why do guys go for looks rather personality? (119)
I bow to your superior knowledge 
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That's not greed lorraine, merely good commom sense
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cause their guys
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not all guys go for looks over personality. the ones that do just want to boost their egos and have a pretty trophy on their arm.
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so thats why guys dont ask me out
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Oh, come on! It may not seem fair to give physical attraction so much weight, but if life was fair, I wouldn't be here.
Physical chemistry is important in any relationship and in most sentient species on this planet. Why does the prettiest male bird get the female?
But physical chemistry is very subjective - it can be just in a smile or facial features attached to, as they like to say out here' "a few extra pounds". I can go out with a beautiful woman and find out later her personality leaves much to be desired, but it's her beauty that first attracts me. I can't say it works the other way - that you discover that someone with a nice personality is physically attractive, unless there is prolonged exposure and interaction which makes their physical short attributes less important. My dear departed wife was not a beautiful woman. She had had acne problems early in her life. She was not big chested, didn't have luxurious hair, but she wasn't unpleasing to look at either. She had legs that went all the way up, was super intelligent and articulate, would give a stranger the shirt off her back, and a smile that lit up a room. So there is lee way.
What upsets me are women and men who are overweight (more than a few extra pounds) or who are either lying about their age, have not aged gracefully, or have posted a photo from 10 years ago. Why do you think so few post photos out here? Because, like it or not, they know this attraction issue to be true. I'm not a great looking guy, but I try to be and look the best I can with what I've got. The fact that I have not received much email out here bears this out. But I must be honest and straight forward about myself if I am to have any hope at all.
Love these forums.
Physical chemistry is important in any relationship and in most sentient species on this planet. Why does the prettiest male bird get the female?
But physical chemistry is very subjective - it can be just in a smile or facial features attached to, as they like to say out here' "a few extra pounds". I can go out with a beautiful woman and find out later her personality leaves much to be desired, but it's her beauty that first attracts me. I can't say it works the other way - that you discover that someone with a nice personality is physically attractive, unless there is prolonged exposure and interaction which makes their physical short attributes less important. My dear departed wife was not a beautiful woman. She had had acne problems early in her life. She was not big chested, didn't have luxurious hair, but she wasn't unpleasing to look at either. She had legs that went all the way up, was super intelligent and articulate, would give a stranger the shirt off her back, and a smile that lit up a room. So there is lee way.
What upsets me are women and men who are overweight (more than a few extra pounds) or who are either lying about their age, have not aged gracefully, or have posted a photo from 10 years ago. Why do you think so few post photos out here? Because, like it or not, they know this attraction issue to be true. I'm not a great looking guy, but I try to be and look the best I can with what I've got. The fact that I have not received much email out here bears this out. But I must be honest and straight forward about myself if I am to have any hope at all.
Love these forums.
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Sadly, this is true for some, especially around here. Still, rather than the sweeping generalization, how about SOME guys go for looks?
Appearance is the initial draw (I'd like to think for BOTH genders), but personality and intellect get the dotted line signed.
Appearance is the initial draw (I'd like to think for BOTH genders), but personality and intellect get the dotted line signed.
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Thanks Robert...the voice of reason...
Will they ever learn that we are creatures of habit, in addition, to being stereotyped and conditioned by our gender?
Will they ever learn that we are creatures of habit, in addition, to being stereotyped and conditioned by our gender?
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Not all women think that.
I will hold my hand up and say that i have to find a man appealing to the eye. No matter how wonderful his personality is, i don't find him physically attractive then i wouldn't be able to date him. Yes his personality also plays a huge part in this and all looks and no personality wouldn't work, it has to be a mix of both.
I don't think this makes me vain...i just couldn't sleep with a man that was butt ugly.
JMO
I will hold my hand up and say that i have to find a man appealing to the eye. No matter how wonderful his personality is, i don't find him physically attractive then i wouldn't be able to date him. Yes his personality also plays a huge part in this and all looks and no personality wouldn't work, it has to be a mix of both.
I don't think this makes me vain...i just couldn't sleep with a man that was butt ugly.
JMO
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Hey Geoff, good to see ya...
Excuse me, I gotta find a shallow trophy wife. Too bad all the pics don't show chests...
Excuse me, I gotta find a shallow trophy wife. Too bad all the pics don't show chests...
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Hey John Markus, I´m an oversized female, but I don´t sit down complaining. I bike for an hour everyday, I also swim everyday, walk everyday, clean everyday and also run after my son.
I understand what you later said in a post about some people not helping what size they are, but come on mate, give some of us a break!!!!
I understand what you later said in a post about some people not helping what size they are, but come on mate, give some of us a break!!!!
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Hiya....no chance of some stick on bear fur I guess...drive's 'em wild.....
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yes...we dont want to be with a "funny ugly" person....and be making love.....and yell out...*hands covering eyes*..."baby..tell me another joke....and turn that lamp out quick..".....lol
I know i said personaility was what i went for...and its true...i stand by that...i actually should have said that the person doesnt have to be the hottest thing since sliced bread.....nice...but not drop dead gorgeous.... 
I know i said personaility was what i went for...and its true...i stand by that...i actually should have said that the person doesnt have to be the hottest thing since sliced bread.....nice...but not drop dead gorgeous....
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Not vain.
Just more honest than the rest...corr...wish I wuz a few years younger...
Just more honest than the rest...corr...wish I wuz a few years younger...
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It's like a partners looks gets your attention but the personality keeps your attention
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I just don't see the point in lying about who you are.
I am me and happy and comfortable with who i am and what i think.
My thoughts..we all have them, but it's how honest you are with your thoughts.
Thanks paddy
I am me and happy and comfortable with who i am and what i think.
My thoughts..we all have them, but it's how honest you are with your thoughts.
Thanks paddy
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I would sit with Lovaboy and Belle26 on this, looks and personality compliment each other.
Looks are important, but that's a very personal thing. For a relationship, a dazzler is not that high on my agenda, but an attractive (to me) looking woman is.
I would hold my hand up and say that I would be one of the worst for checking out the 'eye candy', but there's quite a difference between that and a relationship.
I would also admit that weight is an issue. It pleases me to see that the fashion industry is making ripples regarding super-slim models and I would like that extended throughout advertising. I don't look for a perfect figured woman for a relationship, it's unrealistic and unfair and who am I to judge, but there are sunconscious criteria.
When I look around at some of the women, I just can't understand it. Not everybody is fortunate to be able to eat as they wish and never worry about weight, but when I see overweight women walking around in tight leggings and a belly hanging over the top, I cringe. I am blessed to be one of the fortunate one's, especially as I love my food, but if I was not, then I would be more careful, eat accordingly and exercise to keep in better shape. It's not vanity, it's common sense. If it was purely vanity, I would be working out to build up my upper body, but I'm OK how I am, not perfect, but then I don't feel the need to strive for that.
So, my opinion is looks do matter within reason, but there has to be a personality to compliment it for a relationship.
Good luck.
Looks are important, but that's a very personal thing. For a relationship, a dazzler is not that high on my agenda, but an attractive (to me) looking woman is.
I would hold my hand up and say that I would be one of the worst for checking out the 'eye candy', but there's quite a difference between that and a relationship.
I would also admit that weight is an issue. It pleases me to see that the fashion industry is making ripples regarding super-slim models and I would like that extended throughout advertising. I don't look for a perfect figured woman for a relationship, it's unrealistic and unfair and who am I to judge, but there are sunconscious criteria.
When I look around at some of the women, I just can't understand it. Not everybody is fortunate to be able to eat as they wish and never worry about weight, but when I see overweight women walking around in tight leggings and a belly hanging over the top, I cringe. I am blessed to be one of the fortunate one's, especially as I love my food, but if I was not, then I would be more careful, eat accordingly and exercise to keep in better shape. It's not vanity, it's common sense. If it was purely vanity, I would be working out to build up my upper body, but I'm OK how I am, not perfect, but then I don't feel the need to strive for that.
So, my opinion is looks do matter within reason, but there has to be a personality to compliment it for a relationship.
Good luck.
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Exactly...but yet it is still said that personality is first and foremost?
Like you said...if you are not physically attracted to him/her...it ain't going to happen...you don't make love to their personality..it's them as a whole.
Like you said...if you are not physically attracted to him/her...it ain't going to happen...you don't make love to their personality..it's them as a whole.
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are you saying you think i am funny ugly?
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One the contrary...they know how to please women but it is only short-lived. I guess "Once Bitten Twice Shy" applys here..lol