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hi i am from guyana been there. you have to give him up he is giving you up you will still love him he will always be in your heart but you do have to move on do not keep hurting your self your love was more stronger but he did not keep holding on if you need a friend for a little talk you could leave me a line but try you will be hurting for a while but....

did you ever think of the pain you gave the wife.would you like somebody to that behind your back. think of other people before yourself, you wouldnt have this pain now. probably would of found somebody better in four years.

we fell in love wrong !, you did he is just having trouble giving up his slice on the side in a good book this is what should happen to the the other woman , now we need for his wife to kick him to the side. sorry but you cant find good by doing wrong and what you did was wrong that being said move on so his wife and kids can have peace

Dear Lisa,

The moment you'd found out he was a "married" man you should have "cut him loose." Its one thing "not" knowing a man is married and getting involved in a relationship with him. Then there is another thing knowing he's married and allowing yourself to fall in love with him.

Some men a very deceptive and can play the game well! Unfortunately, it's very difficult sometimes when you've just started to get to know a man to figure out if he's married or not! In time they will be signs and you'll know.

Like I've said the moment you knew he was married you should have cut him loose! Food for thought, most married men never really leave their significant others. He's not the only guy out there for you. They are many good, honest, decent, unmarried men out there if and when you choose to let another man into your heart that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck in your search and stay away from men who are married.

Hi, I read your message and my heart is breaking for you. I know EXACTLY how you feel sweetie. I wish I could say time will heal your wounds, but it doesn't. Is there a way you can still be friends? If not try and put him out of your mind. If that doesn't work get a band-aid. What I mean is find a distraction, just do you. It will be easier for you in the long run if you heal yourself first and then see who else is out there. Good luck. Hope you find some inner peace.

Dear Student4life,

Why would you say, "Is there a way you can still be friends?" Would you have wanted to still be friends with this guy? This girl needs this man to be "completely" out of her life. Completely!

If she chooses to still be friends with this guy she'll find herself heart broken again. She needs to move on with her life. This guy isn't the only man out there for her and honestly speaking, "What is so great being in a relationship with a guy who cheats on his wife?" Both she and his wife are getting a raw deal. She needs to realize that she deserves better! In time the right guy will come along if she is ready and open to giving him a chance.

Hi,Lisa: I'm really sorry. Don't waste time thinking of what you could have done. The worst happened and it's over. Reach out to all the friends you've got who can share this with you and help you thru it. Try being a little bit more careful next time that the guy isn't married. Also,try for someone a bit closer to your own age. If you're soulmates,why isn't he getting a divorce? Try to move on. If you wish,you can write me thru this site,and I will always answer you. You're not alone. Take care~Steve(steve43)

don't make him feel he is so important ,because he is not ,you are worth more than you think

Wake up!!!! He never ever had any intentions of leaveing his wife. 2 women to screw with when ever he wants,? nice deal. However, Guess what your problem really is,? He doesnt care for or about you. He is tired of you and has someone else fresh and new all lined up to take your place. Now its just how does he get rid of you without "YOU" telling his wife. How do I know,? because my so I thought was my woman did this to me. Its a game and has lots of players. You have always been just a back burner for him.
Sincerly single forever Stephen