5: I'm not sure what you are trying to say.. emphasize more clearly.. Otherwise, if someone would tell me he doesn't want kids... would be an automatic walk out for me because I already HAVE an 8 year old... no use for any long term relationship right then and there.
Awww c'mon don't start that again... We ALL have problems like that.. don't take it personally... just keep on trying... Remember, you're kind of new here too. So am I. Don't forget, some of these people have been here much longer than we have and they're still looking.
It IS a great recipe... and soooo simple. I gots lots of compliments when I made them. Doesn't cost much either.. The most expensive of everything is a stainless steel double boiler which is about $20.00. The rest of the stuff you can find (besides the chips, shortening, etc) like the paper goods, tins.. etc you can pick up at a "Dollar" store . And as for the kids, it's a great way to get them to eat fruit... ! You can use orange slices, pineapple slices.. whatever you think of. They also have "peanut butter" flavored chips.. you can cover apple slices.. whatever. My kid loves that.
Dear, I know you posted a thread like this once before... You know what's a good idea... just an opinion... Instead of posting a thread on the board, search through the profiles here and send "flowers" and personal "emails" to the ones you might be interested in. Now keep in mind, you might not get responses to some at first, neither do I and I think I can speak for some more of us that don't get responses either. But don't take it personally and keep on trying. Really read the profiles to make sure they are compatible with you, not by just looking at pictures. It may also help to stick to those close to within the area you live in. Some women have problems with responding to those that live too far away. They may respond back just to be nice... but distance can be an issue to some.
I've also like to compliment you on the change of your attitude. I'm happy to see that you are becoming more positive about yourself! Just wanted to let you know I did notice that snd I think it's GREAT!
No laughing... I think that's CUTE!!! Unfortunately though she's one of the boss's here (one of the administrators)... don't know if she can fraternize with the customers... LOL!
Yes, only to God.. and for Catholics.. God is Jesus combined, sitting at the right hand of the Father. It's difficult to explain in short term... We classify God also as Jesus.
No Christian has the right to judge, force anyone, hurt anyone or try to pursuade anyone who doesn't want to be pursuaded. It just got me angry reading how someone can actually find themselves in danger just because their belief may be different from theirs.. Same goes for you. No Christian has a right to condemn just because you don't believe. That's your choice. And that doesn't make you any less of a person in doing so. If some do, then they have a LOT to learn, if you know what I mean.
Only got one so far. I received an email here from someone who was interested in me, (won't mention names) who was in his early thirties (he was attractive).. and I replied back that I was very flattered but I suggested that I may be too old for him, and I guess he took it offensively for some reason. I mean I definitely WAS very flattered and I was only thinking of HIM really..and was very sweet and courteous in my reply.. But he kind of replied back in a sarcastic way, don't remember his exact words because afterwards I just "deleted" him from my mailbox completely. He wrote something like "Do I have to SPELL it SLOWLY for you? That I don't give a crap about age? (Like I was some kind of idiot) That put a bad taste in my mouth. I replied back "You don't have to", then I "deleted" him.
There's nothing wrong with you... it just takes time. I see you are musically gifted and have a lot of qualities. There could be lots of reasons why some stop writing, I get that too.. Doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you.. One will come along and you'll just "click"... Be patient, you'll see.
Well, being a spiritual person myself, I will tell you something... FORCING someone to convert is WRONG... Whoever is doing that to you, may be confusing the whole concept of spreading Christianity using the wrong kind of methods, don't get me wrong, they probably mean well, but they are overstepping their boundary. Some don't understand the term of "brushing the dust from their sandals and walking away". One can try to point out aspects of it but it is up to YOU to decide what you want... If you don't want to convert, that's your choice. They then have to walk away, WITHOUT being judemental. The days of the Inquisition are OVER. Everyone has a choice to believe or not to believe.
<gods or invisible pink unicorns do you end the possible relationship based on that alone>
Well, one thing for sure, I don't believe in the part of the statement above, but I do believe in God, (not gods)
It's difficult question for someone like me to answer, because in my belief, I have no right to judge anyone. It's everyone's choice to believe in what they want to believe. But what I do believe in when it comes to a relationship... both have to have things in common. I don't believe in my own experience that opposites attract. So when it comes to me, I just don't think it would work out getting involved with someone who is an athiest. It wouldn't be something we would have in common.
For those of us females finding ourselves alone on Valentines day, some tips
PAMPER yourself! For most of us women we find a little pampering makes us feel better. No need to go overboard. Put a little money aside, buy yourself something that makes you feel beautiful. And if you can afford the expense go to one of those salons that offer Glamour Shots and have a portrait made. That can be loads of fun and it makes u feel great.
For chocolate lovers here is a very simple recipe on how to make chocolate covered strawberries. If you know how to boil water then you can probably make this:
What equipment you need beforehand
DOUBLE BOILER-use to melt chocolate Can be found at most Kitchen utensil stores, I think Target carries them
25-50/qty RED/PINK "FRIZZLE" TOOTHPICKS To insert into strawberries so they can be easily put into melted chocolate w/o getting chocolate on yr fingers.
LG BLOCK OF STYROFOAM-in most craft stores To insert the end of the toothpick in when strawberries are covered with the melted chocolate and can dry standing upright on the toothpick.
25-50/QTY PKG RED/PINK CANDY FOIL CUPS-To place the dried chocolate covered strawberries in sideways
LG COOKIE SHEET-or better, one of those cheap cookiesheet tins especially the kind that comes with a plastic cover so there are no "accidents" of strawberries falling out.
ROLL OF WAXED PAPER-To line the cookie sheet tin to keep any excess chocolate that drips over the foil cups from sticking the entire cup to the cookie sheet, DONT USE PAM SPRAY
25-50/RED/PINK SMALL PAPER PLATES
25-50/RED.PINK SMALL SQUARE NAPKINS
INGREDIENTS: 1-1/2 POUNDS OF SEMI-SWEET CHOCOLATE CHIPS-I find "chips" are easier to melt than whole bars
3 TABLESPOONS CRISCO SHORTENING-IMPORTANT NOT TO USE OIL, MARGARINE OR BUTTER) It comes in a can unrefrigerated usually in the supermarkets baking section.
1-1/2 POUNDS FRESH STRAWBERRIES WITH LEAVES WASHED/DRIED
DIRECTIONS:
Insert toothpicks into the leafy tops of each strawberry "frizzle" end outwards and place aside on a clean surface
In the double boiler-following the directions on the double boiler where to add the water on the bottom part of it, mix the chocolate chips and the shortening over a low flame. Melt the chocolate and shortening stirring occasionally just enough until it's smooth being careful not to burn the chocolate. Turn off the heat
Holding the frizzle end of the toothpick and the strawberry attached on the bottom, dip the strawberry into the chocolate mixture.
Turn the strawberry upside down and insert the frizzle end of the toothpick into styrofoam for the chocolate to cool.
Repeat ea strawberry
If you find the chocolate is getting too "hard" in the boiler, turn flame on low again for a minute to reheat chocolate.
Using the tin cookie sheet line the candy foil cups on top of the waxed paper, using a teaspoon dab a little of the melted chocolate in one cup then IMMEDIATELY put a chocolate covered strawberry sideways on top so it fits nicely with the frizzle part sticking sideways out.
THEN AFTERWARDS... Try to go out that night with SINGLE friends. (no couples, too depressing) Most regular night clubs or restaurants are probably booked up with reservations by now, but if you look in the paper, you might be able to find a "County" related social event that doesn't charge an admission fee, or charges very little and no need to make a reservation. Or check one of those "County brochures" you may get in the mail. Some even offer events on Valentines Day for only singles.. so you never know who you can meet. And if you can't find a single friend or friends to go with... gather up the nerver and go by yourself. Bringing a tray of those chocolate covered strawberries will probably attract some "new" friends around you. What could you lose? If you don't like it, just go home..
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RE: Back...with a vengeance
I'm new here, so I don't know of you... but welcome back anyway!Are you a good boy, or a bad boy? giggle