i don't get this can some one please explain? ( Archived) (25)

No fears wishbone it is not just guys who go through that feeling it is us also and I think dad summed it up well because I often feel that way. I have lost hope though.

I think everyone comes to a place where they feel like they will never find that special someone. I think it happens when we are not looking so hard and letting others look at who we are.

do you think if i re worded my profile it would help?
i'm not changing it, i just think after rereading it, i came across as a man with an attitude?

Of course you can reword it , Wishbone , if you think that's what it needs. Some women like guys with an attitude , if that's what you are. Others like sensitive , others like macho, .... There's a woman somewhere for all of us. (I'm not calling you those things , just examples. )

Whatever you put , make it truthful. Because if you are ever able to meet someone from online in person , they would be disappointed not to get what you represented.

Best of luck , my friend.

Hey bro I think alot of guys go thru the same thing as you stated, I am sure the women do as well.
I did as you, my profile is still the same, but I pretty much gave up e-mailing anyone anymore. My thing now is hang here in the forums be who I am, have fun get good laughs and forget the rest, its not worth it.
I really don't have big hope getting hooked up here, not worried about it at all, I live in a pretty happening place, I just need to go out find places to be and I will meet someone. This place has become a play place for me, if something does happen thats fine but I decided thats not why I am here anymore, at first it was and then I discovered the forums. I have a blast here, only problem is, it consumes you, time just flys by, I had to shut my computer down tonight to get my chores done and now its sleep time yet here I am, just had to see the funny replies I get.
Enjoy and have fun, maybe good things will be more likely to happen for you and then again maybe you'll just have fun.
Good luck.
LS

Wishbone, I do think that honesty here is the best policy. I also think your not alone in the way that you feel. I have changed my profile a few times. Just because I don't drink, does not mean I would judge someone who does. I would prefer someone who did not drink themselves but them again it would depend. If someone was a social drinker and could handle there drinking, did not spend alot of money on it, nor drank daily, or had mood swings, i can't say that I would not date soemone that did drink. I honestly don't know. After being married for so long I do feel that I am not cut out for this. Don't change who you are unless it's a problem....

i reworded my profile, but it says the same thing......and the burning question i guess would be "do i allow alcohol to rule me?" my answer is no, i have a job that requires me to be sober and undefiled for 2 weeks at a time (this occurs every 6 weeks)
my chores and my life are tended too before i drink.....i only drink beer.
the last time i was married, i gave up drinking unless my wife had proposed to "have a few drinks with company" (i guess thats social) no pitty on me, my entire family parties like the world will end tomorrow, i guess thats where i get it............but don't blame them please, i had a choice to be who i am.

dont take me wrong but ask some of your friends what may put people off

a few times after i started going out with my mates after i split with the ex i was not having much success with the ladies so i asked a close girl friend what it was putting people off

she said to me it is the way im dressed i was
"to clean and smartly dressed " for what i am

she explained that i look like the type of guy that would work on a building site rather than in a office
i said well what do i do
she suggested old worn style jeans and a tshirt with chunky hiking style boots and maby not shaving that day


next time i was out i did as she said
what a diffrence plus i was more relaxed
and i got pulled by a woman i never said a word to her all night next thing you know im snogging her in bits on the sofa
now i know what my hook is with the ladies i aint changing it for nothing

i found out, there are over 60% of us (singles) who feel this way...that we will never find some one

I personally wouldn't worry about re-wording or changing anything. That is like changing to be with someone, not worth it in the end. Just keep your head up and spirits high(as hard as it might seem at times). You'll be fine , and remember as long as you stick to your beliefs and morals everything else will fall into place.


Whiteknight out!!!!!