absolute obstacle to life is to find the pure and true form of love. (13)

Im starting to believe the absolute obstacle to life is to find the pure and true form of love. The question keeps going around and around in my head. What is so wrong with me that i can not find someone.
each of us is a unique and a individual personal beauty radiated in variouse ways.
The process of opening and self-revelation is what psychologists call the dynamics of human personality.
We know that if the bud of a flower is injured by hostile forces, like an unseasonal frost, it to will no open. So too a human who is without the warms encouragement of love Im stating to think it is true "you're nobody till somebody loves you."
only a person who has experienced love is capable of growing.
It is a frightening but true reality of human life, that, by loving me or refusing to love me, others hold the potential of my maturity in their hands. Most of us, driven by our own needs and voids.

I find it strangd that we humans search our whole lives 4 love as though it were the final treasure the solemn purpose of people in movies and magazines.
Yet when it comes to your door with calm eyes to deliver itself people realize it alone is not enough.

Sweetie, it all comes down to really loving yourself, believing that you are worthy of the best. You might be saying that you are worthy, but deep down, do you truely believe that you are? The hurt that we have faced in past relationships leave invisible scars that we dont even realise are there and thus creates invisible brick walls against accepting the love that we deserve. You are a beautiful human being with your own unique gifts....love yourself unconditionally as you would want others to and you will attract in another exactly what you have become.
The world is your oyster, know and believe that you deserve the best!
Cheers Julique

One thing i have learnt being a bit older, is the more of anything makes you wiser.. if you are not a quick learner.. then you will make the mistakes until you do learn. Maturity is one of those that is wisdom learnt from mistakes. You cannot make people love you, but you see people time and time again grasp on to love from someone else as if it is their right.. love should be given freely and of ones own choosing, it should not be compulsory.. but it is true that for one to love oneself then puts that love out into the universe and for it to be recipricated.. if you are negative about yourself and life in general than this is what will be returned in differing sources. So if you can tread lightly in the world and make good true decisions then hopefull the same will find you.

I'm not talking about possessive love? that would be loving with your Ego and ego loves to think, and thinks to love, but never really loves. Love is the union of the self with the Real Self, and only that love is really fulfilling. All other love is born out of the mind mated with ego. Mind connected with ego can only create problems, and all love born out of the mind is always problematic.

i know that Love is not selfish, it does not have limitations placed upon it but
Our soul mate is the Supreme Self, the Supreme Being. Our true lover and beloved is not fashioned of flesh and bones. To know our True Love we need to be in Love. Being in love has nothing to do with being in our feelings and emotions. Feelings and emotions are fluctuations of the mind. The presence of love is not proved by mental waves that come and go.

Can someone please translate all this into something that a male can understand!

Bourbon....well in my words (my belief system not yours or anyone elses hehehehehe) it simply means that what you are is what you attract! ching ching

This whole tread has lead to "The Secret" again. They way you are and what you believe is what you will attract to yourself.

Why do people search for this absolute love. Love is what you make of it and what you put into it. I have met peoples that say "Only if someone would love me" and others "I only want to real thing" then there is the ones that "I want what they had in that movie".

Only if someone would love me:
Only if you would love yourself and not base your worth on someone loving you. I am not looking to satisfy someones self worth as i know who i am and what i am.

I only want the real thing:
What is the real thing? Is it not what you make of it? Love is not this magical force that just appears (thats lust) Love starts with an attraction on some level (mental would be best, well for me) and then it proceeds along a long road. Love is not the end result its the journey.

I want what they had in that movie:
Next!! If someone is going to base the success of a relationship and the journey of love on something fabricated on TV or on the big screen i say wake up and smell the coffee. Get a dose or reality and learn what love can be.

We are what we are and we are where we are, not by chance but by choice. If someone needs love to show them who they are, maybe their that far lost that they will never find this Perfect love.

We all at some point in life need to accept the fact that we are who we are by the choices that we have made.

Love will come to those who attract it by there attitude to life and not to those that sit back and complain what they don't have.

Thanks JULIQUE.... but how does that relate to the thread title?

Give me a friend with benefits any day...this concept of Love just doesn't exist much any more - we all born in the wrong era....