You know that's not a bad idea... but maybe more than "one" depending upon the areas... each Tri-state area CS members can set up for those that can't travel that far...
Can I tell you something to think about? Sometimes those have been hurt really bad, or even abused... in a wierd way can't help "missing" the person, even though he or she hurt us... because to a point it's a life we grew accustomed to, so accustomed that we might even think it's "normal". Insecurity, lonliness, loss of confidence, financial reason and kids can bring us down. Making us feel a loss. But what did you lose? Really? You've lost the hurt... didn't you? Now give yourself a chance to be happy. And I'm not talking out of the blue, I've been there too. My ex was an abusive, violent alcoholic and when he left I fell into a deep depression thinking I wasn't good enough, I didn't try enough, etc. I realized now it was HIM that wasn't good enough and it was HIM that didn't try enough.. Learned that it's better off to be with someone who makes you HAPPY. In the meantime, realize that he can't hurt you anymore...
For women, it's harder for some of us to move... some of us have kids and share joint custody with our ex's... so we can't move, unless we battle in court for full custody but even then the chances are slim and sometimes you have to put the kids on the stand, and most of us don't want to do that. Plus even though some of our ex husbands are total a**hole (not speaking for all) we still want our kids to have some kind of relationship with their fathers.. it's just right.
Welcome, yes people look at profiles... but there is a member here called "Waverider" and he's pretty good at helping "fix" profiles, :) nice guy too, but he's pretty straight forward too.
Since my seperation and divorce, it's been kinda hard what to do when it comes to making plans for my son's birthday, which is in August. Since not only my ex left, but took the "family" with him. I don't have family here, so I decided instead of throwing a party, etc.. I take my son away for a long weekend, etc. Last year we spent 5 days at the Jersey shore, this year I haven't decided what we'll do.. The last vacation I took before my ex left was to Disney world and it wasn't very pleasant... so I'm contemplating that.
Well, Honesty starts within yourself... If you can be honest with yourself, then it spreads out. In other words don't be ashamed of who you are, what beliefs you hold, etc. Everyone has faults, nobody is perfect, mistakes can be made, it's part of life. Hiding them or pretending you are what you are not is not being honest with yourself, so how can you be honest with others? Eventually that cover will be ripped off. Important to remember and realize others have faults too, don't be too quick to judge others. Make sure you know all the facts or try to put yourself in their shoes before jumping to conclusions. Think before saying something to make sure you are "accurate" about what you're saying, and not trying to "hide" your own faults.. if you know what I mean.
Jimmy Buffet... It was sooo much fun.. The tail gate party before: everybody dressed up in hula skirts including the guys!! lol! Hereing the whizz from battery operated blenders making Margarita , everyone sooooo friendly even most were soooo drunk!!! No fights, nothing violent.. everybody just into his type of reggea, kids were there in "splash pools" their parents brought, everyone wearing shark hats. It was just a lot of fun. The concert was GREAT... O'le Jimmy buffet on stage with bare feet. After the concert I went to one of the cops standing outside and put one of my Lei's on him and he smiled and said "I got got Leid' (Laid)" lol
Sometimes it's because we like to see who we are talking to, at least I do.. even with the ladies... nothing to do with how you look, etc... that don't matter! Again, it's just nice to "see" who we are talking to.
Human Interest: "Not Without My Daughter" Sally Fields Dramatized true story of an Amercian mother trying to escape Iran with her young daughter after being tricked by her Iranian decent husband to visit his family for a vacation in Iran only to find out he's turned her into a hostage and she's forced to live there. Great movie.
I think it truly describes me as the type of person I really am. My love of the outdoors, the beach, animals.. I owe a lot of gratitude to "Waverider" (he has a cute thread to help people with their profiles) who convinced me that just because I'm wearing a bikini, I'm not flaunting myself just being "natural".. wearing no makeup, my cross symbolizing I'm a Christian, and a big smile on my face.
Adding on... Mine has a problem with homework too. Most of it is because he already knows the work and gets bored and distracted. I have a constant battle with him every school day to do his homework right after he comes home from school. To keep him from "escaping", I actually put a lock on his bedroom door from the outside and lock his door with a key during "homework" time so he can't go into his room while he's doing his homework. I also put another lock on the back door from the inside so he can't play outside during homework time. This may seem barbaric to some, but it's the only way I can confine him to do his homework. Just another alternative to keep him sort of focused at the task with no other choice (or escape).
So another suggestion is that as SOON as your son comes home from school, demand that he does his homework right away... and if you have to go to the same extreme with locks on every "escape" entrance door that can only be opened with keys that you have will give him no choice but to sit at the table and do the work... It's not easy, there's a lot of whining, screaming "I hate Homework!!!" and it sometimes he's trapped into doing it for hours, literally, but that seems to be the only way he gets it done.
You know I do the same thing... and hate to tell you, it doesn't work with mine anymore... sigh. In the past I've tried reasoning, time outs (forget about the time outs, kid can't sit still) taking away priveledges, toys, etc.. even tried bribery.. didn't work.. the counseling IS helping..
I have a suggestion, but before I give it to you, I'll write a little bit about my own son so you get a feel of what I'm facing... I have an 8 year old son.. When he was 4, he was diagnosed with a "sensory disorder" which is different than "ADD". What brought me to realize that there was something wrong was that he started having problems trying new things, he was very stuck in his own set "schedule" and didn't like any kind of alteration in any way. He had problems with foods, and different textures of foods. He couldn't stay focused on one activity for more than 10 minutes at a time. He needed constant stimulation whether being physically or mentally. Because of this he learned to read at 3 by constantly pushing himself to get the stimulation. When he started pre-school, he was disruptive, couldn't sit still and I had constant phone calls from teachers. He talked back to teachers, got bored easily and pretended that he didn't know how to do the work when he actually did. He is now learning to "control" his behavior, but it is a slow process.
Now I'm not saying that your son has the same disorder, and I'm still kind of against putting "labels" on kids that are just hyper.. with all the "disorders" seem to be blowing up out of proportion nowadays, but it could be that he is distracted, has no interest, and simply just BORED. Doesn't mean that he has a lack of intelligence, it may be just the opposite. Same as mine. As far as summer school, I would make him go, but I would look into having him speak with a counselor to get to the bottom of what the real problem is. Most schools nowadays do have "after-school" counceling programs which are free and deal with problems like this that you might be interested in looking into. My son goes every Wednsday afternoon after school and it does help.
Maybe the right one didn't come along and you had some bad experiences... I'll rephrase myself from my previous post: some younger women or men even, may be more mature than most of the others that are much older than they are... it depends on their background, how they were raised, etc... so maybe age restrictions aren't necessary. I posted my own opinion according to my own experiences... it's not the person's age... it's the person's attitude about themselves. And how they should treat others. You made me think of my ex.. he's 43, going on 19... so it made me realize just now that I do agree with you to an extent, but then again, it's not the age, it's the attitude.
Depends on what age their at.. I would say not more than 2 years younger and no more than 5 years older. It's gotta be in the same era, otherwise we won't know what the heck wer're talking about.
Oh boy, that's a feat... well, ever heard of "Cheez whiz".. lol! Maybe it's not the healthiest thing to put on it, but that's the only way mine would eat 'em. Another thing you might want to do is mix small or chopped finely cooked vegetables in mashed potatoes... somewhat disguises the taste, like peas, etc. If that don't work, I make "ants on a log" (peanut butter spread inside groove on celery sticks with raisins sprinkled on top) Or substitue cheeze whiz with the peanut butter. Most kids also like cucumber slices. So if he doesn't like cooked, try uncooked, and load up on Cheez whiz.. lol.
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RE: So howabout that CS party?
You know that's not a bad idea... but maybe more than "one" depending upon the areas... each Tri-state area CS members can set up for those that can't travel that far...